Stupid reason to break up?

It'd be very difficult to not feel like you are just "filling the gap" that the ex has left behind if she is confiding in the ex more than you.

Tbh, if she can't see it from your side, and can't see how it makes you uncomfortable, find someone else.
 
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I guess the lack of trust comes from when I bedded her when her ex was half way round the world. Maybe the ex is looking for some sort of revenge...

I promise myself I will not get myself into this situation again. A relationship is really built on trust.
 
[TW]Fox;20726234 said:
Personally I find the notion that people cannot and should not be friends with ex's a bit odd really. She clearly liked the guy for several years - they decided they were not right together so ended it but why shouldnt he remain a friend? You dont have to sever all ties with somebody when you move on, you should have enough trust in her to not be worried about this.

agreed.

don't end it, just talk to her!

edit: missed the update.
 
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So your girlfriend is a ****? Congratulations. Been there, done that etc...

Most of my girlfriends have been in relationships when I slept with them and ohh how I was surprised when they cheated on me.

Finally found a girl who is single (well, not for long ;)) and she's just overall a much much much better person than those that I've come across in the past.

Moral of the story.... get rid.
 
Asking for relationship advice on this forum usually brings out the most incredibly irrational and paranoid views on women. From most responses on here, you'd think that every woman was just waiting for an opportunity to cheat on you and that the only way to prevent this is to 'man-up' and tell her she either caters to your every paranoid demand, or you kick her to the kerb.

It would appear that she's chosen to be in a relationship with the OP and to be friends with her ex. Unless she has done something to make him think that she wants to be more than just friends with her ex, then the OP should have nothing to worry about.

Sure she might get back together with her ex, just like she might leave you for a random guy she meets somewhere down the line. Only you know your girlfriend well enough to know if you trust her not to do either of the above.

If you're looking to end an otherwise good relationship, simply because your girlfriend still confides in her ex, then I think you need to ask yourself if she's actually done anything to deserve this mistrust. Sure you might choose to trust someone who then lets you down, but don't let a paranoid fear, or irrational jealousy be what determines your decision. Based on some of the views, there's a lot of insecure people on these forums, who'd rather run early, than stick with something good and risk getting hurt. Only you know whether you are prepared to trust your girlfriend, whereas some people here wouldn't trust a girl who once had a conversation with another man.

Although your post is quite rational the fact she is confiding in her ex is reason enough to be highly suspicious, no way would I put up with it.
 
Although your post is quite rational the fact she is confiding in her ex is reason enough to be highly suspicious, no way would I put up with it.

Maybe she's just getting an unbiased 2nd opinion on stuff.

or, she feels guilty about cheating on him and wants him back. who knows:p
 
So your girlfriend is a ****? Congratulations. Been there, done that etc...

Most of my girlfriends have been in relationships when I slept with them and ohh how I was surprised when they cheated on me.

Finally found a girl who is single (well, not for long ;)) and she's just overall a much much much better person than those that I've come across in the past.

Moral of the story.... get rid.
How I love a juicy bit of karma nom nom nom. :)
 
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