Father's Day

khevolution said:
I'm not technically a father but i have been look after my GF little boy since he was about 6 months, he is now 3. wasnt expecting anything today, but to my surprise, i got a card and a pressie from him today, im proper chuffed!!!
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He might not be your flesh and blood but you sounds lot like a father to me.
 
I didn't do Fathers' Day cards in my class this year because
a) I've got a couple of children who don't know who their dad is, have never met them,
b) I've got children whose parents are divorced and don't see their dad much any more and
c) one of my children's dad died last year and he still gets upset sometimes.

I know that you might think it's not fair for those who do live with dad and have a secure family life but they will all have done things for dad at home anyway, I didn't want to cause upset to the children in my class who would be left out of the activity.

All of the children in my class have a mum who's around so I did do Mothers' Day cards. You just have to know your class.

It might be the same case in your child's (children's?) school OP.
 
vicisthebest said:
I didn't do Fathers' Day cards in my class this year because
a) I've got a couple of children who don't know who their dad is, have never met them,
b) I've got children whose parents are divorced and don't see their dad much any more and
c) one of my children's dad died last year and he still gets upset sometimes.

I know that you might think it's not fair for those who do live with dad and have a secure family life but they will all have done things for dad at home anyway, I didn't want to cause upset to the children in my class who would be left out of the activity.

All of the children in my class have a mum who's around so I did do Mothers' Day cards. You just have to know your class.

It might be the same case in your child's (children's?) school OP.
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Sounds like double standards to me...what is that teaching children....mothers matter, but fathers don't?

If a child doesn't have a father or mother then simply make a card for their remaining parent or guardians........they needn't be left put of the activity at all.

Or simply apply the same rule to both, and do not do the activity at all, for Mothers or Fathers.
 
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Castiel said:
Sounds like double standards to me...what is that teaching children....mothers matter, but fathers don't?

If a child doesn't have a father or mother then simply make a card for their remaining parent or guardians........they needn't be left put of the activity at all.
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So I am to make one of the children in my class cry thinking about his dead dad?

Why is it teaching them that dads don't matter?
 
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Castiel said:
Speak for yourself.
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I can't I'm not a dad. Just going by the experience of most dads i know. My own would rather i didn't waste my money on an overpriced bit of cardboard with a message in it. He'd be much happier if i just spent the afternoon with him chatting and having lunch. But then i do that most weekends anyway.
 
vicisthebest said:
So I am to make one of the children in my class cry thinking about his dead dad?

Why is it teaching them that dad's don't matter?
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So you conduct your class in such a way that no-one mentions or brings up their fathers or fatherhood at all....ever.

Like I said, if you really feel that making Fathers day cards is detrimental to the class as a whole then that should equally be applied to Mothers day also as you stated, they would all have done something at home anyway......otherwise you are at risk of teaching the children that there is a difference in worth of each parent...regardless of the individual proclivities of the children themselves.

Do you not think that Children are a lot more resilient than you think and that the child may just surprise you.....especially given that the child will have been exposed to the fact it's fathers day in the media, the playground and most likely at home........for example a friend of mine takes her son each Fathers day to his Dads grave with a handmade card and he writes what he did at school and what he is doing in the afternoon and reads it to his Dad.....this doesn't upset him, he looks forward to talking to his Dad on these days......
 
Conscript said:
I can't I'm not a dad. Just going by the experience of most dads i know. My own would rather i didn't waste my money on an overpriced bit of cardboard with a message in it. He'd be much happier if i just spent the afternoon with him chatting and having lunch. But then i do that most weekends anyway.
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So he does care about Fathers Day...just not the commercial aspect of it....
 
Conscript said:
No. He appreciates what I do regardless of Fathers Day. I dont need to reserve my appreciation for my dad to one day a year, which is why he isnt particularly bothered by it.
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I doubt that he actually feels that way......not that he doesn't appreciate what you do or what you mean to him on a daily basis..but I suspect he would be disappointed if you simply didn't bother to see him on Fathers Day......
 
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Castiel said:
Then don't do either...or make the activity about the primary caregiver in the child's life, be it a father, mother, step father, uncle or whatever......
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Mrs Dimple has just said that some classes at her school do a 'Special Persons' day but not her class because most of the kids don't even know their own names.
 
I agree with those people saying you should do it anyway. Heck, if I don't have a father, I would still love cutting, colouring etc. Do it for your mother instead of father. Do her a thank you card.
 
Got a fathers day card from my son on Friday (which they all made in class). Was very well made and you could see my son had spent a lot of time/effort on it - Was lovely & loads better than the ones people buy in shops.

As for kids making Mothers day cards - yet failing to do anything for fathers day :rolleyes:

Again, double standards come to mind. Why so much emphasis on mums/females these days ? It's bad enough that men are being sidelined / forgotten about when the parents split - without them being marginalised when they do work to keep a family together (and I'm damn sure it doesn't happen in any other country)
 
Fathers Day tends to be on (as is the case today) or around my birthday so me and my Dad just tend to buy each other a few pints.
 
vicisthebest said:
I didn't do Fathers' Day cards in my class this year because
a) I've got a couple of children who don't know who their dad is, have never met them,
b) I've got children whose parents are divorced and don't see their dad much any more and
c) one of my children's dad died last year and he still gets upset sometimes.

I know that you might think it's not fair for those who do live with dad and have a secure family life but they will all have done things for dad at home anyway, I didn't want to cause upset to the children in my class who would be left out of the activity.

All of the children in my class have a mum who's around so I did do Mothers' Day cards. You just have to know your class.

It might be the same case in your child's (children's?) school OP.
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Typical useless teachers.
 
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