Ever so slightly angry right now!

scratch said:
I'd love to, but unfortuntely it's not an option financially. We could only afford the place by combining our incomes.
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Then count yourself EXTREMELY lucky that she decided to show her true colours before you committed to it, walking out and leaving you in a financial mess.
 
Haggisman said:
Then count yourself EXTREMELY lucky that she decided to show her true colours before you committed to it, walking out and leaving you in a financial mess.
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Very true, but to give her her dues, she's opened up and told me she's not happy with situation before we moved in together, which must have been very hard knowing it would break my heart. As much as I don't like it, she gets some respect from me for being brave enough to do that.
 
scratch said:
Very true, but to give her her dues, she's opened up and told me she's not happy with situation before we moved in together, which must have been very hard knowing it would break my heart. As much as I don't like it, she gets some respect from me for being brave enough to do that.
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but why wait til lit got there?

I mean surely you'd just say as you're looking at houses "oh i don't like this one" rather than "yes this is lovely out of all the houses i've seen i like this one" <wait till purchase about to be made> "I hate that house i want a different one"


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Tefal said:
but why wait til lit got there?

I mean surely you'd just say as you're looking at houses "oh i don't like this one" rather than "yes this is lovely out of all the houses i've seen i like this one" <wait till purchase about to be made> "I hate that house i want a different one"


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Looking back I don't think I've mentioned that we'd re-visited the house the week before to measure up and just remind ourselves of how it looked. It was very dark that day and as the house is west-facing it was even darker inside the house. We both agreed that it was very dark in there, but it was one of those things that I was willing to live with because the rest of the house was perfect.

It also didn't help that we were shown around the house by the current tenants, who from what we could tell were in the process of splitting up. Of course that doesn't bother me, but the gf is sensitive to wierd stuff like that..maybe it gave her bad vibes?!
 
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She's as cunning as a fox!

Of course she is going to suggest to moving into her flat, because you would say no. This way she can keep banging the other guy who she is happily receiving a ram rod from when ever you are at your place.
 
scratch said:
Very true, but to give her her dues, she's opened up and told me she's not happy with situation before we moved in together, which must have been very hard knowing it would break my heart. As much as I don't like it, she gets some respect from me for being brave enough to do that.
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In hindsight, were there any subtle hints that she maybe didn't like the new house as much as she was letting on, possibly because you liked it?

If there were than maybe it is a case of 'womens logic' and that she just doesn't really like the house, however your relationship is ok.

On the other hand, if she's backpedalled from genuinely liking the house then I'd be worried about moving into her flat.....doesn't bode well regarding the relationship in my view.
 
In my past relationships i've always let my other half choose the house/flat. My only requirements are either a garage or an allocated parking space for my car. I then leave her to pick the various houses/flats etc she likes and I would usually end up being the one who has to phone up and arrange a day of looking around (one appointment after another).

Then when we looked round places, she would usually be looking at "how lovely the place is" and i'm looking at what it would be like to live in day-to-day, ergonomics basically, and then the technical stuff like mould, heating type, can it get cable/broadband etc.

None of those worries for a while now though, having just bought my own house.
 
Tefal said:
but why wait til lit got there?

I mean surely you'd just say as you're looking at houses "oh i don't like this one" rather than "yes this is lovely out of all the houses i've seen i like this one" <wait till purchase about to be made> "I hate that house i want a different one"


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Have you ever house/flat hunted? It's not that simple.
 
alx said:
In hindsight, were there any subtle hints that she maybe didn't like the new house as much as she was letting on, possibly because you liked it?

If there were than maybe it is a case of 'womens logic' and that she just doesn't really like the house, however your relationship is ok.

On the other hand, if she's backpedalled from genuinely liking the house then I'd be worried about moving into her flat.....doesn't bode well regarding the relationship in my view.
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Up until viewing the house a second time everything seemed fine; obviously she was nervous, but that's to be expected..she's never moved in with anybody before. She'd even sent me an MSPaint drawing of the front of the house which she spent an hour on..this was a few days before the second viewing so everything must have been fine up to that point!
 
toshj said:
I'd be more concerned that you had no contact from her for a few days based on her not liking a house... seems very dramatic.
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This is exactly what I was thinking and what would be making me ever slightly so... ok ok I'll stop.

That should have been a 30 min conversation, not a post on OcUK and 3 days of slient treatment.

This alone shouts volumes to me. Move in with her?? You couldn't trust her knowing her own mind as far as you could throw her...

Sorry bud :(
 
Although I do sympathise with the OP, I do worry about the 'advice' often handed out by some people here and their opinions of people they have never met and have only heard about from a single source. I'm amazed some of you can even hold down your own relationships!
 
Situation sounds familiar. I broke up (read: she broke up with me) with my girlfriend of 18 months in July, a week before we moved into our new 2 bed student apartment. She was 100% committed to the relationship, and was always telling me how happy she was etc. Breakup was very sudden and unexpected.

Meh, atleast I'm enjoying being single now, and totally making the most of it.
 
Mat said:
Although I do sympathise with the OP, I do worry about the 'advice' often handed out by some people here and their opinions of people they have never met and have only heard about from a single source. I'm amazed some of you can even hold down your own relationships!
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Welcome to GD! Where a user has to pick out golden nuggets from pieces of poo. :D

I wouldn't have it any other way. :cool:
 
Osprey said:
She was 100% committed to the relationship, and was always telling me how happy she was etc. Breakup was very sudden and unexpected.
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And you haven't worked out what caused the breakup?

Man that would eat me up inside after being together 18 months, unless ofcourse I didn't care.
 
Mat said:
Although I do sympathise with the OP, I do worry about the 'advice' often handed out by some people here and their opinions of people they have never met and have only heard about from a single source. I'm amazed some of you can even hold down your own relationships!
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Got to agree, seems a lot of the posters haven't yet figured out just quite how evil and vicious a lot of women really are :(

naefeart said:
Man that would eat me up inside after being together 18 months, unless ofcourse I didn't care.
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That's why they do it, calculated to hurt as much as possible ;)
 
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