The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

I'm sure there is a lot of advise in here, but I am thinking of creating a new thread, since this and pretty much all the posts in here are talking about how things are going wrong. Would be nice for people to post how they think things should be done to have a healthy relationship. Things they do etc.
 
How do you lot deal with an ex, who after making moves towards you and trying to get with you (which I rejected) getting with someone right in front of you on purpose? It's getting a bit ridiculous now. I was doing a set at a mutual friend's place,

you stop the cd, get on the mic and say ''big round of applause to my ex is now snogging someone else''. then drop a 190bpm techno monster.
 
Another Relationship Thread

Was dumped on Friday night she says she had too much stress with work and life, she needed to a new direction as her life is going nowhere, she says she still misses me but its the end. I guess I'm not part of that equation, I guess January is the month when women leave men, been with her for 3 years.

So went out Saturday night meet up with a few people drink chat etc... and now going on a date later on tonight, also have contacted an old flame to meet up on Thursday for a bit of hows your father.
Just wondering if this may be a bit soon, but I thought that hey if I'm going to be dumped I should start to find another woman.
 
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Jump on the good foot and do the bad thing. Move on. You don't sound overly upset about your ex, more just concerned it's too soon? It's not. Best of luck! Think of OCUK when you're doing the deed.
 
As with all the above, do what you need to do. But remember, you're likely to have a "rebound" or two before you find someone you truly care about again.

But with said rebounds, just make sure they know where they stand. The last thing you want to do is cause others upset as well!
 
Was dumped on Friday night she says she had too much stress with work and life, she needed to a new direction as her life is going nowhere, she says she still misses me but its the end. I guess I'm not part of that equation, I guess January is the month when women leave men, been with her for 3 years.



So went out Saturday night meet up with a few people drink chat etc... and now going on a date later on tonight, also have contacted an old flame to meet up on Thursday for a bit of hows your father.
Just wondering if this may be a bit soon, but I thought that hey if I'm going to be dumped I should start to find another woman.

What i bolded was a lie. She obviosly just wanted out.

I say this because if she was telling the truth she wouldn't have gone out on the pull and started seeing old bf's for some fun time... she would in fact be concentrating on work and looking forward to future life.

You must not have meant much to her in the end... otherwise she wouldnt have lied so Obviously
 
What i bolded was a lie. She obviosly just wanted out.

I say this because if she was telling the truth she wouldn't have gone out on the pull and started seeing old bf's for some fun time... she would in fact be concentrating on work and looking forward to future life.

You must not have meant much to her in the end... otherwise she wouldnt have lied so Obviously

I think you've misread.

The almost immediate galavanting was done by the OP. No mention of what she's been up to since.
 
But, a lot has happened and been discussed, and I'm meeting this other guy, who also had no idea about me.


What a complete **** up. She didn't have the courage or decency to end it.


I feel sorry in some ways for her, as she was afraid of hurting someones feelings and hoped it would just 'fizzle out'. But if that was the case, why was she still seeing him right up until the last day we hung out.

I really don't think I will ever trust her again.

Obviously it's over! But part of me knows she's never going to make this mistake again, she's made a huge **** up, something I have done in the past too.

But that **** up meant I gave this my all. So I know whoever she meets next will probably get her best.

I just wish I could be that person meeting her next, and be able to trust her.

Why are you meeting the other guy? To compare notes?

I have experience of women who like to pretend it's all alright when it's obviously not, as well as them acting like I'm a jealous **** who has trust issues. A one time ****-up... well, that might be forgivable under the right circumstances. This sounds like something different, i.e. a devious person who can't be trusted.
 
Well, fair enough. It sounds to me like she knew full well what she was doing and basically played you (sorry to sound harsh). Better to walk away IMO, but I'll admit it's easier said than done.
 
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