The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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Hurtin' for a squirtin'
lol I really don't understand why some women do things like this. Either they're totally abstracted from reality or they have a spitefully low opinion of you for the lolz.
I can almost hear the conversation:
Her:
"Hey baby, I missed you so much; these last few months apart have really shown me how much I love you and what a big mistake it was for us to split up can we get back together?"
(notice how it goes from her leaving you to 'us' splitting up)
You:
Oh, hey, it's you... Well, come to think of it, knowing some other guy has been stirring your porridge for the last several months has really shown me how much feeling I have for you too....."
....long silence....
lol really? I mean she asked for you to get back together? You missed out on a great opportunity to be one of those *******s women always talk about; Should have got back together, shagged her a few times, then dumped her when the novelty has worn off. Looking at it pragmatically, it's no more than some people deserve. 
I agree with cutting all contact with an ex at least for a while. I very occasionally speak with an ex if I'm ever on msn and its fine between us. Also just had an ex from 4 years ago add me to FB. He thinks he's different now, he's not but there are absolutely no feelings there whatsoever.
It is extremely difficult though when a loved one becomes your best friend and you split
I know they say time is a healer but its hard when there are things you want to tell that person and can't anymore.
It is extremely difficult though when a loved one becomes your best friend and you split
I know they say time is a healer but its hard when there are things you want to tell that person and can't anymore.
I hope you made her feel like **** for pulling a stunt like that.No offence but as others above me have said how many calls did you get inside those 6 months
Women really are retards at times, or do they think we are retards? You should send her a card making it clear that she just lost two people instead of one.
Karma is a bitch well played sir
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That's awesome
You should txt her back saying "you've had a think about the situation and you'd like to meet up"
Then go round to hers, take a **** in her back and just leave with out saying a word!
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From December :
Well, so whats happened in 2 months ?
Went to London for a weekend, went to Bath for a spa day, spent loads of time together, still get on really well. Whats the problem ?
Just dont "feel it" at all, my gut instinct is still saying no to all this. I dont feel like we are "together". She is still quite distant (with affection or comments".
She goes up to London once a week for a few days, she's been in London for just over a week and i cant say ive really missed her. I feel like such a ****.
Im picking her up from the station tonight, think im going to have to do the deed and say i cant do this anymore. Ive never done this before, she'll be excited to see me but im not overly bothered. I need to do it though, but how the how do you do it without dropping the famous line 'its not you, its me' ?
In short :
Met a girl on a night out (2 weeks ago), had a few smooches and dances (nothing more, just exchanged numbers). Met a few days later for a drink, went to the cinema the other day and we have text eachother everyday since. I sent her flowers the other day and she was chuffed as nuts, it was her first bunch ever (bless her
We get on well, we have a laugh and I enjoy her company and we are going late night shopping this Thursday.
So what's the problem ?
I'm not quite sure where I stand with her, as in she has her cards very close to her chest. She isn't giving anything away (although I'm sure I'm missing the point). She hasn't mentioned she "likes me" or similar, to be fair though I haven't asked. I wear my heart on my sleeve and let people know what I think. I know we are all different.
The other thing is the age gap, I'm 30 and she is 22. I have a nearly 6 year old son, I can't stop thinking that this could be (and probably is) a complete waste of time. I know I need to go with the flow and chill out, I'm pretty sure I'm taking this a bit seriously ( I suppose having 2 previous relationships and getting stitched up doesn't help).
Are we dating ? Are we chilling ? God I am sooooo out of touch with this lol.
I suspect I'm jumping the gun a bit, I need to maybe embrace this, relax and see what happens.
Well, so whats happened in 2 months ?
Went to London for a weekend, went to Bath for a spa day, spent loads of time together, still get on really well. Whats the problem ?
Just dont "feel it" at all, my gut instinct is still saying no to all this. I dont feel like we are "together". She is still quite distant (with affection or comments".
She goes up to London once a week for a few days, she's been in London for just over a week and i cant say ive really missed her. I feel like such a ****.
Im picking her up from the station tonight, think im going to have to do the deed and say i cant do this anymore. Ive never done this before, she'll be excited to see me but im not overly bothered. I need to do it though, but how the how do you do it without dropping the famous line 'its not you, its me' ?
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Well - I could do with some internet hugs.
After 20 years together and a three year old girl between us, my wife has decided that the grass might be greener with some-one else :/
I discovered some texts on her phone the other day (not snooping - I had no idea - I was trying to free up some memory on it for her) that were very unpleasant/distressing to read.
She is currently staying with some mutual friends (who have been great) whilst we try and sort things out.
God - it hurts so much She wants to come back, but how can I look at her again? The 20 years of trust has been undone in an instant. I feel useless and pathetic.
Meh - sorry for venting - just need lots of hugs at the moment.
After 20 years together and a three year old girl between us, my wife has decided that the grass might be greener with some-one else :/
I discovered some texts on her phone the other day (not snooping - I had no idea - I was trying to free up some memory on it for her) that were very unpleasant/distressing to read.
She is currently staying with some mutual friends (who have been great) whilst we try and sort things out.
God - it hurts so much
She wants to come back, but how can I look at her again? The 20 years of trust has been undone in an instant. I feel useless and pathetic.Meh - sorry for venting - just need lots of hugs at the moment.
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20 years? Ouch!! Must hurt bad :/
I do understand your trust issues too tbh.
Hear what he has to say about it. Not saying she can be excused, but some times, people deserve a second chance (not saying she deserves it, but 20 years means that she feels something for you. if not, she would be long gone.)
EDIT: Just read the post under this. Seems like the texts contained much more than I thought. Maybe a second chance might not be the right move.
I do understand your trust issues too tbh.
Hear what he has to say about it. Not saying she can be excused, but some times, people deserve a second chance (not saying she deserves it, but 20 years means that she feels something for you. if not, she would be long gone.)
EDIT: Just read the post under this. Seems like the texts contained much more than I thought. Maybe a second chance might not be the right move.
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Thanks for the hugs.
The texts were very sexually explicit, describing what had happened in the past and what was going to happen next time they met up.
She's said she is so sorry, and 'it just happened'
I don't know what's going to happen now - my main concern is for our daughter (who is with me at home at the moment).
Life really sucks sometimes
Yeah - she is full of remorse, but I can't even look at her, let alone talk to her at the moment.
I guess like you say she must feel something or she would have properly gone. Meh - I don't know :/
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No need to speak to her today. Give yourself a few days. If you really have something to say, maybe you can text, or call.
Don't do rash decisions. Think everything out.