The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

[TrixiBuG]

So I broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago, and she's gone and lodged a false allegation against me to the police. I really don't know why I bother anymore...

W the actual F??

What has she said?!?

******* be crazy!!!!

 

[Musty Pie]

Assault



Nobody believes her anyway. Her story doesn't make sense and is fabricated nonsense.

Still though, hard enough dealing with a break up without being worried about the police kicking your door down as well.

Stick to your guns mate, the truth always comes out sooner or later!

Support here if you need it.

 

[UncleRuckus]

Assault



Nobody believes her anyway. Her story doesn't make sense and is fabricated nonsense.

Still though, hard enough dealing with a break up without being worried about the police kicking your door down as well.

Jesus, I hope you have an alibi for when this fantastical event happened?

If she starts making more trouble you must make sure to log events with the police.

 

[Ascendancy]

Jesus, I hope you have an alibi for when this fantastical event happened?

If she starts making more trouble you must make sure to log events with the police.

It's her word against mine. It allegedly happened in a hotel room. She has no injuries though so I can't see much coming from it.

It's more the fact that people like to talk and now half of Manchester probably thinks I'm some sort of woman beater

 

[UncleRuckus]

It's more the fact that people like to talk and now half of Manchester probably thinks I'm some sort of woman beater

Ain't that the truth. Mud sticks even if you're innocent!

So I'm assuming the police arrested you?

 

[TrixiBuG]

It's her word against mine. It allegedly happened in a hotel room. She has no injuries though so I can't see much coming from it.

It's more the fact that people like to talk and now half of Manchester probably thinks I'm some sort of woman beater

Not in this half mate...not heard anything so your good in the west

Seriously though...why the hell do something like this??? Makes no sense...have some dignity woman! *shakes her head*

 

[Ascendancy]

Ain't that the truth. Mud sticks even if you're innocent!

So I'm assuming the police arrested you?

Nope, haven't been arrested. I know 100% she's made the accusation to the police though.

Not in this half mate...not heard anything so your good in the west

Seriously though...why the hell do something like this??? Makes no sense...have some dignity woman! *shakes her head*

After a 2 and a half month relationship as well...seems like a reasonable reaction.

 

[TrixiBuG]

Nope, haven't been arrested. I know 100% she's made the accusation to the police though.



After a 2 and a half month relationship as well...seems like a reasonable reaction.

If I knew her then I would be round there telling her to stop her **** but even though we live in the same city Ascendancy, I don't think we know each other

Edit: after a 2 month relationship...makes you think what would have happened if you had been together longer eh? Bloody stupid girl

 

[Ascendancy]

If I knew her then I would be round there telling her to stop her **** but even though we live in the same city Ascendancy, I don't think we know each other

Haha, thanks, but I doubt that'd help my case Just gotta sit back and take things as they come I guess.

 

[TrixiBuG]

Haha, thanks, but I doubt that'd help my case Just gotta sit back and take things as they come I guess.

Well I am available for hire as ***** Slapping Muscle...I think a female thug for hire who will only ***** slap other females would be quite profitable...but I am soft so maybe only for verbal ***** slapping....hummmmm....

Chin up tho Ascendancy, as you know nothing will come of it, you just have to get through it until the Police drop the case

 

[Ascendancy]

Well I am available for hire as ***** Slapping Muscle...I think a female thug for hire who will only ***** slap other females would be quite profitable...but I am soft so maybe only for verbal ***** slapping....hummmmm....

Chin up tho Ascendancy, as you know nothing will come of it, you just have to get through it until the Police drop the case

Yeah I know. It's the not knowing that annoys me really. At least if they arrested me I'd probably be told when the case was dropped. But if they never arrest me I'll probably never be informed when the case dies on it's arse

 

[FatFishMonster]

OCuk meet sounds like a good plan!

shame i live down south though! take me 5 hours if not more! to get to anywhere up north!

 

[R.P.L]

Yeah I know. It's the not knowing that annoys me really. At least if they arrested me I'd probably be told when the case was dropped. But if they never arrest me I'll probably never be informed when the case dies on it's arse

Pretty messed up what she did mate. Look on the bright side - you are most definitely better off without her

 

[DaleTheWhale]

So I broke up with my ex about 3 weeks ago, and she's gone and lodged a false allegation against me to the police. I really don't know why I bother anymore...

Boxing Stance.*




- Happened to my friend before, nothing ever come of it besides her paying £500 in court fee's and wasting police time.

 

[NeoReloaded]

Instead of filling up the internet dating thread with my sob story thought I'd post in here mainly because I honestly forgot something very important to mention... my girlfriend suffers from borderline personality disorder! I'll try and keep it as short and to the point as I can so here's a brief summary of my situation;

Met a girl on Plenty of Fish back in December and we started going out properly just after christmas. Everything has been great except from the odd day when she's been a bit up and down working herself up thinking I might leave her for no reason(common symptom of bpd) or rather it was great until Tuesday just gone! An ex from a year and a half ago sent her a random txt last week out of the blue saying he wants her back and not only was this ex apparently a right **** to her when they were together, she's actually decided she's still not over him and wants time to think if she wants him or me! The worst thing is she told me she loved me last Thursday which is obviously a big step in a relationship and I've done nothing but treat her like a princess so to be put on a shelf while she weighs me up against her ex is damn insulting as I'm sure you'll agree! Here is a summary of bpd by the way;

"Persons with BPD are often uncertain about their identity. As a result, their interests and values can change rapidly. They also tend to view things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad. Their views of other people can change quickly. A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships.

Other symptoms of BPD include:

•Intense fear of being abandoned

•Cannot tolerate being alone

•Frequent feelings of emptiness and boredom

•Frequent displays of inappropriate anger

•Impulsiveness, such as with substance abuse or sexual relationships

•Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing"

Now I know this is GD so I'm prepared for the "bitch be crazy", "run a mile" etc, but has anyone got some sound advice for me or better yet some one who has also been with someone who has bpd, bi polar or similar illness?

I know I should turn and walk away, but this means too much to me so I want to fight tooth and nail to stop her doing something stupid because I know how happy she was, but with her going through a little bad patch, stressing out over moving house and that txt from her ex all coming at once seems like the worst luck ever

Thanks.

 

[Sangha84]

Boxing Stance.*




- Happened to my friend before, nothing ever come of it besides her paying £500 in court fee's and wasting police time.

This....you'll be told to stay away from each other, change numbers etc...

As others have said, you're better off with out...trust me.

Don't doubt yourself and have strength in your conviction. Karma will do the rest....

Crazy girls may look tempting, but it always ends horribly (experience speaking).

 

[Buffman]

•Frequent displays of inappropriate anger
•Impulsiveness, such as with substance abuse or sexual relationships
•Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing"

Now I know this is GD so I'm prepared for the "bitch be crazy", "run a mile" etc, but has anyone got some sound advice for me or better yet some one who has also been with someone who has bpd, bi polar or similar illness?

I know I should turn and walk away, but this means too much to me so I want to fight tooth and nail to stop her doing something stupid because I know how happy she was, but with her going through a little bad patch, stressing out over moving house and that txt from her ex all coming at once seems like the worst luck ever

Thanks.

I'd want to walk away with such symptoms (if she actually does these). However receiving a text from an ex doesn't exactly mean much tbh if they spent a lot of time together they could still be friends.

 

[Theophany]

Instead of filling up the internet dating thread with my sob story thought I'd post in here mainly because I honestly forgot something very important to mention... my girlfriend suffers from borderline personality disorder! I'll try and keep it as short and to the point as I can so here's a brief summary of my situation;

Met a girl on Plenty of Fish back in December and we started going out properly just after christmas. Everything has been great except from the odd day when she's been a bit up and down working herself up thinking I might leave her for no reason(common symptom of bpd) or rather it was great until Tuesday just gone! An ex from a year and a half ago sent her a random txt last week out of the blue saying he wants her back and not only was this ex apparently a right **** to her when they were together, she's actually decided she's still not over him and wants time to think if she wants him or me! The worst thing is she told me she loved me last Thursday which is obviously a big step in a relationship and I've done nothing but treat her like a princess so to be put on a shelf while she weighs me up against her ex is damn insulting as I'm sure you'll agree! Here is a summary of bpd by the way;

"Persons with BPD are often uncertain about their identity. As a result, their interests and values can change rapidly. They also tend to view things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad. Their views of other people can change quickly. A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships.

Other symptoms of BPD include:

•Intense fear of being abandoned

•Cannot tolerate being alone

•Frequent feelings of emptiness and boredom

•Frequent displays of inappropriate anger

•Impulsiveness, such as with substance abuse or sexual relationships

•Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing"

Now I know this is GD so I'm prepared for the "bitch be crazy", "run a mile" etc, but has anyone got some sound advice for me or better yet some one who has also been with someone who has bpd, bi polar or similar illness?

I know I should turn and walk away, but this means too much to me so I want to fight tooth and nail to stop her doing something stupid because I know how happy she was, but with her going through a little bad patch, stressing out over moving house and that txt from her ex all coming at once seems like the worst luck ever

Thanks.

Try these.

On a serious note, you really should get well clear. As an outsider, but one who has been where you are right now, she clearly doesn't respect your feelings that much as she is giving her ex the time of day.

She's crazier than a sack of rats in a burning meth lab based on what you've told us, BPD or not (my best mate has had it for years, I don't believe it's an excuse here). When it all comes to a head, I'd put money on you being the one picking up the pieces when it all goes South. Honestly, I'd get out of there ASAP.

 

[Sangha84]

Instead of filling up the internet dating thread with my sob story thought I'd post in here mainly because I honestly forgot something very important to mention... my girlfriend suffers from borderline personality disorder! I'll try and keep it as short and to the point as I can so here's a brief summary of my situation;

Met a girl on Plenty of Fish back in December and we started going out properly just after christmas. Everything has been great except from the odd day when she's been a bit up and down working herself up thinking I might leave her for no reason(common symptom of bpd) or rather it was great until Tuesday just gone! An ex from a year and a half ago sent her a random txt last week out of the blue saying he wants her back and not only was this ex apparently a right **** to her when they were together, she's actually decided she's still not over him and wants time to think if she wants him or me! The worst thing is she told me she loved me last Thursday which is obviously a big step in a relationship and I've done nothing but treat her like a princess so to be put on a shelf while she weighs me up against her ex is damn insulting as I'm sure you'll agree! Here is a summary of bpd by the way;

"Persons with BPD are often uncertain about their identity. As a result, their interests and values can change rapidly. They also tend to view things in terms of extremes, such as either all good or all bad. Their views of other people can change quickly. A person who is looked up to one day may be looked down on the next day. These suddenly shifting feelings often lead to intense and unstable relationships.

Other symptoms of BPD include:

•Intense fear of being abandoned

•Cannot tolerate being alone

•Frequent feelings of emptiness and boredom

•Frequent displays of inappropriate anger

•Impulsiveness, such as with substance abuse or sexual relationships

•Repeated crises and acts of self-injury, such as wrist cutting or overdosing"

Now I know this is GD so I'm prepared for the "bitch be crazy", "run a mile" etc, but has anyone got some sound advice for me or better yet some one who has also been with someone who has bpd, bi polar or similar illness?

I know I should turn and walk away, but this means too much to me so I want to fight tooth and nail to stop her doing something stupid because I know how happy she was, but with her going through a little bad patch, stressing out over moving house and that txt from her ex all coming at once seems like the worst luck ever

Thanks.

I'm sorry, you may not want to hear this but at times you have to be selfish and look after yourself. By all means point her in the right direction however remember the old saying.....

You can lead a horse to water......

You seem like the decent guy she's never had, perhaps tread carefully and have an exit strategy which means you don't get hurt yourself.

Having been in similar situation before and witnessed some of the above behavior, I'd give myself this advice.

Good luck matey....

 

[benjo]

It's an unwritten rule that you don't get with a friends ex, right?

My friend has just done it to me. The ex had the decency to tell me but my friend hasn't said a word. Time to cut them off!