Lady advice...

Agnes,

You are going travelling shortly I believe and are asking for women advice, finish this little ordeal on that basis.
You also posted about money troubles in the run up to going travelling, yet are going on 3 trips prior to?
With the above point, you purchased a tablet?

You are a bit defeatist hombre
 
Boom, just cut it off, said that I have 5 months and family trumps everything every time. And the fact I will only see my nephew now, at my sisters for her birthday and maybe at Christmas (I leave the UK 30th December). I can't justify the time spent with her instead of him.

So I'm taking him to London Zoo instead on Saturday.

Got a message "I know you're angry and I am too, but I don't want this to be over"...

How can she be angry at me? What on earth have I done to make her angry? Never anything she does eh?

It's almost funny now.
 
So lets break this down.

1. You both go on a nice trip to Copenhagen.
2. She loses her job and gets trashed.
3. You being the good guy look to support her and change your work hours to be there for her.
4. She starts being abusive and insulting towards you.
5. You decide to leave and visit your nephew (can't blame you!).
6. She sends texts and is being abusive and tries to make you feel guilty.
7. She has form and has done this before and makes no effort in the relationship.

So what I can see from your post is your a decent guy, she thinks it is acceptable to treat you badly and be abusive and is looking to control you by making you out to be the bad guy for her failings. I would make it clear that her behaviour is unacceptable.

Time to give her the Spanish Archer "El Bow" :D I see no need to invest any more time in this relationship its over.
 
TommyV said:
Agnes,

You are going travelling shortly I believe and are asking for women advice, finish this little ordeal on that basis.
You also posted about money troubles in the run up to going travelling, yet are going on 3 trips prior to?
With the above point, you purchased a tablet?

You are a bit defeatist hombre
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Please read my threads properly. 'Hombre'.

Thanks
 
agnes said:
Groen... No word of a lie, she is like that. Always little remarks to have the 'upper hand' and attention in group situations. And when drunk, nightmare, I genuinely will avoid going out if I know she will be drinking or out in the group of people. Even worse, I have been invited to a leaving party of an old colleague this Friday, she will be there. Should be interesting. I just don't like public conflict and don't see the point in rising to it. Hate when ladies do that, try to create a scene just to get attention.
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If she starts with the loud, attention-drawing attempted airing of dirty laundry in the middle of the party (which I suspect she will) the SINGLE best thing you can do is, as theatrically as possible, shake your limp wrists at her and exclaim "DRRRRAAAAMAAAAAA!!!" in the campest voice possible.

Repeatedly. Until she storms off and leaves you alone.

Then enjoy the rest of the night.
 
Pestilence said:
If she starts with the loud, attention-drawing attempted airing of dirty laundry in the middle of the party (which I suspect she will) the SINGLE best thing you can do is, as theatrically as possible, shake your limp wrists at her and exclaim "DRRRRAAAAMAAAAAA!!!" in the campest voice possible.

Repeatedly. Until she storms off and leaves you alone.

Then enjoy the rest of the night.
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I just burst out laughing in the middle of the office.. Maybe we should use spoiler tags for excessively funny posts.
 
only read op...

so you made plans to see her saturday, changed your hours so you could see her leaving do when she wanted to get smashed, complained about her being smashed (it's her leaving do, she'll leave how she wants) and then left early and now cancelled saturday because the shifts you changed have meant you can only see a 3 year old (who really won't care about 1 day you spend with him) on a saturday...

tbh I think she might have a point :p
 
agnes said:
Got a message "I know you're angry and I am too, but I don't want this to be over"...

How can she be angry at me? What on earth have I done to make her angry? Never anything she does eh?
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She doesn't want it to be over because you pulled the trigger first and cut her loose so she has no control of the situation. The "This" as she puts it is clearly not working and no she won't change, if she had an sense of maturity and actually gave a damn about anyone else rather than herself she wouldn't mind that you were spending time with your family.

You have done yourself a favour and had a lucky escape.
 
agnes said:
Boom, just cut it off, said that I have 5 months and family trumps everything every time. And the fact I will only see my nephew now, at my sisters for her birthday and maybe at Christmas (I leave the UK 30th December). I can't justify the time spent with her instead of him.

So I'm taking him to London Zoo instead on Saturday.

Got a message "I know you're angry and I am too, but I don't want this to be over"...

How can she be angry at me? What on earth have I done to make her angry? Never anything she does eh?

It's almost funny now.
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Well done! Hard part over with :D

Now do yourself a favour and stop asking yourself questions regarding her behaviour. It's impossible to understand the mind of some as immature and unreasonable as her when you're a perfectly sane person - it will do funny things to your brain! Just cut contact now and move on.
 
codec said:
only read op...

so you made plans to see her saturday, changed your hours so you could see her leaving do when she wanted to get smashed, complained about her being smashed (it's her leaving do, she'll leave how she wants) and then left early and now cancelled saturday because the shifts you changed have meant you can only see a 3 year old (who really won't care about 1 day you spend with him) on a saturday...

tbh I think she might have a point :p
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Lol! I don't think you read it at all :p
 
I feel this is one of those moments the best course of action is to poo in her letter box! That'll show her for being such an idiot.
 
agnes said:
Got a message "I know you're angry and I am too, but I don't want this to be over"...

How can she be angry at me? What on earth have I done to make her angry? Never anything she does eh?

It's almost funny now.
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dude my ex did this sort of thing regularly, but because i'm living in holland i kept it going cos it was nice to have someone whilst here (and a slight hope it would improve). split up the other day after 12 months together because this mental crap got to the point i couldn't take it anymore, so you've done the right thing by getting rid before she emotionally ****s with your head like i've had...

e: and for the record, i'm absolutely certain my ex is borderline as she's 27, and pulls all this childish **** over nothing, then blames me for it etc.
 
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