I do this a lot, but I'm in sales so I tend to use it as a rapport builder. I don't know if I do it with my friends, but my gf says I only call her by her name when I'm angry.
Sounds creepy to me too, and also weirdly it sounds impersonal.
If you're in a one to one scenario why do you need to address them by their name.
You'd use direct name addressing in an environment where there's a few people, and in that scenario it's a positive thing to bring them into a conversation or ask for their opinions directly.
Freaky thread. I'm thinking Hannibal Lecter, or HAL from 2001
Was talking about this very subject with a few mates the other day. Yes its weird. When sales people do it I just want to tell them to £$%" off as its blatantly some feeble control mechanism they believe is working in their favor but i can imagine some people will find it endearing.
This is an excerpt from "How to win friends and influence people":
"Remember that a person’s name is to that
person the sweetest and most important
sound in any language."
To be fair, the author is talking about bosses and world leaders remembering the names of their subordinates. If you were to constantly use the name of the person you're talking to they'd see it as insincere and you'd be lucky to escape without being thumped.
Was talking about this very subject with a few mates the other day. Yes its weird. When sales people do it I just want to tell them to £$%" off as its blatantly some feeble control mechanism they believe is working in their favor but i can imagine some people will find it endearing.
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