Marriage?

I met my missus around the same age as you.

Dated her for 5yrs, before moving in with her. Lived with her for 5yrs before marrying her.

Now happily married since 2004 with two young boys, living a decent life in the States.

Just make sure its the right one, otherwise it'll completely mess things around in your life.
 
I understand that a lot of people might think that it's too young, all I've wanted was to find that right person for me. I never really wanted to sleep around with as many woman as I can. I lost my virginity last year with her because I wanted to find someone who was pretty cool and funny to be with.

My parents got married and had kids at my age, I just dont want to this an old father when my kids are still growing up.

Trust me being single is good fun but deep down inside of you there is something that digs away telling you to find someone to share your life with and not be alone.

I do appreciate all the comments, it's given me food for thought.
 
I'm glad to see so.many members getting married after being with the person for over 5 years.

imo you shouldn't marry someone unless you absolutely know you can spend your life with them
And two years is NOT long enough to make this decision.
I have been with my jen for 9 1/2 years and getting married on the 29th of this month.

The reason for many divorces is purely due to people rushing into it
oh and i'm 24...
 
Been married for 22 years now. It's a dice roll at best. We got on well then, we get on well now. Being married made no difference to that really, we just happened to grow up together rather than grow apart. Doesn't always happen that way.
 
Diagro said:
I'm glad to see so.many members getting married after being with the person for over 5 years.

imo you shouldn't marry someone unless you absolutely know you can spend your life with them
And two years is NOT long enough to make this decision.
I have been with my jen for 9 1/2 years and getting married on the 29th of this month.

The reason for many divorces is purely due to people rushing into it
oh and i'm 24...
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I got engaged after going out with my now wife for 3 months, it has worked out for us so far and I was only 22 when we got married.
 
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Op you want to get married after only being with this girl for two years you're nuts. I've been with my girlfriend for over eleven years now and have no interest in marriage, a wedding ring and a wedding certificate isn't going to make any difference to us.
 
Im 23 and kids marriage etc is not something I even think about.. Live a little and if she's right for you she will understand why you don't want a kid - if that's the case
 
Live with her before contemplating marriage, living together is arguably one of the biggest steps as you find out about who eachother really are, as long as all is fine then marriage and kids will follow.

Your age doesn't factor into it in my opinion, if you feel ready then do it, ask yourself "what have I got to lose?", worse case is that it turns out to be a life experience while you would still be young enough to move on.

Met my wife when I was 20, had a long distance relationship for about a year, took the plunge and moved in together, got married a year later when we found out we could live together, popped a couple of kids out and now been married 10 years, would not change it for the world, you will have your ups and down but that is part of getting to know each other and understanding that she is always right :).
 
nathanael91 said:
... I lost my virginity last year with her because I wanted to find someone who was pretty cool and funny to be with.
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This in my mind says that you have not had enough life living yet. It could well work out for you but I would suggest living together for a while first - you never know what she hides under the bed ;)
 
There have been some particularly outstanding relationship threads recently. Obsessions with three year-olds, pre-pubescent girls and now this gem.
 
Please don't take this the wrong way but it almost sounds like you joined up because it meant you'd pretty much have someone making all your decisions for you, I've got a couple of friends who are officers in the army and to be honest they fully admit they spend more time basically baby sitting their men and sorting out their life problems than doing anything else and I mean if the lads could get them to wipe their backsides they would.
Please don't end up like one of these people who just follows what other people tell them or hope that someone else will make the decision.
Asking for advice is all well and good but your opening post almost sounds like a "Well I'll do whatever seems to be the popular opinion".
You're 22, you're in the Army and it's a dam good career if you make the most of it, don't go jumping to any decisions especially as it sounds like she's your first real relationship.

I'm 25 and I'd known my ex for over a decade since we were close friends at school, we started dating last year and it was great until she basically said I want marriage and kids before I'm 28, at that point I ended it because she was admiant that's how she wanted her life to turn out and I have zero interest in that I'm still young and living my life I'm in no position to be looking after a mini me and a wife!
 
nathanael91 said:
Should I be scared or excited if I am wanting to marry this person?
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A bit of both. And I would cohere that 22 is too young to get married. Plenty of people get married that young and end up regretting it. You are a male and you do need to play the field. You don't want to have sex with only one/two girls before marriage and then get married and wonder what girl A B or C would be like.

There is plenty of reason these days not to get married too young. I lived through my 20s having a lot of fun without even a thought or care of marriage. In fact I was so against it that when it was mooted I generally ran for the hills.

I'm in my mid 30s now and got married last year and I would say that this is about the right time for me. Before you get married I would check to make sure that you both have the same long-term vision about kids, career, physical appearance, living, you know, the big main things in life. I got married to a girl who has basically the same outlook on life as I do, and I didn't think such a person existed [or that I would find them anyway].

Don't get married in a swirl of romance without thinking of the practicalities. And don't feel pressured into making a decision. And if you DO go ahead with it, for God's sake don't feel like you have to have a massive wedding and spend thousands and thousands of pounds. Do things your way, you are the couple.
 
Been together 9 years, married for almost 2 years. As people said, if you are meant for each other then the relationship will always be amazing and it doesn't change a great deal when you get married.

That said however, I call it an honour and a blessing to have her as my wife and I'm glad that I married her.
 
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