I'm always completely upfront about what I want these days regarding the kids thing. Suffice to say it's put pretty much everyone off.
Love it when you get the, "well that's a bit selfish, isn't it?" line.
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I'm always completely upfront about what I want these days regarding the kids thing. Suffice to say it's put pretty much everyone off.
Love it when you get the, "well that's a bit selfish, isn't it?" line.
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I'm always completely upfront about what I want these days regarding the kids thing. Suffice to say it's put pretty much everyone off.
Love it when you get the, "well that's a bit selfish, isn't it?" line.
Well wanting kids is a bit selfish isn't it.
Works both ways
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true dat. In my 20's I thought that it wouldn't happen. Then being single and alone for most for my early thirties ( cue violin noises ) I thought there'd be no kids or indeed Mrs Lartyconshayo. Now she's upstairs putting our 3 year old to sleep. He was suprise but we rolled with the punches and I really am happy with that choice but of course children are not for everyone and I respect that too. But yeah I changed...
This. While I couldn't ever see myself wanting to have that kind of responsibility FOR THE REST OF MY LIIIIFE, now that my gf is pregnant I'm really excited about it. I think I would regret missing out on one of the fundamental human experiences. My gf and I were both agreed we didn't want kids, and now we are agreed that we both really do.
So even if you are super sure you don't want kids, and that your mind will never change, keep in mind that your previously like-minded gf may change her mind.
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I agree with most of the sentiments here.. I have three boys , 10, 8 and 5. Really Really hard work a lot of the time, for example trying to get them to do their homework = nightmare. And then I see friends of mine that don't have children who can do what they want, when they want and are a lot better off financially for not having children. So yeah sometimes I want their lifestyle.. but... then you have a magical moment when one of the terrors does something lovely, or achieves something for the first time , or just wants a cuddle and then I wouldn't swap anything for all the tea in china 
I'd forgotten what it's like to be heartbroken.. And it's not nice. I've only been seeing a guy for 2 and a half months but it's enough to develop all these feelings and emotions.
I've been crying so much I don't know how my body can physically produce so much tears.
I could do with many hugs
I've been crying so much I don't know how my body can physically produce so much tears.
I could do with many hugs
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I'd forgotten what it's like to be heartbroken.. And it's not nice. I've only been seeing a guy for 2 and a half months but it's enough to develop all these feelings and emotions.
I've been crying so much I don't know how my body can physical produce so much tears.
I could do with many hugs
I know how you feel happened to me a couple weeks ago. I was going out with a girl since feb. Felt a bit crap for a couple days, and now im fine. Time is a healer I guess.
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I'd forgotten what it's like to be heartbroken.. And it's not nice. I've only been seeing a guy for 2 and a half months but it's enough to develop all these feelings and emotions.
I've been crying so much I don't know how my body can physical produce so much tears.
I could do with many hugs
Ignoring the hyperbole, what happened?
Met a guy from online dating, I seem to be the one making most of the effort and chasing. He constantly makes me wait around for him and then let's me down at the last minute. I finally get fed up and told him it's frustrating and making me miserable and that if he's not on the same page as me then I'd rather walk away sooner than later.[FnG]magnolia;26352398 said:
The guy then basically said I should walk away because it's clear that I'm not happy and he's making me feel miserable.
The end.
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Worst thing that can happen imo.
At least you spoke up and backed away quite early, unlike some people who just try try try and then notice it won't work months/years in.
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I'm not clear why you're not happy to be rid of this person in your life. He sounds pretty terrible. 10 weeks to find out things are not going to work out sounds okay to me because you can score this guy off as a 'no'.
Forget this guy, meet someone better.
That's what everyone keeps saying to me... But still it doesn't make me feel any better
I'm sure I'll be fine after a few days... My mind just needs some time to process everything.
Yeah it'll take anywhere from a few days to a few weeks, but try to keep your chin up
Sounds like he wasn't sure what he wanted at all and was stringing you along. Nuke him from orbit with queen wasps and fire.
Perhaps it's that weird 'treat em mean' thing rearing it's head. Sometimes when you put in the effort and the person acts all aloof, you think you need to try harder, rather than realising that the other person is just a douche.
I hate this feeling, i tend to fall for a girl too quickly, and then if things don't work out, end up feeling like a **** for a while
Sometimes i wish i was a bit of a **** when it comes to relationships, just so i don't end up feeling ****.
Sometimes i wish i was a bit of a **** when it comes to relationships, just so i don't end up feeling ****.
I am finding it so difficult to get back to my normal life and just enjoy my time being alone
Went shopping today to kill some time. But now I'm sat at home wondering what to do next. It's a bank holiday weekend as well. I wish the weekend ended sooner
Went shopping today to kill some time. But now I'm sat at home wondering what to do next. It's a bank holiday weekend as well. I wish the weekend ended sooner
I am finding it so difficult to get back to my normal life and just enjoy my time being alone
Went shopping today to kill some time. But now I'm sat at home wondering what to do next. It's a bank holiday weekend as well. I wish the weekend ended sooner
how long have you been single for now then? Or do you just mean in general being on your own?Well I've been single for a few years, I'd been seeing a guy for the last 2 and a half months. I'd forgotten what it's like to spend my weekends alone. My friends are all busy and I have to arrange things with them like a few days or weeks in advance. So this weekend I'm screwed. I had to force myself to go out shopping today otherwise I would probably have spent the whole day in bed just crying.
Much woe in this thread. Though I'd add a very brief and random anecdote from a few weeks ago.
Was in France at my Aunty's surprise 50th, also happened to be my cousins birthday, so he had a female friend fly out. His supposed 'girlfriend', although I knew this not to be the case, as she stated so.
Long story cut short, after much champagne he caught us in bed on the second night and was pretty annoyed. Woops! I then met up with her in London for a few days, and am seeing her for 6 days next week. My cousin has now calmed down and given us his blessing (or sorts).
Basically, relationships can come out of anywhere, just keep your head up and battle through the crap!
Was in France at my Aunty's surprise 50th, also happened to be my cousins birthday, so he had a female friend fly out. His supposed 'girlfriend', although I knew this not to be the case, as she stated so.
Long story cut short, after much champagne he caught us in bed on the second night and was pretty annoyed. Woops! I then met up with her in London for a few days, and am seeing her for 6 days next week. My cousin has now calmed down and given us his blessing (or sorts).
Basically, relationships can come out of anywhere, just keep your head up and battle through the crap!
I have just read what you posted earlier and I'm sorry to hear what happened, you'll find someone better, someone who will put all the effort in that you have, he's out there somewhere, you just have to get through the hard part, and you'll be fine.
Do you normally develop feelings quite quickly? As that is the thing that gets me the most, build my hopes up and then end up feeling crap when it doesn't work out, it Sucks!