Depression

nightrider1470

nightrider1470

nightrider1470

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Does anyone else suffer with depression?

I honestly think I have suffered with it for years but never knew. I had bit of a breakdown last week over some bad news that most people would probably have a few negative thoughts about, then move on.

For 3 days I stressed and worried, couldnt eat and would always wake up earlly hours of the morning, stessing, crying. Even feel guilt of things I did in a relationship that ended months a go. It was only my sister who recognised that how I reacting wasnt normal and to the doctors I went.

I am currently on antidepressant on my 3rd day.

I bought a book recently which has been amazing! And made sense if it all for me and kept me in control. The book highlights that only the strong minded people suffer with depression, as they take to much on, going and going. Where as the weak give in straight away.

Looking back I never used to go out my house that much where I lived alone, if only to the gym and to take my daughter out.
I struggled with feelings at times in relationships doubting if I trully loved them.

Has anyone else or a family member suffered?

Feel happy I have found out now so I can make the changes I need to keep me on track. My depression was defo due to stress of my job and relationship breakdown
 
Every other person on these forums is medicated or has a letter combination condition, or so it seems.
 
I find it a bit ridiculous that only weak-minded people never suffer from depression...

Edit: SNAP! Same word even!
 
Might not be depression. Might just be anxiety brought on by stress. I have been in similar situations in very short bursts. Over-thinking, questioning everything, what, if, why, when, how. Mostly over stuff that either a) does not matter b) out of my control or c) has happened at that's that. I imagine it is fairly common and it's quite easy to think 'no one else goes through this.'

I'm no doctor mind you.

I would just advise socialising. Speak to friends / family. Go out, enjoy yourself. Occupy the mind.

Hope all goes well.
 
I had 12 weeks CBT therapy last year, helped a lot after spending years thinking I was fine. I wasn't. Just takes the odd silly thing and you realise how flawed you are at times.

I did anti-depressants but they did nothing for me, the therapy made the lasting difference as it gives you the tools to help you deal with yourself better and be more positive.
 
Hi nightrider1470,

The main thing is your getting the help you need now and have identified that you had a problem. It takes more balls than you think to admit to yourself that you have something wrong and just as big a balls to do something about it.

Coming from a recovering depressive person, myself I found myself in similar stick 5 years ago and it was a *******ing at work which tipped me over the egde, looking back I have always been a fairly anxious person and prior to breaking down I had carried a lot of excess baggage from years of people just thinking I was just an easy target. Also 3 years prior I did the most 3 stress inducing things known to man in one go, cremated my Father, moved house and had a baby all in the space of a few months. Little did I know what was to come further down the road.

What I will say is be ready for the long haul if this really is depression, there is no quick fix don't try and fool yourself, you'll feel plenty better a lot of times and then bam it'll sweep you off your feet just like that, similar to how the little things affected you this time round.

5 years on I am feeling so much better and in control, just keep getting help and listen to your Doctor, mine is really good thankfully and keeps me grounded. I'm still on meds but I just let them do their thing and get on with life.

If you ever need to talk or chat PM me I'll keep any eye out for you.

Best of luck and get well, that's the important thing.

CB
 
Yes! I'm Manic Depressive! (and freely admit it!) I also suffer from Anxiety and to top it off I have quite a nice dose of OCD!

(all professionally, Not Self Diagnosed!!)

But I just get on with things!, My Wife has just learnt to either Leave me when I 'Shut Down' or try and gently calm me when my Anxiety kicks in!...

As for the OCD we just try and laugh about it, although she sometimes gets frustrated with me! :D
 
Cool Breeze said:
They are very intertwined things, don't worry about trying to decipher the difference. ;)
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Agree with this. I find the best solution is face to face socialising with small close knit friends. Few drinks, talk ****.

Like I said earlier, occupy the mind. Or, the beauty with close friends, you can talk about it to them. Getting it off your chest will do nothing but good. They will be there for you, you might know that already, but hearing it is so much better in these situations. Hearing you are not alone. Hell, they might even come back with similar experiences of their own.

You will feel better(getting it off your chest, knowing you have help), they will feel better (being there for you, maybe even confiding in you back), your friendship will be better.

win win win.

Power through buddy!
 
Simian said:
Yes! I'm Manic Depressive! (and freely admit it!) I also suffer from Anxiety and to top it off I have quite a nice dose of OCD!

(all professionally, Not Self Diagnosed!!)

But I just get on with things!, My Wife has just learnt to either Leave me when I 'Shut Down' or try and gently calm me when my Anxiety kicks in!...

As for the OCD we just try and laugh about it, although she sometimes gets frustrated with me! :D
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This is the same as me, apart from the wife part :p having had one previously probably caused most of my conditions/symptoms ;)
 
My mum suffered from depression when I was in primary school and the early years of secondary. She went though a lot of **** which I wont go through on here but I mostly think she couldn't handle being a single Mum of three with no money or outside support. She met someone when I was 14 and decided to move to Spain with him. I had the option to go with her but I decided to move in with my dad and my older brothers done their own thing. The Sun and warm weather, as well as meeting a good man, made her happy and she's basically okay now. She moved back to the UK a few years ago and she's still happy as ever. I only found out a few weeks ago that she's still on Anti-Depressants which was a shock to me because she's so much happier than she used to be. I guess you can never really get rid of depression, you just learn to manage it.
 
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