The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

DiscoDave said:
I don't understand. Why agree to a date when you wanted more time to meet, and then look to rearrange it when you could have simply said you wanted to give it a week? Just doesn't make sense.

Doesn't explain why you just said "yes" knowing you weren't ready.

So going from in tears from a previous relationship to a date in the space of a few days is a good idea?
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Dare I say this, but I'm a woman and a lot of us change our minds often. Often within a short space of time. He asked to go on a date just one day after I walked away from a 'relationship'. It's now day 2 and surprisingly I feel OK. Walking away from that relationship now actually feels like weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

Just give up will you :rolleyes: I can't be bothered to keep explaining to you anymore, you're like a whiny child. Why? Why? Why? Why? But why?

Fuzz said:
Hahaha REALLY! What a ****ing idiot.
Small man syndrome much!
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Well to be fair he's 5'10 so not exactly short. I'm just tall that's all :p
 
MisChief said:
Dare I say this, but I'm a woman and a lot of us change our minds often. Often within a short space of time. He asked to go on a date just one day after I walked away from a 'relationship'. It's now day 2 and surprisingly I feel OK. Walking away from that relationship now actually feels like weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

Just give up will you :rolleyes: I can't be bothered to keep explaining to you anymore, you're like a whiny child. Why? Why? Why? Why? But why?
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Just trying to make sense. Regardless of what you think I do actually wish you good luck. You can stop explaining, but I also hope you stop having a go at people are highlighting your own contradictions.

All I'm trying to do is understand and try and highlight ways in which you won't get hurt again. Obviously you're not forced to accept anyone's view, but it would just be sad to read later on that you found someone nice but couldn't commit, or met the right person at the wrong time, etc, because you were still a big upset about your ex.
 
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MisChief said:
Just give up will you :rolleyes: I can't be bothered to keep explaining to you anymore, you're like a whiny child. Why? Why? Why? Why? But why?
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He isn't like a whiney child, he is just trying to make sense of what you are saying. You have contradicted yourself in a quite obvious manner, and tried to play the gender card as well when people weren't agreeing with you... :p

Good luck to you though, I will keep an eye out for the post about the next relationship which you rushed into and want out of because it turns out you aren't in the slightest bit compatible. ;)

MisChief said:
Dare I say this, but I'm a woman and a lot of us change our minds often. Often within a short space of time. He asked to go on a date just one day after I walked away from a 'relationship'. It's now day 2 and surprisingly I feel OK.
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Statements like this worry me somewhat, and almost make me wish I were gay... I hope I don't end up with someone who will feel fine and look into dating other people a couple of days after a break-up! :rolleyes:
 
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Acme said:
He isn't like a whiney child, he is just trying to make sense of what you are saying. You have contradicted yourself in a quite obvious manner, and tried to play the gender card as well when people weren't agreeing with you... :p
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You're the only two people trying to 'make sense' of what I'm saying. You don't want to genuinely 'understand' anyway. It's clear you're both just questioning for the sake of questioning.
 
I was just about to say this is like a bunch of petulant children in here at the moment.
If I had a quid for every time I read " go out with your mates, get drunk and smash one into the first woman who bats her eyelids at you" type comments I'd be rich man.
As soon as a woman mere mentions meeting a bloke, you come down like a ton of condescending bricks!!!
 
Fuzz said:
I was just about to say this is like a bunch of petulant children in here at the moment.
If I had a quid for every time I read " go out with your mates, get drunk and smash one into the first woman who bats her eyelids at you" type comments I'd be rich man.
As soon as a woman mere mentions meeting a bloke, you come down like a ton of condescending bricks!!!
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I would just like to point out that I do not condone the "go out with your mates, get drunk and smash one into the first woman who bats her eyelids at you" type comments, nor have I ever made one. :)

I also feel as though MisChief is being equally condescending. I get the impression she feels as though our opinions are stupid because we are incapable of understanding her point of view and therefore must be wrong. ;)

My comments would be the same if MisChief were Mis(ter)Chief.
 
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Not sure why Mischief feels the need to dive back on a dating site the instant her "relationship" collapses in such a heart breaking manner.

I would be from the "" go out with your mates, get drunk and smash one into the first woman who bats her eyelids at you"" crowd. But I wouldnt say go on dates with someone off a dating website within days of a breakup. There is a difference. One is a little more premeditated.
 
She's rebounding. She doesn't know where she's at at the moment. That's all you guys really need to know.

Her playing the woman-card again made me laugh though. I can't believe she believes some of the crap that comes out of her mouth sometimes. :p

Leave her be, let her work it out herself if that's what she needs to do.
 
Nix said:
She's rebounding. She doesn't know where she's at at the moment. That's all you guys really need to know.

Her playing the woman-card again made me laugh though. I can't believe she believes some of the crap that comes out of her mouth sometimes. :p

Leave her be, let her work it out herself if that's what she needs to do.
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This!

I gave up commenting on her posts a long time ago.
 
FinglisHobbit said:
Not sure why Mischief feels the need to dive back on a dating site the instant her "relationship" collapses in such a heart breaking manner.

I would be from the "" go out with your mates, get drunk and smash one into the first woman who bats her eyelids at you"" crowd. But I wouldnt say go on dates with someone off a dating website within days of a breakup. There is a difference. One is a little more premeditated.
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Must say I concur.

Women be tripping.
 
Guys leave it be, its her decision not yours, if your in here to troll then leave it be, every person has a different way of dealing with things.
 
Personally, I don't see the problem. Mischief broke up with someone, now she's going out on a date to meet new people and forget about the ex. It's only a date, it doesn't have to lead to anything or mean anything portentous. It's probably the same from the guy on the other side. It's just socialising with new people, and seeing where it goes, same as for thousands of years before it was done on the internet.
 
Steampunk said:
Personally, I don't see the problem. Mischief broke up with someone, now she's going out on a date to meet new people and forget about the ex. It's only a date, it doesn't have to lead to anything or mean anything portentous. It's probably the same from the guy on the other side. It's just socialising with new people, and seeing where it goes, same as for thousands of years before it was done on the internet.
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Its scary how dependant relationships/dating has become on the internet.

facebook, pof etc...

seem to live in world where "likes" account for more than "You look beautiful"
 
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