You should make a profile to get back at her. After all, that's how all relationships work.
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You should make a profile to get back at her. After all, that's how all relationships work.
Maybe in her own weird little way she wanted you to tell her to delete it so she knew you liked her, etc.
Some women just want fighting for so to speak (insecurity issues).
She probably thinks you don't care now.
Either that or she was messing you about and is hoping you'll do the hard-work by dumping her.
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^^ this ^^
I'm thinking the same, but, your lady friend might be testing your resolve or maybe she is simply coming around to the idea of a monogamous relationship with you but not quite got there yet. All the will in the world won't make it 'happen' if she don't want it but then the smallest detail can change it all in your favour - ones thing for sure, if you aren't on her 'radar' then you ain't got nothing cooking. The decision is half yours at best but you have to decide if you want to persue it.
My thoughts on it all align with most of you...
She's either gone cold hoping I'll end it
Being a stroppy cow and doesn't care
Thinks I was born yesterday..
If she wants "fighting for" she'll have a long wait, I don't do mind games.
If she came to me and explained her reasons, said she wanted it to work, deleted her profile and generally showed some actual willing to move things forward, I'd sweep everything under the carpet in an instant but the way she's acting at the moment, I'm about ready to say goodbye.
Meh. I said it was too good to be true in the internet dating thread at the very beginning... I guess it is!
She's either gone cold hoping I'll end it
Being a stroppy cow and doesn't care
Thinks I was born yesterday..
If she wants "fighting for" she'll have a long wait, I don't do mind games.
If she came to me and explained her reasons, said she wanted it to work, deleted her profile and generally showed some actual willing to move things forward, I'd sweep everything under the carpet in an instant but the way she's acting at the moment, I'm about ready to say goodbye.
Meh. I said it was too good to be true in the internet dating thread at the very beginning... I guess it is!
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Curious as to what peoples thoughts are on the wife staying out all night?
My other half went out last night for a work birthday do, text me at 330am saying she was staying at a work mates but I've got up at 7am to find her on the sofa. Rather bizzare but I'm a bit ****** of that she was even considering staying out like that. I've no issue with her going out with her pals, I usually taxi her and her mates around. There's a 15year gap between us and where I've far outgrown the getting hammered routine she's still a little in it, which can be a little annoying but I'm generally fine.
Its just thrown me that she'd even consider staying out all night at a mates house and I just cannot stop the alarm bells ringing.
My other half went out last night for a work birthday do, text me at 330am saying she was staying at a work mates but I've got up at 7am to find her on the sofa. Rather bizzare but I'm a bit ****** of that she was even considering staying out like that. I've no issue with her going out with her pals, I usually taxi her and her mates around. There's a 15year gap between us and where I've far outgrown the getting hammered routine she's still a little in it, which can be a little annoying but I'm generally fine.
Its just thrown me that she'd even consider staying out all night at a mates house and I just cannot stop the alarm bells ringing.
It was a full moon last night, they do some crazy **** when it's a full moon
Probably tipsy and thought nothing of it, inhibitions being lowered by the drink and all that but then as the drink wore off she probably came to her senses and caught a taxi home because she thought of you, how you'd feel and realised it was the better thing to do because she's in a relationship she wants to be in..
Unlike mine who is doing the exact opposite.
Asked mine what she's up to this weekend as she keeps saying "we need to talk" when I've questioned her about the Pof stuff.
Surprise surprise she's off doing this that and the other and isn't available.
Another nail in the relationship coffin then.
Probably tipsy and thought nothing of it, inhibitions being lowered by the drink and all that but then as the drink wore off she probably came to her senses and caught a taxi home because she thought of you, how you'd feel and realised it was the better thing to do because she's in a relationship she wants to be in..
Unlike mine who is doing the exact opposite.
Asked mine what she's up to this weekend as she keeps saying "we need to talk" when I've questioned her about the Pof stuff.
Surprise surprise she's off doing this that and the other and isn't available.
Another nail in the relationship coffin then.
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She's not your property
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Yea, how dare she have a life of her own with friends of her own? You'd better put a stop to this PDQ and make sure she knows her place is in your home. Don't give them an inch!
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Dont give them an inch? She's out often and, as noted above, I run her and her mates around without an issue, in fact I'm happy to help out... She goes annually to stay with a mate who lives in Madrid, etc etc. It's not an ownership issue one little bit. I'm glad she goes out with mates as its something I cannot provide for her in our marriage and it was even discussed pre wedding as I was worried that she would lose out on that part of her life marrying an older chap (she is now 26 and I'm 40). Not once have I even remotely tried to stop her going out, quite the opposite - I encourage it and if I'm honest I do enjoy the odd night to watch what I want on the TV etc.
Are you serious? What is such a big deal about her staying over at friends? Maybe she didnt want to annoy you by getting home really late being drunk? She should have her own friends and nights out...
Im going out tonight with my friends and my partner is quite happy with me staying at my friends house for the night rather than having to listen to me at 3am. Just like I would be happy if he did the same. Hate listening to drunk people.
I suppose it all depends on the work mates and where they really sit between 'regular mate' and 'colleague'. Staying at a long time friends place is potentially an entirely different proposition to staying over with a casual work acquaintance that's she's barely ever been out with before, as the latter would be an entirely different thought process to arrive at the decision of 'going here is better than going home'.
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A friend had a similar thing, was so surprised with her home when she said she wouldn't be he got paranoid, checked for snail trails, didn't like what he found. Turned out, she expected to stay a night 'somewhere' but it turned into a short event, got kicked out after the event, came home after fell asleep on the sofa.
End of relationship.
Hrm, the girl she text to say she was staying with has only worked with them for 3-4 months.
I just don't know if I'm being a paranoid android or not but its bugging me.
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Only it isn't, lol.
It might be next year, certainly will be in two years, but for now and previously it wasn't.
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Correction, it might have been when they started
It might be next year, certainly will be in two years, but for now and previously it wasn't.
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Correction, it might have been when they started
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