The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

So I met a really nice girl the other week, in fact it was on Valentine's day. She was at her work and she had to take some details from me. Long story short, we got on like a house on fire, and I surprised myself by asking her out (had a huge urge to do so). Now she went bright red, said she's at work and said she'd let me know. I had to go see someone else at her work then went back to fill out some more forms. At the end I asked if she had thought about it and she said no. :( Reason is that she's just not long come out of a relationship and didn't want to get into another one, she said she wants to be single for a while. I just said that I'm not asking her for a relationship, and I was just asking for a drink or whatever as we got along so well. She smiled and said she may change her mind by the next weekend (had to go back to her workplace for the reason I was there).

Anyway, that day came and has gone, and although I saw her, I didn't get a chance to speak to her. :( Without wanting to be some kind of stalker I didn't go out of my way to find her and left after I'd had my appointment.

Anyway, what do I do now? I don't really want to ring her at work, I think that would be weird? She has my contact details but I think it would be unethical for her to get in touch by using a customers details so she probably won't.

Now she went red but smiled when I asked her, so I'm assuming it's because she likes me. She didn't say no or look at me odd or show any signs that she wasn't interested. Like I said, we got along very very well, and it's not normal for me to ask a girl out like that! I don't believe in love at first sight, but I've never ever felt that strong about a girl I've just met.

I've since found her on Facebook but have not added her or messaged her. I'm in a bit of a dilemma as to what to do now? I definitely want to pursue this but I also want to do it in the least weird way?

I figure I've got a few options:
1) send flowers to her work place with a short message and put my number on there.
2) add her on Facebook and see if she accepts. If she does, message her a day or so later and go from there.
3) ring her at work. I think this would be weird and she may not like it judging by her initial reaction.
4) turn up at her work and ask her again. But same feeling as 3 above.
5) combination of 1 and 2. Ie, send flowers, if I don't hear anything after a week then add on Facebook.

Thoughts?
 
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I would do neither of those. Not think she may of been hiding from you when you went back the week later?

Most of those ideas are in creeper territory.
 
I think she was palming you off in a nice way when she mentioned she didn't want another relationship. Don't do any of the above, its a bit creepy and stalkerish.

Plenty more fish
 
lee1101 said:
I think she was palming you off in a nice way when she mentioned she didn't want another relationship. Don't do any of the above, its a bit creepy and stalkerish.

Plenty more fish
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This. Forget it. You have tried more than once. I would just have said yes when you said 'not in a relationship kind of way just because we get along' just out of courtesy. She said no still and didn't get back to you a week later. If that is not a no, then I do not know what is.

people turn red if they get embarrassed. Maybe she didn't want to break your heart and say no, so she became red and brushed you off smoothly. Unless she contacts you again (you said she has your details) then forget her.
 
S2KIP said:
So I met a really nice girl the other week, in fact it was on Valentine's day. She was at her work and she had to take some details from me. Long story short, we got on like a house on fire, and I surprised myself by asking her out (had a huge urge to do so). Now she went bright red, said she's at work and said she'd let me know. I had to go see someone else at her work then went back to fill out some more forms. At the end I asked if she had thought about it and she said no. :( Reason is that she's just not long come out of a relationship and didn't want to get into another one, she said she wants to be single for a while. I just said that I'm not asking her for a relationship, and I was just asking for a drink or whatever as we got along so well. She smiled and said she may change her mind by the next weekend (had to go back to her workplace for the reason I was there).

Anyway, that day came and has gone, and although I saw her, I didn't get a chance to speak to her. :( Without wanting to be some kind of stalker I didn't go out of my way to find her and left after I'd had my appointment.

Anyway, what do I do now? I don't really want to ring her at work, I think that would be weird? She has my contact details but I think it would be unethical for her to get in touch by using a customers details so she probably won't.

Now she went red but smiled when I asked her, so I'm assuming it's because she likes me. She didn't say no or look at me odd or show any signs that she wasn't interested. Like I said, we got along very very well, and it's not normal for me to ask a girl out like that! I don't believe in love at first sight, but I've never ever felt that strong about a girl I've just met.

I've since found her on Facebook but have not added her or messaged her. I'm in a bit of a dilemma as to what to do now? I definitely want to pursue this but I also want to do it in the least weird way?

I figure I've got a few options:
1) send flowers to her work place with a short message and put my number on there.
2) add her on Facebook and see if she accepts. If she does, message her a day or so later and go from there.
3) ring her at work. I think this would be weird and she may not like it judging by her initial reaction.
4) turn up at her work and ask her again. But same feeling as 3 above.
5) combination of 1 and 2. Ie, send flowers, if I don't hear anything after a week then add on Facebook.

Thoughts?
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I wouldn't do any of them, she already knows that your interested in her. Generally if a girl comes back to talk to u then your good and if not she probably isn't interested.
 
Sounds like she's playing hard to get. Some girls like to play these games. I'd go back there again if I were you. Possibly message her on Facebook first so she's not surprised / creeped out. Also tweet her if you can, I think girls these days probably use that just as much as Facebook.

Have you snapchatted her a photo of you holding a rose yet? You could do that before the above, come to think of it.
 
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