Girlfrend not wanting to drive to me anymore !

RoboCod said:
Absolutely, it's just these comments that bother me...



When in fact, she might be the sexiest, most intelligent and interesting woman he'll ever meet in his life. The attitude that she should be grateful he is giving her any attention because she has a child, like she is some lower class peasant scum, instead just suggests that some people are morons. I suspect either a severe lack of maturity, outright misogynist or both.

I'm not even putting it on a pedestal here, I've met many a vile women who take advantage of men, but from the sounds of things here the OP is doing rather well in this setup considering his GF is driving everywhere in this relationship. Time for a few people to grow up here I think.
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I absolutely agree with you. If the idea of dating someone with children puts the male off then he doesn't sound very mature to me. Also, don't shoplift the pooty.
 
George Hincapie said:
I absolutely agree with you. If the idea of dating someone with children puts the male off then he doesn't sound very mature to me. Also, don't shoplift the pooty.
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The idea of dating a woman with kids puts me off, and I am a mature adult.

I naturally don't think any less of them for being single mothers as some other muppet posters said, I just do not personally want to date anyone that already has kids, and neither do many other men I know. It's not new or unusual.
 
George Hincapie said:
I absolutely agree with you. If the idea of dating someone with children puts the male off then he doesn't sound very mature to me. Also, don't shoplift the pooty.
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I absolutely disagree with you, don't think that because 2 people agree that your right. It's even in nature that a male will always dislike an aposing males offspring. It's not exactly a huge leap of reason to think that, it's possible that's why women with children are less appealing. It's also concievable that a women with a child has a lot less time to do things other than look after the child. It's a fact children are very irratating, which is more reasons.
I would hazard a guess that most single males are childless and that they are likely to choose a women without, those with children probably see it as a fair compromise, of dealing with their own.
Maturity is a word bandied about to make people feel guilty for making a choice that on the face of things might seem unfavourable but is logical.
We don't live in a perfect world and never will.
 
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ChroniC said:
I absolutely disagree with you, don't think that because 2 people agree that your right. It's even in nature that a male will always dislike an aposing males offspring. It's not exactly a huge leap of reason to think that, it's possible that's why women with children are less appealing. It's also concievable that a women with a child has a lot less time to do things other than look after the child. It's a fact children are very irratating, which is more reasons.
I would hazard a guess that most single males are childless and that they are likely to choose a women without, those with children probably see it as a fair compramise.
Maturity is a word bandied about to make people feel guilty for making a choice that on the face of things might seem unfavourable but is logical.
We don't live in a perfect world and never will.
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I am right and you're clearly the type of male I was discussing. I feel sorry for you :(
 
George Hincapie said:
I am right and you're clearly the type of male I was discussing. I feel sorry for you :(
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Don't your wasting your time. You only proved my point with your inability to concieve an opposing view and by doing so trying to guilt me with my so called lack of maturity. I will choose to believe the world is mostly black and white and that no matter what people try it will never be grey
 
ChroniC said:
Don't your wasting your time. You only proved my point with your inability to concieve an opposing view and by doing so trying to guilt me with my so called lack of maturity. I will choose to believe the world is mostly black and white and that no matter what people try it will never be grey
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You're going to miss out on a lot in life with that attitude :(

You have a lot to learn. Good luck.
 
Some of the comments left are so stupid I can't help but laugh.

A lot of you are saying I'm a loser because I don't wish to buy a car Ha Ha , its not that I can't be bothered , I just don't want to be like the other 70% of the uk population who likes wasting £300 + a month on car loans and finance , My credit history is perfect and I don't have any debt at all and I'm happy with that & I cycle to work everyday :) , So I'm healthy and debt free yeehhhhaa :P.

I am going to carry on getting a Bus for now and keep it 50 / 50 as that's only fair & I will pay for fuel money when she comes too me , regards to comments about guys not wanting to take on someone else's child on , again some will hate the idea of this but to be honest I love having days out with my partner and her child and I treat her child as she was my own and we all have a fantastic time together on days out :) I'm happy and that's what matters and ill do my best to make her happy also.
 
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Single mothers have a lower market value. You will only miss a lot in life if you enjoy being a white knight.
 
Obvious troll thread, and once again, GD in it's usual style of falling over itself in eagerness to look down on people provides the perfect bait.
 
jasonsony735 said:
Some of the comments left are so stupid I can't help but laugh.

A lot of you are saying I'm a loser because I don't wish to buy a car Ha Ha , its not that I can't be bothered , I just don't want to be like the other 70% of the uk population who likes wasting £300 + a month on car loans and finance , My credit history is perfect and I don't have any debt at all and I'm happy with that & I cycle to work everyday :) , So I'm healthy and debt free yeehhhhaa :P.
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I can't help but laugh either. It's fair enough if you don't want to own a car but I'm sure where this £300+ a month thing comes into it. Even a £500 shed up front means no monthly expense and then you only have insurance and tax to fork out for. That should be significantly less than £300+ a month. You don't have to get a new car or a car on lease.

I just don't see this ending well in the long run if you're going to insist on getting the bus everywhere because it'll mean every time it comes to going out and doing stuff together she'll be the one driving and she'll eventually get bored of that too. I get bored of driving (I do about 40k a year mainly for work) and it's great when I can get my wife to drive to the shops or whatever.

I respect your choice and can understand your mindset to an extent, but I think you need to be 100% sure that in the long term she'll be willing to deal with being the only driver. Even on days out it'll eventually get very annoying. As I mentioned before myself and my wife split the driving up which helps a lot.
 
ChroniC said:
I absolutely disagree with you, don't think that because 2 people agree that your right. It's even in nature that a male will always dislike an aposing males offspring. It's not exactly a huge leap of reason to think that, it's possible that's why women with children are less appealing.
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You have the nature argument backwards. A female with children is actually very appealing from a nature point of view because it is proof that they are fertile.
 
RDM said:
You have the nature argument backwards. A female with children is actually very appealing from a nature point of view because it is proof that they are fertile.
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It's obvious that he was comparing the kind of situation to when a lion goes in and kills the other males cubs.

Human males do not look at a woman with a kid and go "wow, she is fertile", human males historically and typically do not immediately warm to the idea of taking on another mans child. That is just human nature, and represents the average.

However, it still does not make single mothers any less than any other women, it just objectively makes it harder for them to attract and keep a man.
 
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Richdog said:
It's obvious that he was comparing the kind of situation to when a lion goes in and kills the other males cubs.
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Which is a separate issue. From the male lion's point of view the fact that the lioness is obviously fertile is a good thing.

Richdog said:
Human males do not look at a woman with a kid and go "wow, she is fertile", human males historically and typically do not immediately warm to the idea of taking on another mans child. That is just human nature, and represents the average.

However, it still does not make single mothers any less than any other women, it just objectively makes it harder for them to attract and keep a man.
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Which are human society rather than nature issues. I was just talking about his flawed comparison to nature. In the natural world fertile is good as fertile means your genes get carried on.
 
Richdog said:
It's obvious that he was comparing the kind of situation to when a lion goes in and kills the other males cubs.

Human males do not look at a woman with a kid and go "wow, she is fertile", human males historically and typically do not immediately warm to the idea of taking on another mans child. That is just human nature, and represents the average.

However, it still does not make single mothers any less than any other women, it just objectively makes it harder for them to attract and keep a man.
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Exactly, but to have a objective view point as such, makes you less mature supposedly. :)
The lady in question is no less any other woman, but her situation is in the eyes of a fair chunk of the male population.
That said she is on the other hand just playing the same game! She is seeing the OP as less of a male from not being able to provide for her and her ofspring, except at least she is willing to accept that fact, and possibly has lost interest.
He needs to find someone on the same level.
 
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