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You and mike should start a club lol...
With forever alone balloons, I'm up for it Mike if you are.
Might draw some attention our way.
The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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With forever alone balloons, I'm up for it Mike if you are.
Might draw some attention our way.
She started seeing someone from her work for a few weeks, but it ended over a month and they're just friends now.
It was mainly to get it off my chest as I've had a lot build up over the past week. We're meeting next week, by then I should have a better idea of her intentions.
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I wrote out a big thought Map today.
It's now pretty consistent now
But there are also some big elements on there I could do with discussing
a lot of it is risk:reward based
And a particular issue I have is 'leave the door open'
My biggest root issue is dealing with uncertainty. Which my job has plenty of. And now I've labeled 'love' as same from people. From little things to life changing.
And yes, I should at least cut down writing here. Must bore everyone!
I know I have a problem, but may be too stubborn or just me to fix it
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You are almost as repetitive as Acme and his outspoken wish to replace his car
You have more of a right to speak out and seek counsel though
She may not want him there as a replacement but you never know.
I know some really nice girls who just happen to be single mums but I couldn't get my head around the idea of dealing with someone else's kids (I've never even wanted my own!). Early days you don't need to get involved at all as it's not fair, but further down the line it just seems like a recipe for frustration and/or disaster.
I've had offers I'd jump on if they didn't have a kid or kids. Makes me feel like a bit of a selfish arse but I really don't want a complicated life.
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You are almost as repetitive as Acme and his outspoken wish to replace his car
You have more of a right to speak out and seek counsel though
Well aware of it.
I'm going to book myself in at gp and discuss options. Think I've gone all way back to square 1. And hopefully you guys get a break! All I want is to disappear, can't get out of those thoughts.
I pity the poor person who is going to end up dealing with this!
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So being the moron I am I decided to ignore all the good advice here and make a complete knob of myself yesterday.
After the debacle of the crying girl from work a couple of weeks back, who shall now be known as Sarah, we had our first big work night out. Sarah and I went down the pub at lunch with a few others, we got a few beers in and decided that it would be a good idea to both take a half day and get completely slaughtered before the big work do. Much alcohol was drunk, much fun was had, much flirting occurred. My brain, being be the big stupid slow retarded thing it is convinced me that she did infact see me as more than a friend, despite her words telling me the exact opposite of that two weeks previously.
Fast forward to further on in the night, the main group has turned up now, we are all pretty drunk. She ends up getting off with somebody else from work right in front of me, which leaves me feeling pretty ****** about myself. I leave, she gets annoyed at me for leaving.
We text a bit today, its spelled out in clear terms to me that I am just a friend, will only ever be just a friend, and can we still be friends. Since I have an awful record at being "just friends" with girls I'm forced to tell her that it will be for the best for both of us if we go our separate ways.
Life seriously blows at the minute.
After the debacle of the crying girl from work a couple of weeks back, who shall now be known as Sarah, we had our first big work night out. Sarah and I went down the pub at lunch with a few others, we got a few beers in and decided that it would be a good idea to both take a half day and get completely slaughtered before the big work do. Much alcohol was drunk, much fun was had, much flirting occurred. My brain, being be the big stupid slow retarded thing it is convinced me that she did infact see me as more than a friend, despite her words telling me the exact opposite of that two weeks previously.
Fast forward to further on in the night, the main group has turned up now, we are all pretty drunk. She ends up getting off with somebody else from work right in front of me, which leaves me feeling pretty ****** about myself. I leave, she gets annoyed at me for leaving.
We text a bit today, its spelled out in clear terms to me that I am just a friend, will only ever be just a friend, and can we still be friends. Since I have an awful record at being "just friends" with girls I'm forced to tell her that it will be for the best for both of us if we go our separate ways.
Life seriously blows at the minute.
Don't worry about it, she's just another idiot that likes the attention. You are much better off without her in your life.
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Fleshlight is love, fleshlight is life
I think the last bit was good move. I couldn't be just friends after I crossed that line in my mind
I dunno were we stand, But we both talk all the time, we've both been the constant in each other's lives, we can forgive each others past's and move on.
Are we both over each in a relationship (not just friends) - We have been but this time it feel's different.
Were is it going? I have no idea.
Am I bothered about her having a little one - no
Never a truer word said.
Well tried to get the courage up to speak to my ex ex, about it.
Just coudn't do it. To much fear of messing up a friendship, and making them feel akward. I don't know how to do what seem's really simple.
It hurts to say, but it might be best to let her go, and just be as friends.
Just coudn't do it. To much fear of messing up a friendship, and making them feel akward. I don't know how to do what seem's really simple.
It hurts to say, but it might be best to let her go, and just be as friends.
THat's one view, the other is that actually life is too short...if the potential outcome is something awesome then it's worth sticking your neck out. Even if she says she isn't interested, you guys are clearly good friends so I doubt she'll run a mile. Better than not knowing and always wondering "what if".
Shouldn't have left that party, you made yourself look weak which is very unattractive, you should've just ignored her after that and hung out with different people, preferably other women.
Well yeah, ideally that to be honest.
