personally I would not want or expect two individuals to pay for my meal (as well as scores of other people) unless I knew them to be very well off (60k is not well off)
It is very normal at weddings, standard even, for the hosts to pay for the catering, in whatever form it takes... have you ever been to one?
The thing is, I'm not hearing much justification for it other than tradition and "that's what people have always done" which I don't find very convincing.
The thing is, I'm not hearing much justification for it other than tradition and "that's what people have always done" which I don't find very convincing.
Normal procedure in China, couple book the venue, if you attend you're expected to lai si 50 quid or so as a wedding gift/cover costs. Usually 150+ people though and expensive food like abalone.
Don't know why it's just a big deal. Don't want to to pay, don't go.
And even more if it's family - we just had to donate £2000 for her eldest nephew's wedding! Good meal though, and far too much alcohol!
Err, no you're not! I say this having been to two...
The thing is, I'm not hearing much justification for it other than tradition and "that's what people have always done" which I don't find very convincing.
The way to do it is to book your local social club function room and lay on a huge buffet spread. Get family to rally around making the food for it, everyone knows a granny type who loves baking. Lot cheaper than getting an outside caterer in.
At the end of the day it is just the cost of the room hire and the cost of the food bought to make the buffet. A lot of clubs even let you have the room free as they make the money on the wet sales so even more win win.
This way is cheaper but not without issues.
Food hygiene is important, and whilst everyone does know a granny that loves baking or making food - not everyone has the same standard of food hygiene. Giving your guests food poisoning is just not cool.
Also, as my family are currently finding out - the venues themselves may not be overly clean or aired, nor the family helpers too good on their hygiene standards.
We went to a family wedding reception weekend before last in a function room of a purpose built club, and at least 14 people that we currently know of have picked up flu like symptoms, chest infection and sickness/diarrhea bugs, including the bride. All were there and all started getting symptoms at roughly the same time. Some of the people have been really poorly (and still are). OK, you could say it is simply coincidence, but it would be spooky if it was
OK perhaps not in the same way as this, but the money in the red packets can go towards the meal costs.
BB x
I believe the lovely Brightonbelle knows the Chinese traditions without a shadow of a doubt.
Also the key thing is to watch what you eat, I've been to buffets that have had loads of sea food - always avoid the sea food!