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Well i just found out the girl i was dating was shagging someone else.

Get the popcorn lads...

Well we meet up last night to see Krampus "Shocking Film" btw, and first off she saids that we cant have sex tonight no biggie i thought, untill she needs to talk to me.

She tells me that she has Cirvititus or some STI, last time we had sex was over 2 weeks ago so i ask her has been she been sleeping with someone else. She saids you know i have and btw i didn't even know.

All this time she saids shes feeling close to me and strong feelings ball crap, i dropped her right there and then and wished her well with the new bloke, one thing i don't want is sloppy seconds and definitely not some STI for another guy thats been pumping her thanks but no thanks.

This is a warning to all guys wear a bloody condom, i luckily am clean but this girl gets checked out EVERY month for STI because she sleeps around so much ewwww.
 
Unicorn said:
You can't break the "women are mental" situation the world has... They all have a trigger
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only thing mental about her so far is she asks me to leave the phone on whilst we sleep so she can feel near me :D

but it's kinda cute and adorable right? shes probably not the only woman to ever ask for this?
 
I'm on date 3 with gym instructor girl. Suggested dinner out but in the end she's gonna cook something for us

Date 2.. I didn't know if it was a good or bad thing. Coffee at 3pm turned into her saying .. So would you like breakfast before you leave?
 
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I dunno what's wrong with me (well I do)
Anxiety is starting to take over in my head.
My. Mind is playing games with me on texting frequency. Haven't had one all evening and it's third date tomorrow.

Why oh why can't I control my emotions. It's pathetic :-\

I used to be really anxious, this is the only topic that I get anxiety over at all now.
I can talk to a new group of people etc etc
Soon as it comes to potential dates etc I just get all consumed by it.

If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.
 
I'm now single al4x said:
I dunno what's wrong with me (well I do)
Anxiety is starting to take over in my head.
My. Mind is playing games with me on texting frequency. Haven't had one all evening and it's third date tomorrow.

Why oh why can't I control my emotions. It's pathetic :-\

I used to be really anxious, this is the only topic that I get anxiety over at all now.
I can talk to a new group of people etc etc
Soon as it comes to potential dates etc I just get all consumed by it.

If anyone has any advice I'd appreciate it.
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Dave has got it spot on, focus on the moment and enjoy it.
 
FWB gone, had interest from someone else I'd known for a while but came to the conclusion I'd had enough this year of trying... I decided to just cast away the whole idea and have treated myself to two rather expensive adventure holidays. :)

Who knows what the future holds! :D
 
dave1983 said:
Well i just found out the girl i was dating was shagging someone else.

Get the popcorn lads...

Well we meet up last night to see Krampus "Shocking Film" btw, and first off she saids that we cant have sex tonight no biggie i thought, untill she needs to talk to me.

She tells me that she has Cirvititus or some STI, last time we had sex was over 2 weeks ago so i ask her has been she been sleeping with someone else. She saids you know i have and btw i didn't even know.

All this time she saids shes feeling close to me and strong feelings ball crap, i dropped her right there and then and wished her well with the new bloke, one thing i don't want is sloppy seconds and definitely not some STI for another guy thats been pumping her thanks but no thanks.

This is a warning to all guys wear a bloody condom, i luckily am clean but this girl gets checked out EVERY month for STI because she sleeps around so much ewwww.
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If you last had sex 2 weeks ago you can't say for certain you're clean you need to get tested around 3 weeks
 
So date two with someone I genuinely thought I'd have a future with, get to the desert choices and she says she's like the sharing platter. I take a look and see that there's not much on there that I'd like, can we choose individual deserts. She then lays a test on me to effectively try and stamp her foot down, I have none of it and she ends up excusing herself and goes to the loo. After she gets back she avoids all eye contact and her entire body language changed. After I paid and drove her home, she said in the car that this won't work as she wants to be treated like a princess.
 
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So date two with someone I genuinely thought I'd have a future with, get to the desert choices and she says she's like the sharing platter. I take a look and see that there's not much on there that I'd like, can we choose individual deserts. She then lays a test on me to effectively try and stamp her foot down, I have none of it and she ends up excusing herself and goes to the loo. After she gets back she avoids all eye contact and her entire body language changed. After I paid and drove her home, she said in the car that this won't work as she wants to be treated like a princess.
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You've had a lucky escape then, women like that aren't worth the trouble, you'll be endlessly arguing when she has a strop and it'll always make you feel like you aren't doing enough to make her happy, when in reality you are doing more than you should to please an ungrateful brat.
 
Clov!s said:
You've had a lucky escape then, women like that aren't worth the trouble, you'll be endlessly arguing when she has a strop and it'll always make you feel like you aren't doing enough to make her happy, when in reality you are doing more than you should to please an ungrateful brat.
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Yup that's what I'm thinking. She's now after seeing me again, I'm going to go along with the ride till I bed her then bin her off. Or is that cruel? :o
 
Clov!s said:
You've had a lucky escape then, women like that aren't worth the trouble, you'll be endlessly arguing when she has a strop and it'll always make you feel like you aren't doing enough to make her happy, when in reality you are doing more than you should to please an ungrateful brat.
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That does sound like a lucky escape. I know I couldn't handle a person like that.. And this is the stage before bad habits show!

So having not heard from this girl for nearly 24 hours should I send another text at lunch confirming tonight? I've never done the 'two texts in a row' thing because of the way it looks etc
 
Tefal said:
If you last had sex 2 weeks ago you can't say for certain you're clean you need to get tested around 3 weeks
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Ok so need some manly advice.

So she text's me to ask about the cinema tickets after sleeping with this other dude.

I feel that she wants her cake and eat it, she basically used this other guy just for sex, but she is still interested in me. I know I seem but-hurt about the whole thing but what's peed me off more than anything is finding out when we going out on a date that a) there's another guy involved and b) potentially I could have an STI not exactly dinner talk.

Her reasoning is because it's the first time she has been single since 19 and she's 30 and it was a distraction!!! so she just sleeping around I can't see how this would end well particularly if I am not seeing other girls and every week I get "we need a chat I might have STI from xyz" . BTW I do like her but I don't want to rush anything.
 
dave1983 said:
Ok so need some manly advice.

So she text's me to ask about the cinema tickets after sleeping with this other dude.

I feel that she wants her cake and eat it, she basically used this other guy just for sex, but she is still interested in me. I know I seem but-hurt about the whole thing but what's peed me off more than anything is finding out when we going out on a date that a) there's another guy involved and b) potentially I could have an STI not exactly dinner talk.

Her reasoning is because it's the first time she has been single since 19 and she's 30 and it was a distraction!!! so she just sleeping around I can't see how this would end well particularly if I am not seeing other girls and every week I get "we need a chat I might have STI from xyz" . BTW I do like her but I don't want to rush anything.
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Don't be 'that' guy that takes back a bird after she's fooled around with someone else, move on and find someone else.

It's quite clear she's a **** so why would you put yourself back into that situation?
 
S2KIP said:
So date two with someone I genuinely thought I'd have a future with, get to the desert choices and she says she's like the sharing platter. I take a look and see that there's not much on there that I'd like, can we choose individual deserts. She then lays a test on me to effectively try and stamp her foot down, I have none of it and she ends up excusing herself and goes to the loo. After she gets back she avoids all eye contact and her entire body language changed. After I paid and drove her home, she said in the car that this won't work as she wants to be treated like a princess.
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Women who try and control things are very insecure and have low self esteem 90% of the time. My ex was like this and becomes a mind field of tests "walking on egg shells".
 
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