Well I took your advice and took the high road.
I told her to delete my number because she's wasting my time.
She then came out with how she doesn't want me to be angry with her and regret my decision. She went on to say how she's wasted 10 years on someone who doesn't love her (this his her ex).
I basically told her that if I was interested in someone I wouldn't have unprotected sex with someone else or sex with anyone for that matter.
Then she asked why I agreed to it initially. Yes at first when we first started seeing each other I agreed we could see other people, but when she stated she had strong feelings for me that agreement comes null and void because I had the same feelings, but you guys are right lucky I found out now than in a full blown relationship "oh sorry I feel on someone sausage and I just happened as distraction".
Ok so need some manly advice.
I feel that she wants her cake and eat it, she basically used this other guy just for sex, but she is still interested in me.
Well I took your advice and took the high road.
I told her to delete my number because she's wasting my time.
She then came out with how she doesn't want me to be angry with her and regret my decision. She went on to say how she's wasted 10 years on someone who doesn't love her (this his her ex).
I basically told her that if I was interested in someone I wouldn't have unprotected sex with someone else or sex with anyone for that matter.
Then she asked why I agreed to it initially. Yes at first when we first started seeing each other I agreed we could see other people, but when she stated she had strong feelings for me that agreement comes null and void because I had the same feelings, but you guys are right lucky I found out now than in a full blown relationship "oh sorry I feel on someone sausage and I just happened as distraction".
Think your both at fault if you clearly agreed seeing other people was OK. When she told you that she had feelings and you responded in kind you both should have had that talk to be exclusive to each other so that both have an understanding.
She had a previous relationship for 10 years, I don't think she would be the type to sleep around despite it happening with someone recently, she felt you weren't exclusive so I can see her point.
A lesson to be learned with internet dating I think.
Had to have talk with mine last night too.
Seeing as this was date 3 and I needed to know if she was being exclusive after what happened on date 2 and 3
I told her I wouldn't have done that if I wasn't exclusive, she said the same.
She also asked how I saw 'this' and I said serious in that I'm looking at this very much as a potential relationship, she said same
Think your both at fault if you clearly agreed seeing other people was OK. When she told you that she had feelings and you responded in kind you both should have had that talk to be exclusive to each other so that both have an understanding.
She had a previous relationship for 10 years, I don't think she would be the type to sleep around despite it happening with someone recently, she felt you weren't exclusive so I can see her point.
A lesson to be learned with internet dating I think.
I thought you was giving up on dating for awhile?
Alex if it doesn't work out just get on Tinder and bang everything that moves.
Alex if it doesn't work out just get on Tinder and bang everything that moves.
it's not an internet date, we known each other for years since school, we've tried a relationship when I was 18 and it never really hit off.
whilst I did agree to be exclusive that was at the beginning, until she said she had strong feelings and keen to see the children, She even cancelled travelling because she wanted to see where things would go.
question guys!
so i have found out from a friend, where my date went wrong with this girl, it the date went really well i was a gentleman opened the door was polite ended up in a kiss at the end of the night
anyways she went all sam fisher silent and stopped responding and my thought was if she was interested she will message back.
anyways found out from a friend that i made 2 "rookie errors" i recommended we go dutch at the end of the meal we had and we both did agree on the venue etc before hand, and apprentley because i didnt pay for the meal in full that counted against me bearing in mind this is the first date we had.
and the other which is abit more personal was i was wearing my face fungus though i do always try and keep it neat and tidy but i explained it all before its difficult for me due to my ezema on my face and shaving causes most of my face to flare up etc but apprently she took that as me not making much of an effort..
in any case it is what it is but .. my main gripe was the meal scenarary id have no problem fully wine and dining a girl after a few dates ?
my friend says this isnt the case and it is for the guy to pay for the first few days..
my friend says this isnt the case and it is for the guy to pay for the first few days..
Well knowing each other for years or internet dating it doesn't really change things in the end, you dated each other.
I still think what I said is a fair assessment, you can have these conversations about seeing others but when you think things change and they need to stop, if you don't have a follow up conversation then I can see her point of view.
I do agree with how you see things in principle, but you can't expect everyone else to see things the same way.
If things never worked when you were 18 how come you tried again with her?