The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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unless your actively in a relationship I wouldn't bother.
pretty much a stranger still
It's nothing big and it is 6th date. But I wouldn't say is relationship
Is also more thought than finance
Better to have something and her not want it than other way around I thought.
Got a decent hand made mug and was going to put some decent coffee in it as in the morning she always offers coffee and not cheap stuff either.
So it's only cost 30 in total,
So I got rid of the girlfriend yesterday, long story short.
I've been looking at POF and it looks like I could get on with it but one big problem I hate talking about myself, so what are some "good" things to throw out in the little info page thingy
I've been looking at POF and it looks like I could get on with it but one big problem I hate talking about myself, so what are some "good" things to throw out in the little info page thingy
When I was on there many of the women who emailed me were attracted to the fact I mostly wrote about what kind of woman I wanted to meet, and that I didn't talk about myself too much.
For info just write a few things about what you enjoy doing rather than trying to sell yourself.
Urgh, I had a date with a girl a couple of weeks ago and it went brilliantly, we got on really well, time flew, we kissed at the end of the night, and arranged to meet up the next week. The next time we went to a Christmas market and had a quick drink, and she got an email and almost burst into tears - she'd been having a family issue (falling out with a cousin over arranging a big family party), and she had to leave. We walked about 15 mins to the tube together and got on really well again, and she seemed to cheer up a lot. We went our separate ways again having kissed, and nominally said that we'd meet up this coming Tuesday depending on work.
We've texted a few times since, and had a little back and forth conversation (she apologised, I said there was no need, we discussed our respective work Xmas parties etc), but since then it's gone totally cold. That conversation ended on a question from me which she didn't respond to, and I messaged her again earlier (so a couple of days later), and again have had nothing back.
The possibilities are that she's really busy/stressed with work and this family issue (she does seem to get stressed fairly easily) and doesn't want to deal with me right now, or that she doesn't actually like me that much.
I just hate the waiting with texts, it's awful. I'd much rather someone simply told me that it wasn't going to work, and left it at that. Now I've no idea what to do if she doesn't respond - do I message her again on Sunday, to check about Tuesday (assuming that I won't get a response, but you never know...)? Or do I assume that she's currently really busy/stressed, leave it until after Christmas and New Year, message her when we're both back down in London and hope that the time at home with her parents has relaxed her slightly?
We've texted a few times since, and had a little back and forth conversation (she apologised, I said there was no need, we discussed our respective work Xmas parties etc), but since then it's gone totally cold. That conversation ended on a question from me which she didn't respond to, and I messaged her again earlier (so a couple of days later), and again have had nothing back.
The possibilities are that she's really busy/stressed with work and this family issue (she does seem to get stressed fairly easily) and doesn't want to deal with me right now, or that she doesn't actually like me that much.
I just hate the waiting with texts, it's awful. I'd much rather someone simply told me that it wasn't going to work, and left it at that. Now I've no idea what to do if she doesn't respond - do I message her again on Sunday, to check about Tuesday (assuming that I won't get a response, but you never know...)? Or do I assume that she's currently really busy/stressed, leave it until after Christmas and New Year, message her when we're both back down in London and hope that the time at home with her parents has relaxed her slightly?
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It would be great if society moved on from relying on textual exchanges for relations with one another. I've found as I've become more an old git that I can't be doing with text so much. An old fashioned phone call is so much better. Not only would you have been able to cast all doubt out of your mind but you could have improved upon your relationship with her. Instead your left in limbo, unsure what she wants, unsure if even got the messages and unsure if messaging once again will now be perceived as too keen.
Just call her and ask her straight. Why waste time?
I've had my phone run out of credit and the girl got the hump because she thought I hung up on her, even though I warned her the call might be cut short.
Hindsight says I should have told her to shut and go to sleep as it was 2am on new years day, and I wasted a few pounds on that call.
A more recent girl kept texting even though I would ignore them after telling her that I prefer phone calls.
Because when I'm single, I go on long spurts of not contacting anyone through phone calls or texts. Wifi and hangouts/iMessage/whatsapp usually tides me over. So the pay as you go plans have suited me for 15 years since I got my first (bt cellnet) sim and I had otherwise saved a lot of money by not going on pay monthly plans.
only reason to go on contract is if you can't use free wifi somewhere and want mobile data really.
everyone I know uses viber, skype, line etc for free wifi calls and texts
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Thats fine if everyone you stay in touch with is under 30
I dont think my mum will be getting skype anytime soon.
That was from 10 years ago, now I end up using the extra data from topping up and not actually spending the credit on my sim (O2). I barely hit my data allowance of 500mb in the month mainly due to wifi or not actually using my phone for that kind of stuff these days.