In this day and age for someone to not "see" a message is mental and aload of rubbish, shes been online meaning she has opened whatsapp and would have seen any unread messages, shes chose not to go into it to avoid showing the blue tick or has hers turned to off anyway. move on and forget about it, her loss not yours.
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In this day and age for someone to not "see" a message is mental and aload of rubbish, shes been online meaning she has opened whatsapp and would have seen any unread messages, shes chose not to go into it to avoid showing the blue tick or has hers turned to off anyway. move on and forget about it, her loss not yours.
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Well I guess you guys were right about my ex,
We had a chat just after Christmas to give it another try as she wanted to move back in. all seemed well we kissed and cuddled she even mentioned going on holiday in October "it seemed abit too soon".
Come Saturday she seemed abit off, understanding since my breakup "emotional needs of a women" I connected asking her what was on her mind.
1. She didn't fall in love which she expected when we first met, baring in mind she look scruffy on our first meet on new years day, taking up smoking and what looked like she didn't shower and talking about hangover farts "how romantic" I should have seen the red flags.
2. She said she had no romantic connection and didn't feel comfortable with kissing and cuddling and it would take time!. I confronted her about this that im in for the real deal and will not be friend zoned.
we went swimming Sunday and her first comments was about how she had a lump in her bum and it's like piles "YUK" I mentioned going to the doctors wait for it.... "no ill pop it myself" eeeewwwwww. then she mentioned how her swimming costume wont contain her hairy muff i.e. she hasn't shaved or looked after her down below "apparently it keeps the bogey man at bay" WTF.
So I break all ties with her.
Her question is when am I moving out "of my parents" and apparently she's just trying to make conversation, eh.
We had a chat just after Christmas to give it another try as she wanted to move back in. all seemed well we kissed and cuddled she even mentioned going on holiday in October "it seemed abit too soon".
Come Saturday she seemed abit off, understanding since my breakup "emotional needs of a women" I connected asking her what was on her mind.
1. She didn't fall in love which she expected when we first met, baring in mind she look scruffy on our first meet on new years day, taking up smoking and what looked like she didn't shower and talking about hangover farts "how romantic" I should have seen the red flags.
2. She said she had no romantic connection and didn't feel comfortable with kissing and cuddling and it would take time!. I confronted her about this that im in for the real deal and will not be friend zoned.
we went swimming Sunday and her first comments was about how she had a lump in her bum and it's like piles "YUK" I mentioned going to the doctors wait for it.... "no ill pop it myself" eeeewwwwww. then she mentioned how her swimming costume wont contain her hairy muff i.e. she hasn't shaved or looked after her down below "apparently it keeps the bogey man at bay" WTF.
So I break all ties with her.
Her question is when am I moving out "of my parents" and apparently she's just trying to make conversation, eh.
It took me over 2 hours to get to sleep last night. Mind just wouldn't shut down thinking about everything. Trying to keep busy as work to keep my mind occupied but the second I stop doing something having to think about my mind goes back to the usual again.. This is driving me mad
Oh My God!
Yes OMG, I expected more from my ex but she has gone the lowest I've ever seen her.
she wears the same black jumper every time I see her and the fact that she doesn't have any self respect or dignity I'm sure she should have been a male. She always gets cysts around her below area and it's disgusting I used to nearly throw up because she would pop it in front of me.
You would expect more from a 26 year old, she's the worlds manipulator and she loves the ego boost.
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tbh I'd have thought after this has gone on for so long that you'd have moved on from this.
I'm sure she's not but from what you tell us about her she sounds like one of the most awful types of people to be around.
Why did you go out with that?
Seconded. Didn't know was that bad from initial posts.
Update on myself
Just so you know, this is an updated user name. And it's Alex
So I made a few new friends since breakup in may, and unfortunately, as hard as I've tried not to (and I really have) I have kind of fallen for one of these new friends
This didn't happen initially, mainly as she had a bf so no feelings were developed. Met up only in groups etc
Fast forward to December and communication starts becoming private, online , and now (just before Christmas) find out she isn't in a relationship any more
Problem 1 - this happened in November, ie absolutely no way I'd act on this any way soon
Fast forward again to bit post Christmas day to present
She invites me to new years with her friends (who I do know enough to get on well with) and I spend most of the night with her chatting, stay over (clarity nothing in anyway happens) and we chat more over breakfast - this happens to be best night of the year overall.
Fast forward another week and I invite her to a a group thing where she knows no one, she accepts, it's an 8 hour thing, again pretty much spend all that time including 2 hour drive with her. It's a very geeky common interest group we have.
This was recently, on cards next is a cinema trip which may or may not be just us two, to a film she has seen, which I haven't.
Other problems
Haven't a clue (as in rubbish with this stuff) if she likes me beyond a friend at all.. Or is even open to that
Pretty much know that feelings on my side will move beyond the point where if she got another bf I would find it very hard to be social with her
Guess it's just a case of wait and see and don't force things?
Yeah. Run and don't look back!
Something simple like going in for a kiss will tell you what you need to know.