Dating multiple women - morality

Nodiggidy123 said:
afternoon all.

ive now been separated 4 or so months. been out on a few dates but not met anyone i can see a long term future with.

im in the rare position where i am dating 3 different women. i have kissed 2 of them and there is the possibilty of taking things further with one of them.

the issue i have is am i doing something wrong? none of them have shown any interest in being exclusive but the whole thing just feel a bit strange to me.

am i doing a bad thing here?
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I found myself single a couple of years ago and actually got the idea of PoF because my GF, before she binned me, said her dad was picking up girls off PoF all the time.

So, armed with a decent profile I sat back and waited. In fairness, it was quite an exciting time. I averaged a 3:1 chance of something more than just a date.

However, once it moved to more than just a date, I stopped looking. Got too close too quick to one girl which burned me. I had fresh dates one day after the other at one point. Needed to write down things like name, DOB, kids etc. Had 3 in a row towards the end and actually chose the first of the three. We've been together about 14 months now.

As to the girl saying she's not sure - give it a bit of course but you've discovered there are many, many girls out there so whilst it's OK to take your time and give her time, don't wait to long.
 
Seeing a few comments about women wanting free meals etc.

Guess i'm the only one who refuses to pay for a dates meal unless i've known them a while.

It's 2016 why should I be expected to pay for a woman's meal? I'm sure they can work and can afford to split the bill.
 
XeNoN89 said:
Seeing a few comments about women wanting free meals etc.

Guess i'm the only one who refuses to pay for a dates meal unless i've known them a while.

It's 2016 why should I be expected to pay for a woman's meal? I'm sure they can work and can afford to split the bill.
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Do you tell them before or after you go out though? as In do you wait for the bill to arrive and then tell them, or do you agree before you go on a date?
 
It's been a few years since I was online dating, but even then it was the norm to date other people.

Let's face it, you can tell if someone is still active on a site can't you, you certainly used to be.

For me it was a discussion we had, "Is it time to deactivate our profiles?", if it seemed to heading for something more serious, it always seemed implied that we were potentially dating other people until we explicitly said we weren't.

For me the trigger for that conversation was sleeping with someone, as long as you're both honest though, there are no set rules for all circumstances.
 
Nodiggidy123 said:
afternoon all.

ive now been separated 4 or so months. been out on a few dates but not met anyone i can see a long term future with.

im in the rare position where i am dating 3 different women. i have kissed 2 of them and there is the possibilty of taking things further with one of them.

the issue i have is am i doing something wrong? none of them have shown any interest in being exclusive but the whole thing just feel a bit strange to me.

am i doing a bad thing here?
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Not if the women know, otherwise if they find out they'd call you a sleaze bag or some crap.

Personally, I think what you're doing is sensible.
 
The way i'd look at it is like this...

Would someone be peeved if they found out you were only dating them? No.

Would someone be peeved if they found out you were dating over people? Potentially.

What if one of the people you're dating turns out to be someone special? Do you want to risk that so you can date others at the same time?
 
I wouldn't have the energy to date 3!

As long as everyone is on the same page it's fine.

I'd say after a few dates it's time to have the exclusivity talk. If you are at that stage (sounds like you are) just bring it up, if the one you like wants it, cut the others
 
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