The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

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I'll post on mumsnet next ;)

I just wanted you to see a different perspective from us geeks.

Like i say, if you want to give it a go with her, when you meet, tell her you've only known each other a short time, you appreciate the holiday was booked before you met, but the holding hands etc don't add up - now's the time to be honest and then take things from there.

To start a relationship on lies you will always throw this back at her and it will be doomed from the offset :(
 
I do think it highly likely the gf is unfaithful.

However, even if she isn't, she doesn't sound a very nice person if she's spending a holiday with a 'friend' and texting negative things about 'said' friend, behind his back.
However, the OP doesn't sound ideal either. The post indicates a level of immaturity and vulgarity that I think would be off putting to most 'nice' women.

Given this, it's possible that should the OP end the relationship, he maybe unable to attract anyone who's an improvement.

My advice therefore is that the OP continues the relationship, but ensures he regularly checks his gf's phone, follows her around Birmingham, and periodically accuses her of being unfaithful.

Every month or so, they should split up, have several public rows, malign each other on fb, and the gf should threaten to get an injunction.
They should then reconcile and start trying for a baby.

Every now and then either one should, apropos of nothing, change their fb status to single, leaving the other to ask on forums why strangers think this might be.

All communication should be via fb, giving all mutual acquaintances the opportunity to weigh in and to insult both parties.

And of course, the OP should keep the forums updated throughout.
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ouch.
 
I do think it highly likely the gf is unfaithful.
the sex is good though

However, even if she isn't, she doesn't sound a very nice person if she's spending a holiday with a 'friend' and texting negative things about 'said' friend, behind his back.
the sex is good though
However, the OP doesn't sound ideal either. The post indicates a level of immaturity and vulgarity that I think would be off putting to most 'nice' women.
the sex is good though

Given this, it's possible that should the OP end the relationship, he maybe unable to attract anyone who's an improvement.
who cares, the sex is good

My advice therefore is that the OP continues the relationship, but ensures he regularly checks his gf's phone, follows her around Birmingham, and periodically accuses her of being unfaithful.
Can just ask her for her next lie

Every month or so, they should split up, have several public rows, malign each other on fb, and the gf should threaten to get an injunction.
They should then reconcile and start trying for a baby.

Every now and then either one should, apropos of nothing, change their fb status to single, leaving the other to ask on forums why strangers think this might be.

All communication should be via fb, giving all mutual acquaintances the opportunity to weigh in and to insult both parties.

And of course, the OP should keep the forums updated throughout.
:D
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We're all good guys. :D
 
So I got this girls number at a train platform a few weeks back as I was down getting the keys for my new apartment there, told her I'd message her when I get down & we didn't communicate until then. We started talking and hit it off, not chatting constantly but exchanging a few messages a day for a few days and then she just goes all weird as hell. We'd arranged to meet up today & once again she's just being funny, talking about meds an all this ****.

If she messages asking to meet up I might go along to see what she's like, if not I'm just gonna tell her I take the hint and get rid. Feeling the latter is probably wiser as she just seems a whole bag of head****ery & it's not what I need when I'm starting a new job and all. Sucks cause I'm genuinely alone here with 0 friends & far from my friends and family, would be nice to have some company.
 
Lots of new posts!

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illuz said:
If she messages asking to meet up I might go along to see what she's like, if not I'm just gonna tell her I take the hint and get rid. Feeling the latter is probably wiser as she just seems a whole bag of head****ery & it's not what I need when I'm starting a new job and all. Sucks cause I'm genuinely alone here with 0 friends & far from my friends and family, would be nice to have some company.
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You're busy enough, do you want more drama in your life?
 
As I said, I know nobody here. Even if things didn't take the formal relationship path it would be nice to make a friend. She's a pretty woman so obviously a relationship would be a nice result. It's been some time since I even spoke to a lady/got a number. The last relationship I was in left me pretty battered in the head hence the time off, but the previous girl was just an immature head****, the girl ice been talking to is older (closer to 30 than my ex who was closer to 20) so I thought it would be less of a head**** - clearly not!

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Just want to report that I've been seeing my gf 6 months now, have been on two holidays and I'm very very happy. Such a good fit for me it's a bit crazy.
Just back from a camping trip a few days ago with no issues and a lot of fun.
So so much difference to a year ago (which some of you may remember)
 
413x said:
Just want to report that I've been seeing my gf 6 months now, have been on two holidays and I'm very very happy. Such a good fit for me it's a bit crazy.
Just back from a camping trip a few days ago with no issues and a lot of fun.
So so much difference to a year ago (which some of you may remember)
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Good news. Just make sure you regularly check your pans for bunnies, to be 100% certain. ;)
 
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