The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Narj said:
Oh come on, it depends on how you live your life. If you sit on your bum all day and have no family, social circles, hobbies or interests then maybe, but for me, I have so much going on that I'm pretty much never bored.

Thinking that you need another human to be complete is a pretty poor assumption to make. A partner should always complement you rather than being something you depend upon. It's nice to be in a relationship but if you're a sad, lonely mess outside of one then you have other problems to deal with. :p
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I know a lot of couple's and single people all around my age (34) to 10 years or so older than me. Pretty much every one who is single is happier, most couples are miserable as sin.
 
regulus said:
36 here and I'm the same. It's a nasty horrible age to date. Most single women in their 30s are either obese, angry or desperate.

The happiest guys I've met or hang with are all in their 30s or 40s, single and childfree. Must be something about that :p
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Honestly this is not true. I'm 35. Split up with my ex wife 2 years ago and i
It's been a amazing time. The availability of girls from 25 to 35 is shocking especially like me if you want a professional. With online dating it's so much easier to meet them. In general I seem to focus on Eastern Europeans in part because I'm a little shallow and looks are impotent to me and because they think and behave more like I do (I lived in prague for 15 years).

In the last couple of years I have dated a lawyer(s), architect, nurse l, project manager and now I'm getting to know one of the diplomats. Almost all of them are very cute and most did not have any major personality issies. One or 2 did have a bit of baggage but when you get to your 30's that's quite normal.

I'm average looking but I'm confident and a professional looking to start a family and there seems to be a abundance of very nice girls who focused on their jobs and have now decided they want a family also.
 
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Dr House said:
Honestly this is not true. I'm 35. Split up with my ex wife 2 years ago and i
It's been a amazing time. The availability of girls from 25 to 35 is shocking especially like me if you want a professional. With online dating it's so much easier to meet them. In general I seem to focus on Eastern Europeans in part because I'm a little shallow and looks are impotent to me and because they think and behave more like I do (I lived in prague for 15 years).

In the last couple of years I have dated a lawyer(s), architect, nurse l, project manager and now I'm getting to know one of the diplomats. Almost all of them are very cute and most did not have any major personality issies. One or 2 did have a bit of baggage but when you get to your 30's that's quite normal.

I'm average looking but I'm confident and a professional looking to start a family and there seems to be a abundance of very nice girls who focuses on their jobs and have now decided they want a family also.
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Hehe. I was only commiserating with the moany lot in here. I'm well aware of the quality out there. They just wouldn't want to hear it and misery so loves company.

Even in women their 30s or 40s. I won't run down what I've dated in the past but living in London, the world is your oyster when it comes to dating. Since I've moved to NZ .... just don't .... there's sweet FA here. Either way, I'm currently seeing someone nice :)
 
Dr House said:
Honestly this is not true. I'm 35. Split up with my ex wife 2 years ago and i
It's been a amazing time. The availability of girls from 25 to 35 is shocking especially like me if you want a professional. With online dating it's so much easier to meet them. In general I seem to focus on Eastern Europeans in part because I'm a little shallow and looks are impotent to me and because they think and behave more like I do (I lived in prague for 15 years).
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But that's the way many women work, especially in that age range. So its not surprising.

If you have an profession where it involves saving lives (army, doctor, fire man etc) then of course you attract more women. Because all they see is the job status and think "£££££££" or "oh! I cant wait tell the girls what man I am dating now!"

It doesn't make a blind bit of difference how good or bad looking you are. Just like some of my friends in the police force, the only way they can get women is flashing the badge otherwise they would flake without it.

Thankfully I didn't need to tell the women I am currently seeing, my job profession who I met in Budapest ;)
 
Well it's not surprising that a educated hard working girl also looks for the same in a partner but I don't think it's so much about money. More they want someone with a similar outlook.
 
RoboCod said:
Phwoar
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Tefal said:
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Lube up sonny
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RoboCod gets his secret wish:

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Me: "Better call Keith and make it a threeway!"

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I'm opposite. Although looks are important I've learnt they are a minor part. I actually don't think a super professional person is my cup of tea. I prefer a much more down to earth type.

I dated one eastern European girl and she was very domineering but this was far eastern European. It was definitely a cultural thing.

Yeah I wouldn't want to date women solely on my job title (not that it would happen to me) as I'd always wonder are they in it for me or what I have.
 
On another note, I'm 34 and got a 21 year olds number on Saturday, pretty fit one as well and surprisingly she's been chatting on Whatsapp. Still got the skills!
 
Dr House said:
Well it's not surprising that a educated hard working girl also looks for the same in a partner but I don't think it's so much about money. More they want someone with a similar outlook.
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I agree but in 99.9% of the time its not like that for us mere morals :D Its always the lower valued women looking for the higher valued men. The other way round is very rare.

Looking at the UK dating websites (never taken the plung, I like to meet my women the older skool way) So many women who wanted the high valued man. Yet they are chavvy, poorly educated, have a low paid job....if they have any job at all and with no prospects or ambitions in life. I honest don't know what they are expecting to attract.
 
malachi said:
I agree but in 99.9% of the time its not like that for us mere morals :D Its always the lower valued women looking for the higher valued men. The other way round is very rare.

Looking at the UK dating websites (never taken the plung, I like to meet my women the older skool way) So many women who wanted the high valued man. Yet they are chavvy, poorly educated, have a low paid job....if they have any job at all and with no prospects or ambitions in life. I honest don't know what they are expecting to attract.
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Saw this posted on reddit, I laughed a fair bit.

This is Tinder in a nutshell, good thing is I have a soft spot for trolling so I find it amusing. But I can see how guys find it infuriating.
 
See I wouldn't mind a lass who didn't work. As long as the house was gleaming, dinner was ready, everything done etc.

The more time I spend single though the more I love it.
 
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