The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Yes. Post in the relationships thread in GD, not in Home and Garden. HTH!

Seriously, being a mum is immensely tiring and even the four year old will still need a lot doing for them and with an other young one in the house she'll be run off her feet. Perhaps arrange time for her to relax. An uninterrupted hour for a long soak in the bath might not seem like a lot but she'll likely find it heaven.

Oh, welcome to parenthood. It doesn't really stop until they leave home.

It's important to make time for each other though, and it's also important for children to learn that not having mummy or daddy around 24/7 isn't the end of the world and that they don't come to rely on you both constantly.
 
To be honest, a parent taking that much interest in their children is a good thing. Would you rather she neglected them?
You're a parent, this is what can happen. Kids get priority over you as you can look after yourself, your kids can't. Just treasure these moments and enjoy it while you can, they won't be little forever and it'll change a bit when your eldest goes to school.
 
Tefal said:
Jesus christ people make **** complicated. (And this is comming from a guy whos sex life makes game of thrones seem simple)

Just tell her you dont want a relatio ship but since you both fancy each other may as well be friends with benifits and work out the frustration.

If she says no be cool carry on as friends (unless the only reason your friends is cause you hope you would get a shag in which case vut her out of your life)

If she says yes have sex and carry on as friends
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You sleep with your brother don't you?
 
RoboCod said:
You sleep with your brother don't you?
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Ok shall i sum up a small section ill use initials and fwb means friends with benfiits


I'm fwb with J me an her get in well are mature and dont have jelousy issues both see other people.

Before my birthday J introduced me to A and P who where staying with her, and shed been teasing me with them all topless on facetime.

When i areived J atill had a guy over from the night before A was asleep and P and mee ended up shagging in the bathroom.

P is As flat mate and has a bf sex was fun but weve only done it once and hung our since.

A and me then later had sex when she woke up in tbe spare bedroom. A has sicne developed feleings for me but knows i dont want a relationship so is ok being fwb.

A knows i sleep with J but doesnt know ive slept with P and cant know as it would upset her.

So from that group i sleep with J when shes on her own and A when shes over (me and J are more cool with each other when A us around as its better for her). (A and P are competing in a beauty pagent soon iirc)

Then theres L who knows J but not the others im now sleeping with her after we got oast an initial stage where ahe thought ahe might have feelings for me ao wasnt sure if she even wanted to be friends let alone fwb. But now we are.

Now J is from manchestwr A and P london. Down in london i also reguarly see A2 who doesnt know the others but knows i do see other people as does she.

Then theres A3, J2, C, A4 and L2 who round out the other london regulars.

Theres an L3 in manchester but we dont really see each other much.

Along with a few others but i havent seen them in several months so thwyre more distant booty calls theae days.


So errr yeah. Oh i also may have broken up a marrige (but its cool it was a bad one)
 
Oh and theres a B but ive only seen her twice and a Y but shes 2 trains and a bus so i cba most of the time im down in london
 
Oh and theres S whos friends with A, P and J whos flirted with me and sent me nude pics etc but ive been told not to pursuse that by J as S's husband is a very nice man.

So ive left that alone.
 
RoboCod said:
It's fun though.

You need to work on getting the housemates all in bed together.
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Ive asled sadly none of them are the least bit bi.

I think theres potential for J and A but with A's feelings and her being a lot younger than me and J (J 32 me 27 A 21) me and J tend to keep dostance to not hurt her.


Theres a few who are sub and i reckon i coupd work a bdsm three way but most are a bit off put by the idea of another woman. Had a few in the past say theyre up for a threesome but not with cwrtain people who also happen to be the ones who were up for it its annoying.
 
I think you need to sit down with your wife and tell her how you're feeling about it. Most of what you say is probably normal depressing parenting crap but maybe you could treat your wife to a spa day and you take the kids while she gets a bit of tlc. She's probably forgotten what it feels like to relax.
 
Tefal said:
Ok shall i sum up a small section ill use initials and fwb means friends with benfiits
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Tefal said:
Ive asled sadly none of them are the least bit bi.

I think theres potential for J and A but with A's feelings and her being a lot younger than me and J (J 32 me 27 A 21) me and J tend to keep dostance to not hurt her.


Theres a few who are sub and i reckon i coupd work a bdsm three way but most are a bit off put by the idea of another woman. Had a few in the past say theyre up for a threesome but not with cwrtain people who also happen to be the ones who were up for it its annoying.
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I've been with a few women who have had bisexual tendencies. In fact, I've met a lot of women who are openly attracted to other women.... I mean why not, they are the attractive sex. I firmly believe all women have a degree of bisexuality in them. Experience has proven that a little alcohol to loosen the inhibition can lead to exploration of those bi tendencies :p
 
Tosno said:
It is difficult at first but no short term pain no long term gain, women need attention more than men need sex. You have to fake it until you make it. Women are nothing special to get anxious about. Be cold, don't throw out compliments and be mysterious.
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Thank you, I woke up feeling great so I just need to work on getting myself out there like you say. My problem is I have little confidence with women as I honestly feel like I'd always be punching above my weight but I guess I'm just going to have to work on it :)
 
You need a man cave, p.s. it'll only get worse and you get to give away all your money.

But that's having kids for you, you'll miss them when they leave home,
 
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