The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Tefal said:
Its cause you dont see them as long term they pick up on it and decide its not worth it
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Hmm I always find saying to a girl that you're looking for a relationship they run a mile, ones round this way want short term fun. I am not looking for anything, I just want to go on a few dates and if something hits off then excellent. One of my regular fun FWB's has just started dating a guy and told me she wants to be exclusive to him so I need to find more. :D
 
Dooksy said:
Hmm I always find saying to a girl that you're looking for a relationship they run a mile, ones round this way want short term fun. I am not looking for anything, I just want to go on a few dates and if something hits off then excellent. One of my regular fun FWB's has just started dating a guy and told me she wants to be exclusive to him so I need to find more. :D
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Jesus man dont say it lol.

Its just people can pick up on how interested you are. If your in the mind set its short term fun it comes across in all you say and do


Tinder is fish in a barrel for short term fun though
 
Tefal said:
Jesus man dont say it lol.

Its just people can pick up on how interested you are. If your in the mind set its short term fun it comes across in all you say and do


Tinder is fish in a barrel for short term fun though
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Oh yeah I know but sometimes they ask what you're looking for and I find it hard to be dishonest.

Started to use Tinder again and chatting to a few, see how it goes.
 
Dooksy said:
Oh yeah I know but sometimes they ask what you're looking for and I find it hard to be dishonest.

Started to use Tinder again and chatting to a few, see how it goes.
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Dont be dishonest then just day something along the lines of.

"I'd like to find somone i can settle down with and have a real relationship with, but I'm not goinnto rush into things as ive made that mistake in the past"
 
That's pretty much bang on what I say.

I find chatting women up in bars much more successful than online dating. Maybe I need better pics.

I'm 34 and spent most of Saturday getting off with a fit 21 year old. Only reason I didn't go back with her was that one of her mates was turbo drunk so had to be looked after and took home. She's been texting a bit about meeting but has gone from yeah we'll meet for a drink to 'I'm not looking for anything'. So I've asked her for no strings haha.
 
Tefal said:
Interesting so youve gone from supporting it being a "test" to it being your girlfirned just has enotions and when she opens up to you you tell her to knock it off and shut down fiscussion.

That sounds healthy.

You're a guy not sure why you doing squats is a factor here?:confused: unless of course thats an attempt at seduction but despite what you've heard about me theres very few guys id shag these days. No offense im sure your squat grown bubble butt is very attractive x (if you weigh less than 70kg feel free to put up a pic, who knows i may get a hankering for a twink)

She already has done the flirting along with the nude pics. Only "game" has been when she (rather poorly) side tracked the conversation to mention how her friend had a threeaome and how she doesnt like it if a guy asks her to have one, which is just her making sure i dont ask for one with her and the other girl. But thats not an issue as J is straight
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Ok it's pointless debating you because you're either trolling or have a low IQ. Either way I'm done here.
 
Roar87 said:
Ok it's pointless debating you because you're either trolling or have a low IQ. Either way I'm done here.
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So you telling me you squat to give yourself thatvsweet sweet bubble butt wasnt a come on?

Ah well, back to molesting hyburnate then
 
Dooksy said:
That's pretty much bang on what I say.

I find chatting women up in bars much more successful than online dating. Maybe I need better pics.

I'm 34 and spent most of Saturday getting off with a fit 21 year old. Only reason I didn't go back with her was that one of her mates was turbo drunk so had to be looked after and took home. She's been texting a bit about meeting but has gone from yeah we'll meet for a drink to 'I'm not looking for anything'. So I've asked her for no strings haha.
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Yeah pics help massivly get some nice artsy/model style ines.

Get a female friend to help take them.

Ever since i got aome fancy pics/started posing instead of just standing there my sucess rate online shot up
 
Tefal said:
Yeah pics help massivly get some nice artsy/model style ines.

Get a female friend to help take them.

Ever since i got aome fancy pics/started posing instead of just standing there my sucess rate online shot up
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Cheers, just have a few selfies as I always feel uncomfortable asking my male mates to take pics of me. :D
 
Roar87 said:
Haha you can call me a beta when you can ask a woman out without needing a female to do it for you
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Huh who said i needed a woman to ask for me? Its the other girl who asked J to set her up with me.

J just likes sharing me with her friend's when they need a good lay.
 
Dooksy said:
Cheers, just have a few selfies as I always feel uncomfortable asking my male mates to take pics of me. :D
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Topless pulling your trousers up at the waist is a good one.

Makes all the mauxles in your shoulders etc stand out and because its a picture it looks like your taking them off not pulling up so is nicely suggestive
 
Does anyone get really bad "relationship fear"? I've been dating a girl for about three months now, and it's been fantastic. I've genuinely never been in such a great relationship, and she's said the same to me. However, she works abroad, and is home for about a week a month. Every time together it's fantastic, I can't describe how much I like her.

However, when she's away I really struggle. Every time she doesn't reply to a message, or is a bit stressed, or whatever, I start to think "what if?". Logically, I know that she's super-busy at work, but there seems to be part of me that gets into a little panic.

Does anyone else get this kind of fear? And if so, how do you deal with it? I'm really concerned about becoming too clingy and messaging her too often, and need to learn to manage this on my own. I think a big part of this is that I've never been with someone I've liked this much, and may be putting a bit of pressure on myself not to screw it up. Please help!
 
Tefal said:
Huh who said i needed a woman to ask for me? Its the other girl who asked J to set her up with me.

J just likes sharing me with her friend's when they need a good lay.
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Why are you low key bragging about getting laid and receiving nudes on the internet? No one gives a ****
 
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