The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

413x said:
Too many girls around to accept petty behaviour. It's very easy to get invested in the girl you ate
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This is true! :P
Have a first date today and later tonight a second date.
A couple of dates there have been no spark and one has not replied to my last message even though i thought it went quite well.
No point in wasting my time, move onto another :)
 
The 24 year old from Saturday, well, I'm seeing her tonight, we're going for a curry then pub for some mid week sociables (we have mutual friends).
Date with her tomorrow night.
She's round mine on Friday for 'films and takeaway'.
We're going to the Rugby on Saturday with other mutual friends.
No plans Sunday yet...

I think it's going to fall off.
 
Well happy days for me, moved into new acommodation back in January, met this one lass after a month who turns out lives in another town under the same landlady.
Hit it off pretty much right away, she made the move which is good as I don't normally do this.
I'm down most weekends, share a meal and drinkies, go for long walks which we both love and I photo what I can.

Odd thing is, it doesn't feel like a relationship more that we're really good close friends that have known each other for years, though it's just a few weeks.

I've a feeling this is the one as we're so similar, but we'll see.
 
What does it mean if i dreampt about cuddling the girl i was seeing? (but had no other feelings for me as i did her)
I've been going on dates and a couple of the 1st dates have gone well and meeting again.
I didnt think about the other girl as i did before then i go and have a dream that we were naked spooning like we were about to go into hibernation for 6 months! It felt so nice and comfy!
Nothing else happened in the dream (unlike in real life!) but it just felt comforting and really warm.
Maybe it means i still have feelings for her, maybe it means i just want similar with someone else?

Anyone had a similar dream before? Should I tell her of this dream? (Im going to say certainly not)
 
Guest2 said:
Guessed as much but why? What's the thinking behind not?
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It's creepy as hell! From what I can gather you've told her you like her and she's said she doesn't feel the same way. Accept it and leave her alone in terms of telling her your feelings or you're going to end up freaking her out to the extent that she won't even be your friend, and if she ends up telling your group of friends the reason you're likely to end up losing all of them.

Do you have a condition of some sort? I realise that sounds rude but you seem completely unable to realise when enough is enough or even how your actions would come across. Even the way you're talking about the other girls you're seeing is making for uneasy reading at times.
 
malolo said:
It's creepy as hell! From what I can gather you've told her you like her and she's said she doesn't feel the same way. Accept it and leave her alone in terms of telling her your feelings or you're going to end up freaking her out to the extent that she won't even be your friend, and if she ends up telling your group of friends the reason you're likely to end up losing all of them.

Do you have a condition of some sort? I realise that sounds rude but you seem completely unable to realise when enough is enough or even how your actions would come across. Even the way you're talking about the other girls you're seeing is making for uneasy reading at times.
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We had sex a few times as 'just fun' but my feelings grew. We talked and are now just friends.

Not that i know of. What actions and what way im talking other girls im dating? I havent been on many and from what i can recall if there is no soark we tell each other like adults. Id be interested to know what the 'uneasy reading' is. Maybe it will help diagnose my condition!
 
I just find it bizarre that a grown man has to ask why he shouldn't tell a girl (who has made it clear she's not interested) about a dream that involves her. Surely you can see that that's creepy? Let's say you did tell her, what do you actually think her reaction would be?

Asking what to do if you like more that one girl and then if it's ok to have sex with multiple girls you're dating until you decide on one makes for slightly uneasy reading.
 
Wow read some absolute madness in these last few posts.

Please do not under any circumstances tell that bird that you dreamt of cuddling her, just don't do it.

In other news I randomly reconnected with an ex-work colleague earlier in the week and went out for drinks last night which ended up with us back at hers. Really random how we ended up speaking again - not gonna rush anything and just see how we go!
 
Guest2 said:
What does it mean if i dreampt about cuddling the girl i was seeing? (but had no other feelings for me as i did her)
I've been going on dates and a couple of the 1st dates have gone well and meeting again.
I didnt think about the other girl as i did before then i go and have a dream that we were naked spooning like we were about to go into hibernation for 6 months! It felt so nice and comfy!
Nothing else happened in the dream (unlike in real life!) but it just felt comforting and really warm.
Maybe it means i still have feelings for her, maybe it means i just want similar with someone else?

Anyone had a similar dream before? Should I tell her of this dream? (Im going to say certainly not)
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"HI BABES. HAD THIS GREAT DREAM LAST NIGHT ABOUT YOU. YOU WERE NICE AND COMFY!"
 
I Spilt up with my ex around 10 months ago and tbh had forgotten about her and got some random texts from her yesterday. The texts were basically telling me how she is much better now (had some bad anxiety issues which led to the break up) and life is going great for her etc. I kept it short and polite, made my excuses and ended the text conversation. She told me to keep in touch and it was nice talking to me but I can't help but feel the past is best left in the past. I'm not even sure what she hoped to achieve by contacting me.

I think she was reaching out hoping I would ask to see her but I feel I'm better being single. Not sure what this post was about but I feel better getting it off my chest.
 
BG1980 said:
I Spilt up with my ex around 10 months ago and tbh had forgotten about her and got some random texts from her yesterday. The texts were basically telling me how she is much better now (had some bad anxiety issues which led to the break up) and life is going great for her etc. I kept it short and polite, made my excuses and ended the text conversation. She told me to keep in touch and it was nice talking to me but I can't help but feel the past is best left in the past. I'm not even sure what she hoped to achieve by contacting me.

I think she was reaching out hoping I would ask to see her but I feel I'm better being single. Not sure what this post was about but I feel better getting it off my chest.
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Leave the past in the past as you say.


And on the dream post. Obviously don't tell her.

'you say it best... When you say nothing at all! '
 
Dream post is GD gold haha

I dont know what i want to do, i was seeing this girl for just over a month, was all quite chilled and actually going quite well, we were very similar, her intrest seemed to grow just in the way she was txting and buying me little gifts, she then went very distant, she said nothing was wrong but i knew there was and then we called it a day. Now the problem is at the time when i started seeing her if im completley honest i probably wasnt over my ex completley, i didnt know what i wanted with this girl and as soon as i felt it being any kind of hard work i jacked it in. We follow each other on Insta and Snapchat and seeing her posts i am thinking that maybe i was to hasty and should have just been more chilled about the whole thing, ive been thinking this on and off for a couple of weeks now.

I decided its best if i dont act on it as it was such a short thing anyway and ive been chatting to a couple of girls from Tinder so all good....... Problem is i am just not feeling it with anyone i match with and get a convo with so it probably wont be long before those just fizzle out. Again im not to bothered about this really. Now last night there was a party for someone at work that i was invited to, a girl ive had the hots for for years (we had one night at mine a long time ago it got complicated because of work and that was that, since then one of us has always been seeing someone but theres always been something there, eveyone has said they can see it) whos now newly single asks me to go for pre drinks, just us two. So i go, everything is good we have a laugh like we always do, im thinking this could happen tonight, get to the party and theres prety much zero chemistry, so at the end of the night im on my way home on my own and i stupidly decide to txt the girl from above, we've been chatting a little bit today and now im even more confused than i was before lol, i guess just leave it and if shes intrested she'll soon mention it?
 
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