i dont run but i did used to, well i say used to i did a bit on my own, nothing major, im not about tuesday but i will look on the site, thanks for the heads up
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i dont run but i did used to, well i say used to i did a bit on my own, nothing major, im not about tuesday but i will look on the site, thanks for the heads up
Every Tuesday! Worth a look if you get the chance
Jesus, has it already been that long? I remember your initial break-up posts and clear signs of depression afterwards18 months... wow!
Yeah tell me about it. I still get a bit down every now and again (not from ex!) but it runs in the family. But yeah it's nearly two years since that (in fact it might be in next month or so). Very weird I can hardly remember the old relationship at all. Only really remember the dog. But then we never did much. Mind is a strange thing.
I'm much more 'me' now. Don't care what others think, do what I enjoy doing. Not so driven by money, I just want to be happy really.
Meetup is an app/website where there are loads of groups where people get together and do stuff. Most people have either moved to the area or have gone through a break up or are just wanting to socialise.
So you get lots of groups with lots of events inside each one.
For instance, in the one I'm in I organise a kayaking event every so often, we've done escape rooms, super car days, we have board game nights, comicons etc etc.
It was so important for me to get out and do stuff /meet people
Ours is pretty geeky/adventurous. But yeah I met my gf through it, she likes lego, dragons and being outdoors, which is all that I like. Today we've been kayaking. Didn't join up with intention of meeting someone, which is probably why it's much better than Internet dating as you naturally encounter people who like and things as you
i googled it and signed up, where is your one based? as im kinda into all that stuff myself, supercar days and comic con sounds good
I've got the meetup but still not committed to anything. Think I'll try some drawing classes or walks.
Online dating just doesn't work for me, although I get plenty of dates usually when I meet them I feel nothing. Maybe 2 people in 3 years I've taken it a bit further.
Online dating just doesn't work for me, although I get plenty of dates usually when I meet them I feel nothing. Maybe 2 people in 3 years I've taken it a bit further.
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Sorry for the late response, I'm a weekday only browser!
I didn’t feel pressured as such, it was the more viable option in our circumstances due to our lines of work and I was happy to do so. If we had each other’s roles in terms of employment however I highly doubt she would have been willing to make the change. Another factor was down to our friends and their circumstances, I’m a little older, 29, she was 26 at the time, all of my close friends are settled in long term relationships, married, children etc, therefore spontaneous meet ups and nights out don’t exist anymore in my world, I wasn’t really missing out in that sense, whereas she still has her weekly girly friend catch ups etc. I signed up to a gym and 6-a-side football league over there which are my only hobbies so I really didn’t feel I was missing out by making the move.
No real regrets from me, I gave it my all and things didn’t work out through no fault of my own.
In a town called Stamford, in the midlands
It's an hour away from most big places.
You should go. Nothing lost anyway! Like said, I also didn't feel anything much on any dates really.
An open relationship would work for you.
I have 4
just none local
You will have to swipe right more on tinder or bumble or join a local swingers place maybe hard to find in wales
Done swinging got boring tbh.
Need to rejoin tinder.
Need a boyfriend again thinking about it, get to do way more cool stuff
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been with the same girl now for 10 years!
times are getting hard tho we have kids and she has developed disabilities that make her sleepy a lot and even touching her gently can hurt her
times are getting hard tho we have kids and she has developed disabilities that make her sleepy a lot and even touching her gently can hurt her
Wife of 10 years cheated on me. We have 2 kids. I came home from france the Sunday before last and found the most disgusting texts between her and her boyfriend I have ever seen. He'd been round the house whilst I was in France 
tried to overdose and ended up in hospital. A week on its still crap. Living at my mum and dads now with daily visits from the mental health team.
tried to overdose and ended up in hospital. A week on its still crap. Living at my mum and dads now with daily visits from the mental health team.
Well that sucks - really sorry to hear this, what a mess especially with kids involved
Just NO - you have kids to think about. Be the bigger man, topping yourself may seem an easy option now, but your kids will have to grow up without you and knowing their father killed themself - that would not do THEIR mental health any good at all.
It is easy for me to say, but things will get better as time goes on - one day at a time, try to stay strong and remember your mum, dad, your kids love you and their world would be a much sadder place without you in it.