Lunch with the opposite sex

Ayahuasca said:
It's not wholly inaccurate, I mean in most other areas in life we're always looking for something better so why would sexual selection be any different. It's quite apparent you're very secure in yourself and have formed great relationships around you with strong moral codes but I'm pretty sure you realise the vast majority of the population aren't in the same position.
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As I said I accepted that I may be atypical. But I do find the premise that men and women can't socialise without a sexual nuance or without infidelity being intertwined in it difficult to understand.

But hey it's what makes this world a great and interesting place.
 
To be fair the majority of female friends I have now have been met while neither of us were looking for just friendship, therefore I think the majority of them would have to cease to be friends should I get in to a relationship due to the nature of how the friendship was formed, just to remove doubt and ease my partners mind. Work friends, old school friends who are female would remain as friends.
 
Tosno said:
Boys and girls can't be friends.

A girl is only interested in a man A) Sexually or B) he has something offer non sexually to be used as a beta orbiter for her

Likewise Chad isn't going to dinner with that 94inch hip monster from the daily mail yesterday.

It is no wonder 1 in 10 men are rising another man's child unknown to them when they are like 'Oh, my business partner goes for dinners, drinks, gigs, etc (ect = sex) with male friends and I'm totes cool with it.'
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That's all from our dark ages correspondent, back to the studio.
 
Blimey, diffucult to believe that in this day and age some morons still think that it it inappropriate to do this. I guess some would only approve if a chastity belt was worn. Oh what great times we live in!
 
I took two married women to London last weekend, we went to the Hyde Park gig and stayed Fri - Sunday at a friend of mines (another woman)

I don't know either of their husbands either.

So no, I don't think I'd have a problem having lunch with a female friend who is in a relationship :D
 
Freakbro said:
I took two married women to London last weekend, we went to the Hyde Park gig and stayed Fri - Sunday at a friend of mines (another woman)

I don't know either of their husbands either.

So no, I don't think I'd have a problem having lunch with a female friend who is in a relationship :D
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At a guess they probably had a bit of a problem with you. :p:D
 
Cosimo said:
Blimey, diffucult to believe that in this day and age some morons still think that it it inappropriate to do this. I guess some would only approve if a chastity belt was worn. Oh what great times we live in!
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I mean, 10% of men are raising children they believe to be there's but who actually belong to another man, but yeah you guys go ahead and let your partners go on "lunch dates", I assume you're also providing them with contraceptives for their "business trips" away.

Edit: Looking into it, 10% may be a little high, realistically though it's between 4% and 5%. So one in 20-25. Just think about that.
 
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Roar87 said:
I mean, 10% of men are raising children they believe to be there's but who actually belong to another man, but yeah you guys go ahead and let your partners go on "lunch dates", I assume you're also providing them with contraceptives for their "business trips" away.

Edit: Looking into it, 10% may be a little high, realistically though it's between 4% and 5%. So one in 20-25. Just think about that.
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i'm struggling with this.
from the posts you've made i get the impression you don't trust your spouse, gf, wife,... ?
However you did say you trust your partner but you can't trust other men. why should something ever happen if you can trust her? am i being a naive or if something were to happen (and you trust her) it would end up being rape :confused::eek:

at the end of the day i believe, if someone cheats on their partner then there are not in a healthy relationship to begin with.
 
Roar if you're not married then you don't know what you're talking about. If you are married, do you not have an ounce of trust in your relationship?
 
dr_volki said:
i'm struggling with this.
from the posts you've made i get the impression you don't trust your spouse, gf, wife,... ?
However you did say you trust your partner but you can't trust other men. why should something ever happen if you can trust her? am i being a naive or if something were to happen (and you trust her) it would end up being rape :confused::eek:

at the end of the day i believe, if someone cheats on their partner then there are not in a healthy relationship to begin with.
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I trust her, but if something ever felt like it didn't add up I would also verify that she was doing what she said she was, I wouldn't just blindly go along with what she said. I worry that a lot of men are too trusting, or very naïve, and this is proved by the very real fact that millions of men in this country raise children thinking they are their biological children when in fact their partner has cheated on them and lied to them. In my eyes it should be a crime.

dl8860 said:
Roar if you're not married then you don't know what you're talking about. If you are married, do you not have an ounce of trust in your relationship?
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I'm in a long term relationship and understand women and relationships more than the vast majority of men who are married, thanks for your input though. As above regarding trust.
 
Roar87 said:
I'm in a long term relationship and understand women and relationships more than the vast majority of men who are married, thanks for your input though. As above regarding trust.
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Did you get an online accreditation? :D
 
I wouldn't ever consider marrying someone who I wouldn't be happy and trust them to have male friends and spend time alone with them, because that would be a massive red flag that they are untrustworthy and our relationship didn't have a decent foundation. Either that or that I have insecurity issues. Thankfully neither are the case.
 
is there a way to somehow listen in via the girlfriends phone mic? That would solve all the issues mentioned in this thread.

Send her out for lunch dates with her male friends, and listen in......if anyone does do this, please live stream the audio on youtube for us

:edit: or a private investigator with a hidden video camera (pref a HD model)
 
dl8860 said:
I wouldn't ever consider marrying someone who I wouldn't be happy and trust them to have male friends and spend time alone with them, because that would be a massive red flag that they are untrustworthy and our relationship didn't have a decent foundation. Either that or that I have insecurity issues. Thankfully neither are the case.
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The question arises though why do you need the company of a female when you are married? What is wrong with the company of your wife? Isn't it strange to leave your wife at home and go for lunch with another woman? You are basically saying you prefer her company.
 
adam cool dude said:
The question arises though why do you need the company of a female when you are married? What is wrong with the company of your wife? Isn't it strange to leave your wife at home and go for lunch with another woman? You are basically saying you prefer her company.
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Whilst he may prefer the other womans company, she may not be willing to do all the washing up and ironing
 
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