Overs 40's : Are you Happy with your lot?

Tauren said:
31 in august, and feeling like life is slowing down tbh. Or should be.


Still out partying on a Friday and Saturday night though :D live it while you got it because before too long you'll be too old. :)

Edit. On topic. I feel I'll be the same in 9 years time.
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Party Thursday, Friday, Saturday. Chill out on Sunday and recover late Wednesday :D
 
Diddums said:
Easyrider.

1:50am.

Here we go again :D
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Exactly what I thought when I saw the OP! :D

I'm 42 and have to say I've enjoyed my adulthood much more than I did my childhood, and for various reasons. Sure, I've got enough money to fund family and hobbies, but money isn't everything.

I feel really lucky to have lived my first 42 years in this generation, during these times. Sometimes when I see what people complain about, particularly the 20-something's, I really realise just how lucky we are.
 
Coming 47 later this year and more than happy the way things have turned out, I've a lot to be thankful for. Few hiccups a long the way but sure, the odd curved ball makes us who we are today. Not doing too bad with any aches and pains although the hair department has let me down though, think it said cheerio about a decade ago. :D Financially secure for the time being and able to enjoy any hobbies I have as well as ensure my young son is catered for. It's a nice age to be I find, I'm enjoying life, don't feel I need to prove anything, I really only have one friend I see with any regularity but I'm very content in my own company in that I'll often go off on my own and spend a day walking in the mountains or something. So aye, more than happy with my lot.
 
I'm 44 which comes as a surprise to me every day. I'm very happy with my lot even though much of it is the stuff that a younger me would have scoffed at: great kids, nice house, good job, really really hot wife (my younger self would not have scoffed at that), financially secure and able to largely do what I like when I choose to.

Life moves pretty fast :cool:
 
BusError said:
48 here. Quite happy really. I feel I had a LOOOOONG life already. Born in france, got in computers at 12, programmed my life away until my 20's -- did projects at 18 that most people would dream of even now -worked for Apple when it wasn't cool, take that you hipster beepstards- , started playing guitar in bars in Paris clubs at night, and working during the day; drank a lot, clubbed a lot (mostly music clubs); then moved to the riviera for a few years. Work, Sun, etc etc; then I moved to the UK 18 years ago now.
Been working a lot, lots of cool companies, projects; I'm married with my soul mate (met her when I was 21), we don't have kids (we hate kids) -- we earn quite a lot, each; we own 3 houses, some land for stomping around.

So yeah, all the old little injuries you picked when you were <20 are waking up to remind you they weren't entirely gone -- needs to be careful about drink, and general health, picked up the 'hereditary' high blood pressure stuff -- luckily I've calmed down a LOT since my 20's so it's manageable...

But overall, I had a pretty good ride so far, I wish people didn't 'worry' as soon as they are 25 about pensions, houses and all that ****, and actually lived their *own* lifes, not their parents or their kids; that way they wouldn't feel all bitter and twisted when they hit 40.

But, the ONLY THING people should know is to make themselves 'sellable' : employable, sharp. That way they can make money, and ultimately that will buy you time. Everytime you do anything consider wether it's a good investment of your time; TIME is the precious thing you'll miss later on, especially if you have kids who will just suck all your time away. I seriously wish days were 30 hours so I could do MORE stuff I like to do!
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I am only 33 myself and this I can 100% agree with. People my age how are grumpy as hell and they are no where near 40. Complain about things they can change but abit of hard work scares them, so its easier to sit there and make do.
 
Pretty good honestly. Got more money and more security than when I was younger and I don't have to worry about where the money to pay the rent is coming from this month. I can buy a 1080ti and not worry about how I'm going to pay for it either.

v0n said:
Hi, I'm v0n and I'm 44 (the room replies "Hi Vaughn").

After 40, you are still 20something inside, but your body start to fail - knees, joints, hinges, that sort of stuff, hair start growing from new, unexpected places. What you eat and drink starts to really matter. And you begin to perceive time a little differently. Someone talking 10 minutes too long, a TV show that breaks into "earlier on in this episode" summaries every 15 minutes, 30 minute stand still traffic, waiting for computer to boot. Those become a crime in your mind.
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40 is nothing. Its not much different from your 30's. Once you hit 50 thats when your body starts telling you are infact mortal and your time on this earth is very finite.
 
malachi said:
I am only 33 myself and this I can 100% agree with. People my age how are grumpy as hell and they are no where near 40. Complain about things they can change but abit of hard work scares them, so its easier to sit there and make do.
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I'm actually glad I don't have children at 36. I cannot see it. I get on fine with other peoples/relatives children but simply cannot see myself as a parent.
 
43 here. I am very wise!

A couple of gems for you.

1 - human relationships are the most important thing in life full stop.
2 - no matter how bad things seem now, it will be over at some point.
3 - have a hobby outside of work.
4 - big salaries are earnt, not just won on some biased lottery. The stresses can be immense
5 - no, you won't get fired for calling in sick on monday!
 
36 here but I doubt life will be any different when I'm 46, so...
I have no kids, that I'm aware of.
I might die a lonely old man. That's fine.
But I shall go down knowing that I've had many conquests by far more than I ever hoped for, lol.
Those who say money can't buy happiness? Speak for yourselves. I'd make rock stars, millionaires, princes look like nuns if I had their sort of money. No joke.
 
Evosparki said:
36 here but I doubt life will be any different when I'm 46, so...
I have no kids, that I'm aware of.
I might die a lonely old man. That's fine.
But I shall go down knowing that I've had many conquests by far more than I ever hoped for, lol.
Those who say money can't buy happiness? Speak for yourselves. I'd make rock stars, millionaires, princes look like nuns if I had their sort of money. No joke.
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V F said:
I'm actually glad I don't have children at 36. I cannot see it. I get on fine with other peoples/relatives children but simply cannot see myself as a parent.
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I dont have any kids either and I dont see that changing but one thing I will be greatful for when I hit 40 is that I have traveled the world and seen things people would only dream of.

I took a random last min holiday to Tenerife last week, had no interest in going there but I needed to get away from the UK and have a break. Cost me £113 return. My friend is going to the same location with her daughter and partner, costing them £400 each return :eek: That is more than I paid to New York last September.

Glad I have the ability to pick up my passport and go anywhere in the world, whenever I want, without worry about term time prices.

My best friend is the also 33, has no ambition to do anything else his life or progress. He has always been in the same low paid job since 18 years old and moans about how crap his life is. Hate to see what he will be like when he hits 40.
 
V F said:
I'd love to do a bit of travelling in the next year or two.
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Do it!

Before your body hit a limit and you need to take out expensive travel insurance policies incase you have a knock or a bump your body is too old to recover from.
 
People talk about travelling like it's worth not having kids just to do it, and having traveled a lot I'm not really seeing the sacrifice being worth the gain, to be honest.

It really smacks of selfishness and that's probably because I've got 3 kids and couldn't imagine swapping them for a hitch-hiking trip across Thailand or whatever.

The guy a few posts up hit the nail on the head;

CapitalOne said:
1 - Human relationships are the most important thing in life full stop.
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