The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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Yeah just because it's easier doesn't mean it's the route you should take, there are a number of studies showing the benefits a strong relationship or family unit has on your mental health, particularly as you get towards old age, the challenge of course is finding a lifelong partner in todays climate but these women you seek aren't the unicorns the MGTOW community will have you believe. Law of attraction and all that.
I'm 35, was single for 3 ish years. Met 5 I think from online dating, went past dating with 2. Went out to pubs etc with mates, met far more and had much more fun. Once I gave up on online dating, concentrated on time with friends, hobbies etc I soon found someone.
The friends pubs things really depends on circumstances - having single friends and also pubs that attract the right type of person just as a starting point, then it's also just a numbers game and luck. I've also known a few people who've met via a pub and there is usually some form of alcohol addiction involved. I don't rule this out but it's not been a winner for me in the past, but then I don't/won't spend every weekend in the pub.
Yeah good shout, might give that a go.
I've actually had a few matches on... erm match... but I've disregard them for various reasons but I still feel slightly bad for doing so. Need to get some better pics too.
Met my gf from meetup. Been together 2 years this coming January and best group of friends I've ever had
I've been using meetup.com as well, more as a distraction from dating than a way to meet girls! It's helped me expand my circle of friends to people with more similar interests (rather than just drinking buddies), and has given me the confidence I can make new friends still, there's some lovely people on meetup, definitely recommend it.
I can't do that, I have massive trust issues with new people. I have my circle of friends and we all like a drink but all share similar interests. Met loads of girls being out and about with them, one of which after a bit of hanky panky between her and I actually joined our circle of friends and is now my current GFs best mate.
I didn't join to meet girls really. Just to meet new people . And this naturally formed. I think that's the point. It formed naturally over time not forced like a dating app (which I was using also)
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Don’t have relationships at work. It’s a bad, bad idea. Even more so in today’s climate.
Single friends isn't a thing for me now! We were recently arranging our annual Christmas meal/drunk shenanigans. This year it's me and 8 couples.
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Would personally try to avoid this too.
Really back fired on my sister
Reason I wouldn't do pub thing is Im not a big pub goer, so any regular pub goers aren'. likely going to be people I get on with. Do something that is a hobby plus social and inevitably you'l meet people who have similar hobbies.
There are wno people in the world to find someo who is a good match not just good enough
Did this a few years back when I was single at it was fine but I'd known everyone there for years anyway. In fact I think I spent more time talking to the women than their partners did, they seem to take an interest when you're good looking and single, like you're some kind outlier/lone wolf.
Just a quick question ive been seeing someone for about a month now we had a great first date spend the day together she stayed that night to watch boxing with me and things happened. then saw her for the whole weekend up at hers the next weekend spend the 2 days at hers then saw her in the week for another date. Now things are going great shes a year older than me at 35 and has a very busy career and very high up and busy all the time and not into txting a lot and said this on her profile before i met her she rather see if there is a spark in person.
ive been dating mid 20 year old before and used to txting a lot and and the girl im seeing will txt me 2-3 times a day but not a lot and its bugging me and i don't know why.
I really like her a lot and things are going well and she has said sunday she wants to keep seeing me but its still bugging me about the lack of contact im used to. Its stupid i know she is very affectionate when we are together and holding hands and such.
Im normally quite relaxed about dating and stuff and doesn't bother me but i think about her a lot and i guess i get more time at work to contact if i want to. i just don't want to mess this up by saying something stupid
ive been dating mid 20 year old before and used to txting a lot and and the girl im seeing will txt me 2-3 times a day but not a lot and its bugging me and i don't know why.
I really like her a lot and things are going well and she has said sunday she wants to keep seeing me but its still bugging me about the lack of contact im used to. Its stupid i know she is very affectionate when we are together and holding hands and such.
Im normally quite relaxed about dating and stuff and doesn't bother me but i think about her a lot and i guess i get more time at work to contact if i want to. i just don't want to mess this up by saying something stupid
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Don't overthink it. I'd say less contact was good so you don't seem clingy/desperate. If you want to contact her for another date in person that's great but pointless texting all day is daft. Plus it already sounds like it's going well so don't stress.
Relax and put the phone down. You're making something small into a big issue. If you try to hassle her about it you will seem petty, childish and needy. Don't spoil a good thing over something stupid.
That's the thing im not like that at all really i had 4-5 girls talking to me on POF before i had the first date and then this happened and did bin them off once we slept together i do need to chill out about it really im not gonna hassle her and only txt her back when she txts. its harder than i thought to be relaxed about.
We haven't chatted about if we are seeing other people and stuff which i don't think she is as shes so busy but still the thought is still there. i closed my POF account as it was only a bit of fun at the start.
Its my own fault for dating people younger than me for so long! shes the first girl that doesn't use her phone around me at all doesn't use Facebook really or anything else like Instagram and such! my sister in law said welcome to the adult world lol.
You should be thankful you don’t have to spend a lot of time replying to texts, it’s done my head in that in previous relationships. She’s busy it’s not like she has the time but isn’t bothering, as others have said you’re just going to ruin it if you make it a thing.