The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

Probably being trolled by OP but if not....

Relationships are give and take. Reading your side of the story your girlfriend seems to have over reacted but I feel there is more going on for her to just walk away. Are you sure you are not in the wrong also? Think hard.

Did you for example tell your girlfriend you were taking a week off work before you did it? You believe in your personal freedoms but are you sure you have thought about common courtesy?

As for your Dakimakura, (i had to google it). Will you still have them in 5 / 10 years? Is it time to move on and focus on your relationship rather than fantasy pillows? You will know the answer if you are honest with yourself.

Good troll if it is BTW
 
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Retikulan said:
So if I've read this correctly, your current girlfriend has left you because you booked holiday time off work to spend the week with an ex girlfriend down in Cornwall?
And to top it off you want help to convince your girlfriend she's the one in the wrong?

Considering this is your first post it's surely got to be wind up
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pure gold :D:D:D
 
Yep just did, well, made it clear that the offer I have for her is fair and final and will not be sweetened by cash or jewellery. Suggested she takes some time to consider what she wants from life. Reply was swift and angry. I won’t be responding.
 
Xandrael said:
I sent her 10 messages since I woke up this morning and she hasn't answered any of them. Same for phone calls. Should I post a message on her Facebook wall? I could call her work phone or email her at work but I'm not sure if her work emails are monitored.
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She already thinks you're mental - that's why you got ditched. Don't turn the mental to 11 to try to win her back. That's like dealing with a fire by burning it.
 
So you told your partner that you wanted to spend a few nights staying with another woman who you'd previously been intimate with? Yeah, I can see that going down well.

What you should have done is ask your 'friend' if your partner could come with you on the visit. It's tough to see how or even if you should rescue the situation from here
 
Not many people are going to feel completely comfortable with their partner taking the time off work to go visit someone they've had sexual relationships with.

Maybe try a poly or cuckold relationship, you can continue crying into one of your Dakimakura while Jamal goes to pound town.
 
Xandrael said:
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How do I convince my girlfriend that she is in the wrong here?

I spent all last night crying into one of my Dakimakura and called in sick to work today. I’m desperate so any advice is really appreciated!!
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a) Don't even try - unless she is incredibly gullible.
b) Real men don't cry, even into their pillow.

Seriously; if you end up crying all night and taking a sickie over someone for whom you don't have any romantic attachment, your girlfriend should be seriously worried.

JEEZUS!
 
Stolly said:
Yep just did, well, made it clear that the offer I have for her is fair and final and will not be sweetened by cash or jewellery. Suggested she takes some time to consider what she wants from life. Reply was swift and angry. I won’t be responding.
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After what you've posted recently about the situation doesn't it make you think about the relationship as a whole? The last thing I would be doing is still offering her a place to move into.
 
If legit I'm with the gf on this one.
If was just a friend and always had been, done. And if you lost your temper, only adds to it
 
Nice job on the no contact:

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I'm on your (ex) girlfriends side. Telling her she is being abusive for what she said is wrong. That's a quick ticket to being shown the door.
You either want to be in that relationship or not and if you do, then it involves compromise. Not doing so is abusive and toxic. At 35 you should know that already.

I had to look up what a Dakimakura was. I think I see where you are going wrong.
 
Now, I would rate myself as on the more sympathetic end of the scale where GD is concerned but I've just googled Dakimakura and can't believe the OP is genuine. First clue was coming for "level-headed" advice :p

That said, flying off the handle when questioned about the other woman only serves to make it look worse, shows passion. Don't show passion towards other women.
 
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