The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

[Roar87]

Am I being unfair for calling it off? I'm hoping she will calm down eventually and we can possibly remain friends. She was definitely keen as was I, but I think its an unrealistic ask from both of us.

You can call a relationship off for whatever reasons you deem fit, there's no fair or unfair. Logistically it's difficult to maintain a relationship if you won't be able to see each other very much. Relationships are hard enough as it is without throwing in additional obstacles. Don't be naive and expect to remain friends with people who you've had a romantic relationship with though, what's the point in that? Are you gonna hang out together and drink coffee and talk about the new relationships you're both in? it's pointless

 

[Vidar]

In my experience what's a none issue for one person can be a red line for another, simple fact is as Roar has said you can call things off for whatever reason you want. You are not beholden to anyone, not even some girl you met off Tinder. Ultimately if something is irksome to you now it's going to become a much bigger issue down the line.

Personally I was never happy dating until I got very specific about what I wanted from a partner, I'm not talking like big mammary glands or slender ankles here more things that where important to me like someone who doesn't smoke, someone who doesn't like getting drunk all the time.

 

[413x]

Move on. It's how you feel, neither right nor wrong.

Yours and her views are equally valid.
I agree that no point in carrying on if this is long term. May as well get out early unless she is an an amazing girl.

Definitely do not stay friends. Agree with the post above on this one, it's only going to cause hassle down the line

 

[dpbadger]

Googles dakimakura.
I was prepared for weird. But not that weird. Its like a bonking pillow one had separated legs!

 

[Xandrael]

Guys stop being mean about my waifu.

I'm not mean about you guys being into computers and stuff.

 

[Narj]

Haha it's definitely Mags in troll mode. Missing an 'e' BTW, "Alexandr".

 

[tom_e]

Guys stop being mean about my waifu.

I'm not mean about you guys being into computers and stuff.

Noun. waifu (plural waifu or waifus) (fandom slang) A fictional female character from non-live-action visual media (typically an anime, manga or video game) to whom one is attracted and, in some cases, whom one considers a significant other.

Riiiiiiiiight....

 

[Narj]

Guys stop being mean about my waifu.

I'm not mean about you guys being into computers and stuff.

You're drunk, go home. Or post videos of you lighting farts or something.

 

[XeNoN89]

And this is quite mild compared to some! lol

If a 35 year old man managed to actually somehow get into a relationship while still owning these then he deserves a medal!

 

[Xandrael]

If a 35 year old man managed to actually somehow get into a relationship while still owning these then he deserves a medal!

Might I suggest one in the shape of a battletoad? I loved that game.

 

[Xandrael]

Anyway, to follow up my original post, she's definitely never talking to me again. I turned up at her office today and asked for her. She came down to reception and there was a big scene, it was embarrassing as hell. :/

 

[antijoke]

Anyway, to follow up my original post, she's definitely never talking to me again. I turned up at her office today and asked for her. She came down to reception and there was a big scene, it was embarrassing as hell. :/

I love this account.

 

[Roar87]

Anyway, to follow up my original post, she's definitely never talking to me again. I turned up at her office today and asked for her. She came down to reception and there was a big scene, it was embarrassing as hell. :/

Probably more embarrassing for her since her ex boyfriend is into Japanese cartoon pillows

 

[Deleted member 77746]

Anyway, to follow up my original post, she's definitely never talking to me again. I turned up at her office today and asked for her. She came down to reception and there was a big scene, it was embarrassing as hell. :/

Turning up to someone’s workplace is 100% a no go! Should never ever do this!

 

[Xandrael]

Turning up to someone’s workplace is 100% a no go! Should never ever do this!

Well nobody said not to do that when I was asking for advice! You were all giving me the ok on my budget for sending flowers to her work but somehow me turning up is crossing the Rubicon?

 

[Hades]

This is surely a wind up series of posts by a new member or alt account.

 

[Xandrael]

I'm gutted tbh, it's been one of those days where my guild finally managed to finish the Antorus raid on Mythic but my gf won't ever speak to me again

 

[Deleted member 77746]

Well nobody said not to do that when I was asking for advice! You were all giving me the ok on my budget for sending flowers to her work but somehow me turning up is crossing the Rubicon?

This is GD! People will write anything down on here just for a reaction.

Well nobody said not to do that when I was asking for advice! You were all giving me the ok on my budget for sending flowers to her work but somehow me turning up is crossing the Rubicon?

This is GD! People will write anything down on here just for a reaction.

 

[A2Z]

Bit of a strange one where I would like someone else’s viewpoint.

Long story short met a girl off Tinder in the last month or so. From the first date we hit it off and there seemed to be quite a bit of chemistry.

I think in the first week we saw each other 5 times. A handful of these being within un-sociable hours due to her working hours being evenings and weekends.

I didn't mind this at first, possibly due to the whole getting to know her etc. However it soon ended with me getting into work shattered, slightly hung-over (she seems to like to drink a lot casually whereas I am more of a odd night out person)

Over the last couple of weeks I had been giving it some thought on the whole longevity of this. Seeing her at times where we are unable to go places, travel about etc. I work in an office 9-5 so weekends are my main times where I am free , obviously as well being evenings but I do like to go to the gym on week nights. At first I didn't bring this up with her as I thought maybe things could change. But it felt like it was going in circles. Picking her up late, going back to either mine or hers for pretty much midnight. Wake up work/gym taking a hit.

I told her how I felt about this on Saturday night where I couldn't see this being fair for any of us. Essentially swept up with two different lifestyles that we aren’t willing to change or adapt, therefore for the best we should stop now before it were to get serious down the road and avoid any upset.

She reacted badly to this and after a few hours text me saying "if you want something you make it work"

How could there be any joy in a relationship where you can't do anything on weekends or evenings with that person.

Am I being unfair for calling it off? I'm hoping she will calm down eventually and we can possibly remain friends. She was definitely keen as was I, but I think its an unrealistic ask from both of us.

She's right to be honest. If you were really into her you would have made it work. You just weren't that into her.

I used to be in a LDR with someone from South America years ago. I would regularly go to sleep lateeee as she was 4-5 hours behind and we Skype'd. Probably reason why I was late most days haha but at the time it was worth it cos I was in love.

Surely this girl gets at least 2 days off a week? And at least some weekends?

 

[Tek81]

My ex made contact the other day, asking me to return a few utterly pointless items (nothing sentimental; dvd's mainly) that she'd left after we broke up almost four months ago. I can only assume she's done this out of spite, given that she knows how busy I am this time of the year. I don't know if I should reply and tell her where to go, or just sling the items in the bin / charity bag.