The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread
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Sounds like there are 2 possibilities here
1. You're both virgins which is why this hasn't happened yet.
2. You're deep in the friend zone and it's not going to happen
Is there something else you are not telling us?
3 months !!! I bed them in less than a month even if it doesn't lead to a relationship in the end.
Depends. Is she the type that builds a relationship slowly over time? Have you tried to take things further when kissing etc and she has said she's not ready yet? Need more info.
They can swap sides at half time.
LOL sort it out, man, just say "I want you" or something while you're playing tonsil hockey and see what she says.
By GD standards, you should have done her mum, sister, dog and dad by now.
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how many times have you seen her in this 3 months? i do find this very odd especially in todays world as malachi said, however some people do want to build the relationship first but 3 months does seem like a very long time unless youve only seen each other a handful of times in that time?
Do you share a bed together? I'm trying to get my head around how you would not have slept with her in this time. Try kissing her when you're in bed together, then start undressing her, at that point you should basically be able to do what comes natural, but let me know if you need any further advice.
Have you talked to her about it?
I'd expect things to happen sooner than later when you're into your thirties as you learn that fannying about is pointless and you don't waste time wondering the little details and get down to it.
That said, 35 and dating to me could mean baggage in my experience. Maybe there's some emotional issues there from a previous relationship and that side of things may be difficult, although most would say up front they may need time to trust etc in that area. Just ask, maybe she's wondering the same about you.
I took my time kissing and touching my other half (3/4 dates), was about 2 months in when we eventually went to bed together after a rather long day. She told me later she had decided it was happening that night and if we didn't then there's something really wrong with me and that was that. Thankfully we did, and I didn't disappoint her to the point of no return
That said, 35 and dating to me could mean baggage in my experience. Maybe there's some emotional issues there from a previous relationship and that side of things may be difficult, although most would say up front they may need time to trust etc in that area. Just ask, maybe she's wondering the same about you.
I took my time kissing and touching my other half (3/4 dates), was about 2 months in when we eventually went to bed together after a rather long day. She told me later she had decided it was happening that night and if we didn't then there's something really wrong with me and that was that. Thankfully we did, and I didn't disappoint her to the point of no return
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When you say kiss do you mean proper romantic kissing or a peck on the cheek?
Obligatory, "smash that pasty!"
Proper romantic kiss.
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Cutting a Looooong story short my wife and I separated about 6 weeks ago and she moved out about 4 weeks ago, I know she is now living with in a new place with some guy, she has come back a couple times to collect a few things, things which we jointly owned but she wanted which I wasn't too fussed over. She came back the other day whilst I was out (I knew she was coming just didn't want to see/talk to her) to collect some more stuff. She has now taken it apon herself to take my Playstation 4 and all of my games along with my google home. I know she could argue that the ps4 was a joint asset but she never ever used it and would be like me taking her straighteners and I'm bold, It's just spiteful. But has also taken my Googlehome which was a pressent to ME and only me. We own the house and both named on the mortgage. I know I can't legally stop her from accessing the property but can I at least prevent her from access when I'm not here? (leaving key in front door and using back, as she only has a front door key) really don't want to come home and shes emptied the house when I paid for 95% of everything.
Cutting a Looooong story short my wife and I separated about 6 weeks ago and she moved out about 4 weeks ago, I know she is now living with in a new place with some guy, she has come back a couple times to collect a few things, things which we jointly owned but she wanted which I wasn't too fussed over. She came back the other day whilst I was out (I knew she was coming just didn't want to see/talk to her) to collect some more stuff. She has now taken it apon herself to take my Playstation 4 and all of my games along with my google home. I know she could argue that the ps4 was a joint asset but she never ever used it and would be like me taking her straighteners and I'm bold, It's just spiteful. But has also taken my Googlehome which was a pressent to ME and only me. We own the house and both named on the mortgage. I know I can't legally stop her from accessing the property but can I at least prevent her from access when I'm not here? (leaving key in front door and using back, as she only has a front door key) really don't want to come home and shes emptied the house when I paid for 95% of everything.
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Yeah she doesn't think she's done anything wrong and is refusing too.