This really hurts.
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fortunately not something I've had to deal with direct family and dreading, unfortunately something I've experienced with less directly related people and that is enough.
Rroff its terrible bud.. I'm 39 and can just about count on one hand dead people I have found. But it's life at the end of the day none of us can hide from it.
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Glad you got through today, stay strong.
Thanks, now the funeral is over I find I don't have to much time to dwell as dealing with the bureaucratic nightmare that seems to exists when it comes to the death of someone is proving a challenge to put it cleanly. The likes of Amazon and TV License are appalling but I think that this is down to staff training or lack of which makes things so difficult.
Yeah, I remember after my dad died that dealing with all the things that you would think would be straight forward turned out to be more time consuming and troublesome than is acceptable on any level.
He was still getting emails from the electricity company a few months after we'd buried him.
I am sorry that I have not thanked everyone here for their kind words and support.
Now that the funeral is over I find that the practical side of me has kicked in which means I do not have a lot of time to question the un-justness of her death and whether anything I could have done when she first fell ill on the Sunday before here sudden death or in fact the months before could have prevented the outcome.
Once again many thanks.
Now that the funeral is over I find that the practical side of me has kicked in which means I do not have a lot of time to question the un-justness of her death and whether anything I could have done when she first fell ill on the Sunday before here sudden death or in fact the months before could have prevented the outcome.
Once again many thanks.
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Things like this bring back so many painful memories but be thankful you were with her at the end. Look after yourself and please try not to dwell on the circumstances. Its entirely natural but will only have a negative effect on your own wellbeing.
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So sorry Glenn. Only just seen this. Thinking of you.
Things took an unpleasant and frankly unnecessary turn a few months after Edie's death though to he honest the signs were there almost from the death itself and that was the behaviour of her son Steven, a banker though as it turns out changing the first letter would be more applicable.
Anyway he decided that his mother's small estate around £26,000 should go to his sons, because he stated in an email that this was what his mother woukd have wanted my 37 years of being her partner were to be ignored. I questioned how he could possibly know what his mother wanted seeing as she was fortunate to see him 5/6 times a year even though he lives and works in the same city as his mother. He decided that curtailing any further communication with me was the way forward.
I decided that using section 29 of the Families Act Scotland 2006 was the way to go and engaged a lawyer to take the natter forward. Long story short, Steven met with my lawyer yesterday and made the expected offer of £2000, after my lawyer informed him that under the act I was entitled to half after after much haggling the sum of £11000 was offered which no accepted after cost I will receive a little over £ 10,000.
This sort of action should not have bern necessary, the fault in the first instance lies with Edie and myself for not getting married even if all that meant was a couple of neighbours and a registry office, then of course we have the unpleasantness of Steven, we have never got on for many reasons so I suppose his behaviour was not really unexpected, shame though.
So you older unmarried folk think very hard about what could happen if one of you die and you do not have your affairs in order, you really do not need this sort of **** in an already unpleasant time in your life.
Anyway he decided that his mother's small estate around £26,000 should go to his sons, because he stated in an email that this was what his mother woukd have wanted my 37 years of being her partner were to be ignored. I questioned how he could possibly know what his mother wanted seeing as she was fortunate to see him 5/6 times a year even though he lives and works in the same city as his mother. He decided that curtailing any further communication with me was the way forward.
I decided that using section 29 of the Families Act Scotland 2006 was the way to go and engaged a lawyer to take the natter forward. Long story short, Steven met with my lawyer yesterday and made the expected offer of £2000, after my lawyer informed him that under the act I was entitled to half after after much haggling the sum of £11000 was offered which no accepted after cost I will receive a little over £ 10,000.
This sort of action should not have bern necessary, the fault in the first instance lies with Edie and myself for not getting married even if all that meant was a couple of neighbours and a registry office, then of course we have the unpleasantness of Steven, we have never got on for many reasons so I suppose his behaviour was not really unexpected, shame though.
So you older unmarried folk think very hard about what could happen if one of you die and you do not have your affairs in order, you really do not need this sort of **** in an already unpleasant time in your life.
An utter **** move by the son. Sorry that this has dragged things out for you..
It shouldn't be necessary to be wed in cases such as this in the eyes of the law. Myself and my partner have no real desire to do the marriage thing personally.
It shouldn't be necessary to be wed in cases such as this in the eyes of the law. Myself and my partner have no real desire to do the marriage thing personally.
It was only in 2006 that those that cohabit got some small support in law but you only have 6 months to make a claim and of course engaging a lawyer does not come cheap. I was quoted from £3000 pound an hour to £250 an hour for their services.
Who says the law is not just for the rich.
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Sorry for your loss
legal services are vultures. charges are ridiculous.
reminds me I should really make a will. i guess that may provide some clarity in the event..