you didn't ask the father did you?

CircleFaust · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:02

getting engaged , did you tell them you were going to ask your daughter to marry beforehand?
surely not needed these days...

VincentHanna · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:03

No, but he was dead before I ever met her.

(I'm so helpful)

Maccy · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:06

Yes, I asked.

GhostWKD · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:09

Yes, as I suspected that would have been preferred... although with the power of a few years hindsight wish he had declined

paradigm · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:10

VincentHanna said:
No, but he was dead before I ever met her.

(I'm so helpful)

This.

Martynt74 · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:13

Yes, i did.

He laughed and asked me if i really thought she'd want to

bloodiedathame · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:13

I did.

Scania · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:15

Yes I did, both times, out of tradition I guess and respect.

Fat lot of good it did, twice divorced.

krooton · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:15

VincentHanna said:
No, but he was dead before I ever met her.

(I'm so helpful)

Same, however I did do so with my first fiance.

Martynt74 · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:16

Scania said:
Yes I did, both times, out of tradition I guess and respect.

Fat lot of good it did, twice divorced.

Probably says more about you than the father

Hades · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:16

Nope he was dead.

Think carefully before getting married though.

Terminal_Boy · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:16

Do it out of respect and tradition. I did and my now father-in-law really appreciated my asking him.

Randomface74 · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:17

If he said no, would you not propose?
If yes - don't ask - because you'll not end up marrying her.
If no - don't ask - because you'd be disrespecting him.

Scania · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:24

Marvt74 said:
Probably says more about you than the father

Probably right.

Joy of being a long distance trucker, whilst the Cat’s away the unfaithful mice played...

Stretch · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:25

I called my father-in-law to tell him that I'd proposed.

Wizardskills · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:26

I didn't.

pastymuncher · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:26

I did both times but I am old fashioned. First time around I asked my 1st wifes father and step father and they were rather touched that I had the respect to ask them. It would have saved me a lot of grief several years later if they said no!! I asked Mrs Pastymuncher mk2's father as well even though she had already been married, who then invited me in for a wee dram to celebrate. Very sadly he passed before we eventually married which was very sad as he and my dad were so alike.

Siliconslave · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:30

I did - the whole wedding thing is a load of hokey traditions & so crazily emotive for all (the women) involved that its easier and simpler to play along

That being said I guess it very much depends on what you & your (potential) fiancee's views on these things are.

Puzzled · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:31

Depends how you get on I suppose but its nice to ask / tell them your plans.

Irish_Tom · 4 Jan 2019 at 14:34

Nope. I had a good chat with both her mother and father (separately and in private) about my feelings towards her, but there was never a formal question.