On the subject of sugary sweet things, have any of you managed to get by with not giving your kids sweets? We intend to avoid all sweets and chocolates once he's on solids and believe we can give him things like strawberries and blueberries as "treats" instead. What do you think? We've already had stern words with the grandparents about not sneaking him treats. Too much?
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We never really gave our eldest sweets etc until he was 4 or 5. And we've always given them unsweetened Greek yoghurt instead of the sugary stuff.
The youngest has a much sweeter tooth and more access due to more being around with an older brother in the house. But they still don't get a lot.
It helps that we don't go heavy on sweet stuff, and neither do most of their friends .
I don't think it causes any harm to keep them away from sweets, as long as you don't extend it to them being treated differently to friends in social sweet-eating situations.
The youngest has a much sweeter tooth and more access due to more being around with an older brother in the house. But they still don't get a lot.
It helps that we don't go heavy on sweet stuff, and neither do most of their friends .
I don't think it causes any harm to keep them away from sweets, as long as you don't extend it to them being treated differently to friends in social sweet-eating situations.
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Working for us so far, (19 months) grandparents do everything they can to break our rules and frown when we mention it
Explains my "extra medium" size
Oh good, there is hope. The grandparents and aunties have joked a few times about sneaking him chocolate and I've retorted quite sternly about the matter. I know what they're like, it's all fun and games to them, but if they don't respect our wishes I'll come down hard on them. The whole matter makes my other half quite anxious too. Glad I'm not being a hard head about it all, retalive to you guys at least 
Up to you mate but if you continue with that way of thinking, your kid is going to grow up a spoilt brat. IMO, I don't think it's impolite either. Having a young one myself I quite often interact with other children a similar age without "permission" as it is normal. Id be aware giving people "both barrels" as if it were me, you'd get it straight back, and more
Seriously i don't get it. What gives you the right to touch someone elses elses child. Hugely impolite, IMO.
You'd seriously argue back at me if i asked you not to touch my child? That seems a bit odd.
You seem to be ignoring the fact i have my reasons for not wanting people to touch him.
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Thanks for that, I'll look into it.
Just re read your post....
To answer your questions:
I have no right but it's just normal day to day behaviour. Many people compliment how bonny my daughter is and give her chubby cheeks a squeeze, it's perfectly fine. Obviously wouldn't want some strange looking dirtbag doing it but the situation you describe I have no issue with.
However, if he is indeed ill and could be hurt as a result, I would be polite and explain he is ill and delicate. No need to be rude.
Anyway, you posted for advice and other people's opinions, the majority of people have disagreed with you, you became aggressive and insinuated other people are negligent for not sharing your opinion. Poor form my friend.
Yeah I'd have been equally angry.
Luckily my daughter has no interest in anything other than water and milk so no worries about trash drinks for the foreseeable.
Been away for a week and am now back with my little girl, and it's crazy how great it is to see her. Been playing with her for hours and now feel like I need another week off
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That is pretty epically stupid. Why would you even consider that?
She's a kind hearted very generous person who I actually really like, she just has this thing about wanting to be the favourite of the kids, she has 3 grand kids plus my two. Problem is she sometimes does stuff like that or undermines us as the parents over dinners etc.
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My 5 year old has tried a sip of a fizzy drink but she didn't like it (which means my 2 year old son doesn't like it as he copies everything). They do occasionally have juice but they both enjoy brushing their teeth so I figure it's OK. I'm quite proud neither of them have had a maccy ds yet.
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