The OcUK Relationship Counselling and Hugs Thread

rebel rebel said:
How high up on the creepy scale is adding on Facebook, a saleswoman you spoke to in a shop?

1 being this isn't in anyway inappropriate, i'm so glad you stalked found me! And 10 being omg you psychopath i'm calling the police!

:D
Click to expand...

That is definitely into the creepy end of the scale... (especially just randomly adding them with no message sent).


rebel rebel said:
And going back to the store specifically to see her could also be perceived as creepy. Unless I could pull off the nonchalant "Oh hi I'm glad I bumped into you again!" move.
Click to expand...

:confused:

a3yDlow.gif


Why lie about it? If you want to ask someone out then just be honest and ask them out, why the need to pretend? It is just going to be weirder if you make some half arsed/confused attempt at getting to meet her, just make it clear you like her and would like to take her out.

If she does accept your friend request then please do just message her and be upfront about it, just tell her you like her and ask her out.
 
Haha I love some of these replies. Talk about all piling in... :D It was written to deliberately appear stalkery, that's why I mentioned a creepy scale at the beginning.

All I have done is added someone I met on Facebook. I didn't hide in someone's front garden with some night vision goggles. It looks like her account hasn't been used for a year anyway. If she accepts the request, I'll add a picture to the account and send a message. If she doesn't use the account again, there's no harm done. I'll probably be back at the store next month anyway. You people act like you've never looked someone up on Facebook.

And yes i'm fully aware that salespeople pretend to be nice to get more sales and commission.
 
Well I might as well share whilst I'm browsing GD like I do once in a blue moon...

So I decided to leave my absolutely stunning oriental partner for the sake of my sanity and my children. However beautiful she is, she's just a total nutter (aren't they all?), and I had enough.

So I secretly got myself a nice little house in a great area, close to my new secret job (the need for secrecy kind of says it all), and literally packed up and left yesterday and I'm currently sat in a hotel waiting for the keys on Monday.

Absolutely love her to bits but she's just not right for me, or my children, so yeah, mixed feelings right now. Little sad because we had some amazing times together, but at the same time happy because I know it's the right thing to do and the future is bright, and I'm looking forward to being woken up by my little girls jumping on my bed at 6am on a Saturday morning, happy days :)
 
justbeats said:
Well I might as well share whilst I'm browsing GD like I do once in a blue moon...

So I decided to leave my absolutely stunning oriental partner for the sake of my sanity and my children. However beautiful she is, she's just a total nutter (aren't they all?), and I had enough.

So I secretly got myself a nice little house in a great area, close to my new secret job (the need for secrecy kind of says it all), and literally packed up and left yesterday and I'm currently sat in a hotel waiting for the keys on Monday.

Absolutely love her to bits but she's just not right for me, or my children, so yeah, mixed feelings right now. Little sad because we had some amazing times together, but at the same time happy because I know it's the right thing to do and the future is bright, and I'm looking forward to being woken up by my little girls jumping on my bed at 6am on a Saturday morning, happy days :)
Click to expand...

I mean from the outside it seems a bit harsh to get up and leave without saying anything unless she's threatened your life or is severely abusive to you or the children, obviously you should leave someone who is a complete nutter though
 
rebel rebel said:
If she accepts the request, I'll add a picture to the account and send a message. If she doesn't use the account again, there's no harm done. I'll probably be back at the store next month anyway. You people act like you've never looked someone up on Facebook.
Click to expand...

Wait what?

So she doesn't even know that it is you at this point? That's just adding to the creepiness. Honestly if you've only recently done this then at least add a photo and send her a message. Your account is going to look rather obviously new with no previous activity, no tagged photos etc..

rebel rebel said:
You people act like you've never looked someone up on Facebook.
Click to expand...

Difference is I've got a Facebook account already... with friends, pictures of me etc.. and when I add someone I've generally met them socially and we've got mutual friends in common.
 
I have gone fully creepy for the lolz, if she's accepted the request by Tuesday when the items arrive. I'll put a picture up of me with them, message her thanking her for the items and see what happens. :p
If not I'll delete the request and see her if/when I go in next. This is all mostly pointless anyway, she hasn't been on the account for a year, and doesn't even have the same job listed.

And people add people they don't know on Facebook all the time. And look at pictures of workmates on holiday... or workmates gf's... Hell I bet people have even perved over colleagues adult daughters.
 
Roar87 said:
I mean from the outside it seems a bit harsh to get up and leave without saying anything unless she's threatened your life or is severely abusive to you or the children, obviously you should leave someone who is a complete nutter though
Click to expand...
I know it sounds harsh, but it was the right thing to do, she's already been in contact and has actually agreed. She wasn't a complete nutter, she just couldn't control herself when she lost it, and she lost it bad, a lot, and yes she threatened my life and tried more than once.

Anyway, endings are not always the end, is what the moral of the story was really.
 
An interesting one, would love your opinions.

I met an absolutely gorgeous girl at a training course I attended. Initially it seemed like we hit it off as we laughed and joked about.

I got the vibe that she was interested so when we were filling out our survey at the end, I decided to drop my pencil and "have a quick peak"

Unbeknownst to me, she was mortified and as a result, I was dismissed from my role. Did she overreact?

How high up on the creepy scale is this?

If anyone has any vacancies, hit me up
 
Tonyabrhm said:
An interesting one, would love your opinions.

I met an absolutely gorgeous girl at a training course I attended. Initially it seemed like we hit it off as we laughed and joked about.

I got the vibe that she was interested so when we were filling out our survey at the end, I decided to drop my pencil and "have a quick peak"

Unbeknownst to me, she was mortified and as a result, I was dismissed from my role. Did she overreact?

How high up on the creepy scale is this?

If anyone has any vacancies, hit me up
Click to expand...
secretspy said:
I think we need some clarification here, was she the trainer I take it? And what did you 'have a quick peek of?'
Click to expand...

She was a he and had a penis lol :D creeepy pasta 101
 
rebel rebel said:
I have gone fully creepy for the lolz, if she's accepted the request by Tuesday when the items arrive. I'll put a picture up of me with them, message her thanking her for the items and see what happens. :p
If not I'll delete the request and see her if/when I go in next. This is all mostly pointless anyway, she hasn't been on the account for a year, and doesn't even have the same job listed.

And people add people they don't know on Facebook all the time. And look at pictures of workmates on holiday... or workmates gf's... Hell I bet people have even perved over colleagues adult daughters.
Click to expand...
Hold old are you, 13? You are going about this completely the wrong way.. I guess you don't have much experience with women?

Either go to the store again and talk to her, or if you can't then just call the store, and ask to speak to her as you have her name. When she answers tell her she said to contact her if you need something... and you need her phone number so you can ask her out for dinner.

All this creating a facebook account just to add her and see her pics/talk to her is just super creepy and honestly, embarrassing.
 
rebel rebel said:
I have gone fully creepy for the lolz, if she's accepted the request by Tuesday when the items arrive. I'll put a picture up of me with them, message her thanking her for the items and see what happens. :p
If not I'll delete the request and see her if/when I go in next. This is all mostly pointless anyway, she hasn't been on the account for a year, and doesn't even have the same job listed.
Click to expand...

Unless she recognises your name it seems a bit of a long shot that she's accept a random friend request from someone with no profile picture, no other pictures, no friends in common and seemingly no friends at all.

And people add people they don't know on Facebook all the time. And look at pictures of workmates on holiday... or workmates gf's... Hell I bet people have even perved over colleagues adult daughters.
Click to expand...

It probably isn't as common as you think, not to mention they likely have an established profile with friends, pictures etc...
 
A2Z said:
Hold old are you, 13? You are going about this completely the wrong way.. I guess you don't have much experience with women?

Either go to the store again and talk to her, or if you can't then just call the store, and ask to speak to her as you have her name. When she answers tell her she said to contact her if you need something... and you need her phone number so you can ask her out for dinner.

All this creating a facebook account just to add her and see her pics/talk to her is just super creepy and honestly, embarrassing.
Click to expand...

The disturbing thing, the guy doesn't see it as creepy or embarrassing.. but a laugh.
 
Again this was done for a laugh, mostly for this thread, I knew it was a creepy thing to do, and mentioned that at the start.

There are no pervy pics, there's only about 10 all together. And the account hasn't been used for over a year.

And ftr out of 5 of my closest mates, only 1 has a Facebook account in their real names, 1 has a fake account they use to meet women behind their partners back, and another has a normal account with a fake name as he doesn't like having people he used to know looking him up. The other two don't have accounts. Which i'm aware says a lot about the people I mix with, but there you go..
 
What on earth were you thinking.

Adding a girl on fb with a fake name, no friends, no profile pic and no profile activity in hope she will accept and start something.

Just mental.
 
Thought I would post my situation in here:

I've been dating a girl for a couple of months and we've been getting on really well, talking about a future together etc.

I just had a video call with her and she had a red scab on her lip. I asked her about it and she said it was something that happened when she was stressed. No specifics. The only thing I can think it would be is herpes.

It's really concerning because if it is I may have caught it off her, but at the very least if I keep seeing her I will end up getting it myself. There is also the trust issue of not telling me in the event it is a contagious disease. My plan is to ask her if her condition has a name. I don't know if I am overreacting but it would be heart breaking to call everything off if it does end up being herpes.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom