I feel very self aware about my relationship with alcohol these days.
I’ve never described myself as having a problem with it, nor have I recklessly binged into oblivion beyond the usual adult stupor. I do also enjoy a drink now and then (still kisses with saliva, shot of baby strapped in back seat etc.).
But it’s now obvious to me that drinking alcohol is generally pretty terrible for you, in this ‘slow burn’ rumbling sort of way that’s hard for me to even notice. I only have because I’ve really taken time to observe myself.
For me, it almost instantly wipes out a layer of anxiety and discomfort that I carry in my default state (these feelings are generally normal and helpful within tolerances). So drinking is a very good way to relax, sure. But then back in the light of day it makes those default feelings of anxiety and discomfort seem more unpleasant… and if you’re a worrywart like me it’s possible to work yourself up into a state where you’re down because you’re always worried.
We all need to tolerate our anxieties etc. so they are not scary, troubling things - just part of our toolkit. But alcohol changes our perception of these tools, IMO, because it makes us feel like we are better off without them and makes us resent them. Likewise, it pushes us to seek out similar bliss like states that don’t really exist long term in life. A lot of life is monotonous and repetitive - we have to deal with that. Once your accept it, it’s really not so bad at all - there is plenty to enjoy.
And just when did life’s minor stresses become such a burden in the first place? Maybe it does have something to do with the seductive experience and compelling enjoyment of being free from troubles (because of alcohol, gambling, porn, daydreaming or whatever the subtly addictive thing in life might be).
Probably for the best that alcohol culture is in decline IMO.
Yes, there’s balance to be found in everything of course. Just throwing in my 2ps!