You can have mh problems and still work. i am talking about the average person in this country. My 35% was being very conservative, it's probably much more.
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**The Mental Health Thread**
- Thread starter Gabbatek
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You can but I've had to spend most of my time self learning as I struggle with things that involve contact with other people. I can just about cope with video conferencing but I avoid it as much as I can which is half the reason I'm aiming to start a small business as I'll be in control of what I am required to do.
Been struggling with my MH for at least decade, depressed and anxiety.
Plus had confirmed diagnosis of ADHD few years back after initially being told I didn’t by NHS. Before reassessing me after I also went private.
Cant remember last time I’ve been ‘happy’ I get brief moments where I feel okay. Then I remember all the problems and stuff I’m dealing with and get back into feeling negative
Have been on/off anti depressants didn’t finish Uni because of mental health and wasted money to not even graduate. Ended up cutting my losses around 4 years ago. Resat years multiple times and still couldn’t finish.
I didn’t enjoy it I didn’t socialise was too depressed and anxious to make friends and go out there.
However it weighs heavy on my mind I want to go back and finish however not in space to do so.
But something that cripples me daily especially when I see people graduating - I’m happy for them but also find it triggering as I should’ve done that.
Managed to get a job however feel stuck as when I look at other jobs they want degrees which I don’t have.
And if I do I’m even struggling to update my cv I just put it off.
Not enjoying my current role anymore been 3 years no progression and lack of salary increase.
nearly got fired a few times but somehow holding on.
Think of the last 10 years everything seems like a waste and a failure. From personal to professional to academic.
Can’t focus on anything, full of anxiety and avoiding tasks and people.
Nothing helps my adhd tried multiple medications and still struggle.
Just stuck…
Came off the last anti depressant a few months ago as didn’t feel it was working and was right I don’t feel any different.
I’m considering maybe exploring another anti depressant just to try help get out this hole.
Just I feel like everytime I’ve been on them they’ve not really helped. Everything’s a blur I can’t keep up at which ones I’ve tried and how long k was on them.
Got referred to cbt but long waiting list.
Just procrastinating my life away
Sorry for the rant
Plus had confirmed diagnosis of ADHD few years back after initially being told I didn’t by NHS. Before reassessing me after I also went private.
Cant remember last time I’ve been ‘happy’ I get brief moments where I feel okay. Then I remember all the problems and stuff I’m dealing with and get back into feeling negative
Have been on/off anti depressants didn’t finish Uni because of mental health and wasted money to not even graduate. Ended up cutting my losses around 4 years ago. Resat years multiple times and still couldn’t finish.
I didn’t enjoy it I didn’t socialise was too depressed and anxious to make friends and go out there.
However it weighs heavy on my mind I want to go back and finish however not in space to do so.
But something that cripples me daily especially when I see people graduating - I’m happy for them but also find it triggering as I should’ve done that.
Managed to get a job however feel stuck as when I look at other jobs they want degrees which I don’t have.
And if I do I’m even struggling to update my cv I just put it off.
Not enjoying my current role anymore been 3 years no progression and lack of salary increase.
nearly got fired a few times but somehow holding on.
Think of the last 10 years everything seems like a waste and a failure. From personal to professional to academic.
Can’t focus on anything, full of anxiety and avoiding tasks and people.
Nothing helps my adhd tried multiple medications and still struggle.
Just stuck…
Came off the last anti depressant a few months ago as didn’t feel it was working and was right I don’t feel any different.
I’m considering maybe exploring another anti depressant just to try help get out this hole.
Just I feel like everytime I’ve been on them they’ve not really helped. Everything’s a blur I can’t keep up at which ones I’ve tried and how long k was on them.
Got referred to cbt but long waiting list.
Just procrastinating my life away
Sorry for the rant
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Feeling the pressure today!
Universe to Me:
"I know you've just paid £28k in funeral fees/clearing her outstanding debts, wiping out your savings, new car deposit and even the emergency fund, which the probate process could take up to 3 years to sort out...
...so I've arranged for the new car to arrive 4 months early.
You're welcome!"
Universe to Me:
"I know you've just paid £28k in funeral fees/clearing her outstanding debts, wiping out your savings, new car deposit and even the emergency fund, which the probate process could take up to 3 years to sort out...
...so I've arranged for the new car to arrive 4 months early.
You're welcome!"
Depression is anger turned inward over
a long time, I heard. I need to learn how to do anger,
or assertiveness and calmness and all of it.
I do this emotional dysregulation thing, and I hate it.
I need to learn to activate my parasympathetic system more.
a long time, I heard. I need to learn how to do anger,
or assertiveness and calmness and all of it.
I do this emotional dysregulation thing, and I hate it.
I need to learn to activate my parasympathetic system more.
If only it were so simple to define...
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I think the key for a lot of mental health issues is self awareness and understanding.
I've had a few things going on since my accident and I have thought about myself, where things were going, how I was thinking differently.
I developed my own personal coping mechanisms with zero insight, because I was operating well, or so I was thinking. I had zero help from neurology or any assistance, because I genuinely didn't think I needed it and if I took the help, it meant someone who needed it more couldn't have it. I got put onto a course by a neuroscientist and it turns out all the coping mechanisms they'd recommend I'd learned already and had been doing.
Until I went to uni, flunked it, worked for NHS and effectively got railroaded out by being put on 'gardening leave' whilst they worked out what to do with me. I wanted to be a physiotherapist to help people, until I worked for the NHS then the management broke me....
I got a job somewhere else and the people that NHS wanted me to speak to were flabbergasted by how I was being treated and recommended getting a job somewhere else.... Ironically one of the OTs told me she used to work for the NHS and was bullied out of it so she started working for the council and immediately better.
There are ways of looking at things and the key for me is staying open. I hate change, but if something isn't working I need to look at it logically.
I am in a happier place now. I do struggle with being alone in my own head. I have to force myself to do things otherwise I'd suffer in silence.
I've had a few things going on since my accident and I have thought about myself, where things were going, how I was thinking differently.
I developed my own personal coping mechanisms with zero insight, because I was operating well, or so I was thinking. I had zero help from neurology or any assistance, because I genuinely didn't think I needed it and if I took the help, it meant someone who needed it more couldn't have it. I got put onto a course by a neuroscientist and it turns out all the coping mechanisms they'd recommend I'd learned already and had been doing.
Until I went to uni, flunked it, worked for NHS and effectively got railroaded out by being put on 'gardening leave' whilst they worked out what to do with me. I wanted to be a physiotherapist to help people, until I worked for the NHS then the management broke me....
I got a job somewhere else and the people that NHS wanted me to speak to were flabbergasted by how I was being treated and recommended getting a job somewhere else.... Ironically one of the OTs told me she used to work for the NHS and was bullied out of it so she started working for the council and immediately better.
There are ways of looking at things and the key for me is staying open. I hate change, but if something isn't working I need to look at it logically.
I am in a happier place now. I do struggle with being alone in my own head. I have to force myself to do things otherwise I'd suffer in silence.
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These darker early mornings are becoming a bit dull.
I think I'll start firing up the SAD lamp from Monday.
It didn't hurt last winter!
I think I'll start firing up the SAD lamp from Monday.
It didn't hurt last winter!
Got an appointment with my psychiatrist on Wednesday and somewhat nervous about it. I've been stable since Jan 2022 and I don't want anything to upset the Apple cart. I did hear that they were thinking of changing my medication which could be a good thing or a really bad thing. I guess I'll just have to wait and see.
True. I guess I'll find out soon enough.
This works. I suffer from crippling ongoing anxiety but have been a guitarist most of my life. As soon as I pick up my guitar and play my anxiety melts away and I feel calmer. I highly recommend learning to play an instrument to anyone with a mental health issue.
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How much do you bench press?
I’m kidding, but I’m also not, have you tried the gym and being self improvement by gaining physical strength and attractiveness?
Attended my local Andy's Man Club last night as I have been doing for over a year now.
Unfortunately was given the bad news that one of the chaps who had been attending for the last 6 months or so had sadly taken his own life
I cried whilst I was there and cried all the way home. So upset over a man I barely knew, but obviously realise it could as easily be me or anyone else there on a bad day
Unfortunately was given the bad news that one of the chaps who had been attending for the last 6 months or so had sadly taken his own life
I cried whilst I was there and cried all the way home. So upset over a man I barely knew, but obviously realise it could as easily be me or anyone else there on a bad day
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Sobering stuff, especially given the context of how you knew him
+1
It doesn't really matter if you're no good at it to start with - just the act of giving your brain something completely different to focus on, combined with the creative expression definitely helps. When I'm having a **** day I like to stick my headphones on (or speakers if nobody else is in) and fiddle with my synths
