What would you do? life changing decision ... genuine posts only please !!

[Zefan]

Stay there, it's a far better place than the UK

Even when you know nobody?

I'd post advice, but I quite simply can't even begin to fathom how hard a decision it is to make.

All I can say is I hope in a few days time you're happy with whatever you choose.

 

[MRMOBEUS.]

Stay there, it's a far better place than the UK

And there is that aswell of course

 

[Burnsy2023]

For me this is a nobrainer. You owe it to your daughter to be a father and therefore you gotta stay.

Burnsy

 

[Hxc]

You can meet people. It really isn't that hard.

 

[Toryglen-boy]

Is it not possible to postpone this decision until you are off the medication, assuming you do come off it

it might be. i am due an op soon, either here or in the UK that should help things

 

[M0T]

You say that if you go you'll probably never see your daughter again, this makes it clear cut to me. You should stay, you'll make new friends and get to see your little girl grow up - if you go back you'll miss all of that and you can't ever get it back.

 

[dakaiez]

Well if you enjoy your work, you'll defiently enjoy seeing your daughter and other than not knowing anyone bar at work do you enjoy the country? If you do, then it's a no brainer really as you always meet new people you may even meet another woman over there and you'll be able to start again.

 

[tom_e]

how long have you been in oz?

 

[JohnnyG]

it might be. i am due an op soon, either here or in the UK that should help things

Do you think the medication has changed your personality?

 

[Yas786]

Even when you know nobody?

I'd post advice, but I quite simply can't even begin to fathom how hard a decision it is to make.

All I can say is I hope in a few days time you're happy with whatever you choose.

Yup, always can make new friends ya know

Hmm if it wasnt for your daughter then id say come back but if i was you id stay and make as much effort as you can to spend time with your daughter. Imagine how she would feel if you left and never saw her again..pretty cruel and harsh and i know if my dad did that when i was young...id forever resnt him for it and wouldnt want to know him afterwards.

But at the end of the day, its your decision but id think long and very hard about your daughter and how she will feel when she finds out that you didnt stick around for her nor visited her as you said you probably wouldnt see her again.

 

[Toryglen-boy]

Do you think the medication has changed your personality?

not really, i am still a mental


been here on and off since last June

 

[Tefal]

I'd stay but take a nice long vacation to UK.

 

[JohnnyG]

not really, i am still a mental


been here on and off since last June

You're more mental now
Maybe the illness has brought you out of your shell a bit

 

[MRMOBEUS.]

when it comes to kids, sacrafices have to be made!
seriously dude, if you came back you'ld soon be wanting to go back, but I don't think it would be easy second time round?! tho I may be wrong on the last part of my post!
But I think the general concensus is stay with your daughter

 

[Toryglen-boy]

I'd stay but take a nice long vacation to UK.

my passport runs out 12th September, and my visa is up two weeks after that !!

if i am gonna stay, i need to act now

 

[Toryglen-boy]

You're more mental now
Maybe the illness has brought you out of your shell a bit

maybe it did !!

that can only be a good thing ....

 

[djbenjo]

My Dad left when I was about 18 weeks old. I have resented him my entire life.

 

[Una]

For me there is no way I would leave my daughter if I was in your position. You should just try to make the best of your life over there.

 

[Slam62]

For me this is a nobrainer. You owe it to your daughter to be a father and therefore you gotta stay.

Burnsy

oh dear


I agree with burnsy

 

[Toryglen-boy]

For me there is no way I would leave my daughter if I was in your position. You should just try to make the best of your life over there.

i hear you, and in general i agree ...

but if there is one thing i have learned ... you cant live your life for anyone else...