Hi guys,
I'm an avid forum lurker, I don't post much, but do keep an eye on the forums regularly.
I was looking for some subjective opinions on my relationship with my ex wife, and thought this might be a good place to start !
I was with my wife from the age of 17, I'm 34 now, we were married for 14 years and have a daughter aged 8, we are no longer together and are midway through a divorce, but the circumstances that lead to our relationship demise still trouble me.
In February 2017, I found a text message on her phone to her boss, that stated 'I Miss you so much.x' - This absolutely destroyed me, it was around a week before the anniversary of the death of my mother (That I was still griveing for). This is the only message on her phone to him, all others had been deleted.
I entered into a conversation with her about it, long story short, she told me she had text him 3-4 times over two weeks until I asked for her to give me her phone, she did, reluctantly and just as I was entering her online bill, she confessed to texting him 40-50 times over two weeks, all the text were 'about work' - Yet all had been deleted. She claimed he is a very close friend and that she had confided in him during a difficult professional period of her life, and he was there for her.
For 3 months, I tried to forget what had happened, but couldn't - Our relationship, oddly directly after I found these messages was the best it had been for years - Sex life, emotional attachment everything, but it didn't last long. 3 months later, I moved out of the family home, after she refused relationship counselling, she ''needed to find herself'
In December, she text me to tell me she was in a relationship with this guy, and he had left his wife - She claimed she went out for one drink with him, in December. In Mid January 2018, she removed me from our family holiday booking without telling me, and replaced me with him. Mid February, he bought new mattresses for him and her and one for my daughter.
By March they had all moved into his house, while ours is up for sale and I'm stuck back at my dad's house trying to figure out a future plan for myself.
She uses my daughter as a weapon constantly, she even Informed the police that I '''followed' her, Which was ridiculous, as I was behind her car for 15 seconds...
I'm still hurt, as Ive lost what I considered my family life, my home and access to my beautiful daughter daily, I now see her every other week and every Tuesday evening. I don't miss my ex wife, more the life I had built with her over the years we were together.
I feel like I'm floundering around, with no real direction in life at the moment...
So, my questions are - Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation ? What is everyone's opinion on the subject ?
Thanks in advance !
Vinny.