Splitting Up with Misses

AthlonTom

AthlonTom

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Today is the day I plan on splitting up with my Girlfriend, now I still like her and and don't want to see her upset in anyway, in fact I still love her. But its not fair on her to keep going out with her if I know that its just not going to work. I tried to do this a month ago, but whenever I see her start to cry or anything I just want to comfort her.

So I've decided I'm going to do it over the phone, I'm away with work at the moment and won't be returning home for a couple of months. I know its a rubbish thing to do on the phone but:

A: I'm not capable in person in this case
B: She'll get a couple of months where theres no chance of her bumping into me which will probably be better for her anyways.

I've put £30 on my phone in preparation and I'm dedicating this evening to it (tis a plan). I'm planning just to explain all this on the phone to her in plain and simple english and then hoping for the best.

Just posting to get a handle on this from some other perpectives.

Cheers

Tom
 
£30? Thats one hell of a long conversation.

I cant be bothered splitting with my girlfriend, it's too much hassle. Be interesting to hear the outcome; whether you cave or not!
 
You gave us no juicy details, like how long have you been together and why are you splitting up?
 
I'm in a very similar situation - apart from the phone thing. It looks like my number may be up very shortly.

As for doing it over the phone - I've split with a past gf of two years over the phone. The reasons for this were very simple. She was living in Bristol and I was going to get a coach to see her to end it. I went to the cashpoint and had no money - I had miscalculated how much I had. I called her up and said I couldn't afford to come, to which she said, "I know something's wrong, you may as well tell me what it is". So doing it over the phone is sometimes the only option.

Good luck with it though. It's not an easy time.
 
I broke up with my girlfriend last night, not over the phone though. Face to face although harder, is better i'm sure.

Good luck though, it really isn't nice.
 
Been together around a year, were both 22. We first started goin out when we were 16 but split up and didnt see each other for 3 years while I went to Uni.

My typical week starts on Sunday evening, I have a 3 hour drive into London, check into the hotel and then work long hours Monday to Friday, due to traffic I get home about 10 on friday nights. I then get no time to do the things I need to do, no beer, I always have to drive, no smoking, I can't listen to the music I like and her idea of a good weekend is shopping and spending time in bed.
I've got no objections to spending time in bed but after being away all week with very little time thats not been spent facing a customer or sat in front of a PC. I don't get the opportunity I need to unwind - on my own, or at least with someone who has similar interests.

She's also very insecure, doesn't like being left alone and generally seems to cry if I'm late home from work/whenever I leave for work on Sundays.

Finacially I can't conform to her plans of buying a house and still buy the car I want. Which I know seems totally rediculess, but I worked really hard for my job and cosistantly put in a lot of effort. Only to see the cash I earn to do the things I want to do (holidays/festivals/cars) disapear before my eyes.

Make sense or am I a selfish ****?
 
AthlonTom said:
Make sense or am I a selfish ****?
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Selfish, but if your not happy then it should end, i just think your a wuss for doing it over the phone :)

KaHn
 
Mate, I don't care what your excuse is. If you have any respect or compasion for this girl - man up and tell her to her face. If she starts crying, you've just got to stick to your guns. Do it in the nicest possible way.
 
Your reasons for ending it sound genuine, but stop trying to convince yourself that doing it over the phone is the right thing.

Be a man and tell her in person for goodness sake!
 
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