Am i a bad person?

I would ask her to leave the house, and not return. If she refuses, I would seriously phone the police and inform them of a trespasser on your property, and they are refusing to leave without force.
 
yeah basmic, that'll cause no bad blood between him and his brother. good one.

MV, you're not a bad person. although i can see why you think you might be, it's hard when sanity is in the minority. good luck with it all
 
Malt_Vinegar said:
Does this make me a bad person??
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No, touching yourself at night makes you a bad person.

She sounds like a nightmare mate, ground rules need to be set.

And if not try googling for a supplier of ball gags.
 
He has to live in the house for the next 2 years at least and has already said he doesn't want to live in a tense house. Any heavy handed tactics at this stage would be a very stupid idea. Sometimes, although you may want to take a certain approach you have to think about which actions will produce the best result. Think things through properly, will these actions results in him living in his house with a good atmosphere?.... No. Then perhaps that should be a last resort and other avenues should be attempted first.
 
Malt_Vinegar said:
I have made it clear to my brother that this is a 50/50 and as such i will not tolerate this sort of behaviour from someone who has no official involvment with the property. We do have a written agreement, however, i think im going to re-write it and have it re-signed.

We have agreed to stay in the property for 2 years, then sell. Should give us both a nice deposit to move upwards. (we bought off plan, saved about 40k on retail price)

I will be talking to my Brother asap about the way he is flaunting our agreement with pressure from his future wife. Im sure i can make this work, I really dont want to be living in a tense house!
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Sounds like you've got it all in hand :) You're definitely not in the wrong - your brother's fiancée sounds like a bitch to be honest, I don't envy you living there for the next two years as it sounds like it's gonna be tense regardless.
 
The thing is, she is fine normally, just when her sister is around things seem to get edgy.

I built a bridge this morning, i was offered a cup of tea from fiance and then sorted out a photographer who i have worked with to do some photos for their band. I didnt really want to, but it seems to make sense if i want to live there :)
 
Sic said:
yeah basmic, that'll cause no bad blood between him and his brother. good one.
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The way I see it, his to-be sister-in-law is the problem in the house. So, why not eliminate the problem?
 
indeed, speak to your brother, not to get sides, but to sort out issues regarding the house. dont mention the girls at all.
i can see why the fiance wants some input to this, but tbh its a 3-way partnership now, so its going definately be some give and take. cant all be take take take :p
 
Your not a bad person mate. Have a quiet word with your bro, Im sure he will understand. As for your (almost) sister in laws sister, you must have a much cooler attitude than me, because I would have gone crazy if she or anyone else came out with a comment like that. Besides, you obviously wouldnt love the holocaust if you like Jewish people! She is just an ignorant bint that will get what is coming to her if she is going to come out with those comments. I guess you can be pleased that she isnt living with you.
 
Whatever you do, don't sit down with just your brother, he will almost certainly tell his fiancee what you have said causing bad feeling and an uncomfortable atmosphere. Talk to them both at the same time and get things out in the open early on, you may see that your brother develops more of a backbone if you are there as the voice of reason. Don't let these things fester and mention it a few months down the line, if you think a problem will arise from this situation you are better offf stopping it now.

David _b said:
The gf will see it as her house soon enough.
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Not if you make it clear from the start that it isn't.

Sweet jeeesus, when did I become Trisha? :D
 
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Get some white tape and divide the house in half - make sure to give yourself the bathroom and kitchen - maybe the stairs so they have to construct some sort of sheet ladder out of the window to get up and down.

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basmic said:
The way I see it, his to-be sister-in-law is the problem in the house. So, why not eliminate the problem?
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part of me really wants to meet you IRL. i need to see if you think about everything THIS little all the time. and if your interpersonal skills are really as poor as you make them seem. you cant just go round doing things like that mate. there's other things to take into consideration in the situation.
 
Sic said:
part of me really wants to meet you IRL. i need to see if you think about everything THIS little all the time. and if your interpersonal skills are really as poor as you make them seem. you cant just go round doing things like that mate. there's other things to take into consideration in the situation.
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I would do it, and it's not thinking little - it's thinking about yourself.

My interpersonal skills likely leave much to be desired to some people, but if you can learn to see my point-of-views then I make much more sense.

At the end of the day, his brother's girlfriend is being arsey, and very much treading on the lines of treating his and his brother's house as hers - which isn't the case.

Perhaps asking her to leave is a little harsh, but it would certainly remind her whose house she's a guest in.
 
Just an update peeps. I have no net at the moment, waiting for my tiscali modem to arrive :(

I have been very ill today, got sent home from work, got some kind of bug.

My bro's fiance made me drinks, sandwiches and kept checking on me :) I think I was a tad hasty, she is a nice girl, and now her sister is gone I'm a lot happier.

Thanks for all the advice guys :D
 
Its reasons like those that I will never go 50/50 on any big purchase. If things hit the fans than you CANT change the locks or kick them out as the house iss thiers also.

Talk to your brother as I assume he is the more reasonable one.
 
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