Am I being naive or stupid?

The Mad Rapper · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:19

Vixen said:
So you could trust someone who lies to you? More fool you really.

That's what I meant. Thanks for clarifying that.

shifty_uk · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:19

cymatty said:
Depends what the lie is, like I said I would be worried if that happened to me but he does not know that she is lying to him but he is still being funny imo.

So, you think it's okay for her to be going behind his back and lying to him? You make it sound like it's the right thing to do.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:21

shifty_uk said:
So, you think it's okay for her to be going behind his back and lying to him? You make it sound like it's the right thing to do.

No I dont and I told her I thought it was wrong. I said that I wanted her to be honest with her bf about us as it makes it seem something weird is going on. However it is her realtionship and at the end of the day it is up to her to make those choices.

FishThrower · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:25

there is no such thing as "a bloke and a girl being good mates"

Reason why you are good mates is that something is attracting you to them, they never work because one of you would be trying to get the other one in bed. If you think diffrent then you are very dumb

alexakasloth · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:25

Whatever the situation I think you did the right thing cymatty.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:25

FishThrower said:
there is no such thing as "a bloke and a girl being good mates"

Reason why you are good mates is that something is attracting you to them, they never work because one of you would be trying to get the other one in bed. If you think diffrent then you are very dumb

Wow what a stupid sweeping statement.

crystaline · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:26

FishThrower said:
there is no such thing as "a bloke and a girl being good mates"

Reason why you are good mates is that something is attracting you to them, they never work because one of you would be trying to get the other one in bed. If you think diffrent then you are very dumb

Can of worms tbh. A lot of people will disagree with you. In a lot of cases what you say in true, but not *ALL*.

The Mad Rapper · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:29

cymatty said:
Wow what a stupid sweeping statement.

But true in my experiance. I've never been friends with an attractive girl I've not thought about progressing things with. It's human nature

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:31

The Mad Rapper said:
But true in my experiance. I've never been friends with an attractive girl I've not thought about progressing things with. It's human nature

Even in your case though there is a difference between thinking it and actually wanting to go ahead and doing it, surely once you are past the thinking of doing something stage, then that will not affect your friendship with her?

kitten_caboodle · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:33

Ignore that sweeping statement mate - sure in a lot of cases it's true, but not all. I have several boy friends that I met at college 5/6 years ago that I'm still really good friends with - and there's not a hint of sexual stuff there - I just don't fancy them and i'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. I've been friends with them when we've been in relationships and also when we've all been single - and nothing ever happened, or ever would imo. They're like brothers and more protective of me than anything else.

Biohazard · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:45

If my partner was going to the pub and drinking with an ex without telling me I'd snap him. Serious words with her as well.

Its not on. If she/you had nothing to hide whats the problem in telling him?

If he has a problem with her drinking with you if he has been truthfully informed, then he has the problem.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:48

Biohazard said:
If my partner was going to the pub and drinking with an ex without telling me I'd snap him. Serious words with her as well.

Its not on. If she/you had nothing to hide whats the problem in telling him?

If he has a problem with her drinking with you if he has been truthfully informed, then he has the problem.

I am not an ex. :confused:

I had nothing to hide, I feel it is not my responsiblity to tell him it is hers. I told you that I was uneasy that the shopping trip was kept secret but it was to late to do anything when she told me.

Biohazard · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:53

cymatty said:
I am not an ex.

I had nothing to hide, I feel it is not my responsiblity to tell him it is hers. I told you that I was uneasy that the shopping trip was kept secret but it was to late to do anything when she told me.

Ah right, sorry cba to read it all or properly for that matter.

If I were him in that situation I'd still make a bee line for you and seriously scare you well away (considering your not actually an ex partner), that guy was a coward to walk off and then take it out on her without confronting you. If you knew the shopping trip was secret and you were unconfy, why then go meet her again after when you are bound to know the circumstances have probably not changed?

Your lucky, cause you could have ended up swallowing your teeth.... when its directly not your fault either.

cymatty · 17 Nov 2006 at 16:57

Biohazard said:
If you knew the shopping trip was secret and you were unconfy, why then go meet her again after when you are bound to know the circumstances have probably not changed?

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I knew that he would be told that I was going to the pub so that wasnt a secret. Like I said what she does in her relationship to a point is not my problem or concern, I donot want to cause problems in it so I have left it up to her now to make the best and most informed decision.