Am i being oversensitive or do i have a point here

Pawnless Endgame · 27 May 2016 at 23:48

Pretty much unanimous YANBU, OP.

If 3 people share the same language, then it's common courtesy to speak in that language when the 3 of you are together.

The Mad Rapper · 27 May 2016 at 23:49

Tefal said:
I've shagged one if that helps

There's little I can say at this point without the thread going rapidly downhill

Gratz!?

Tefal · 27 May 2016 at 23:49

Pawnless Endgame said:
Pretty much unanimous YANBU, OP.

If 3 people share the same language, then it's common courtesy to speak in that language when the 3 of you are together.

I did feel a bit mumsnet posting

But its just wound me up cause i deliberatly didnt say anything thinking it was a one off deal.

Tefal · 27 May 2016 at 23:51

They may be reading this I've just had an apologetic text O.O

If anyone askes you know nothing!

dowie · 27 May 2016 at 23:51

bringing it up later isn't ideal as then you can come across as moaning a bit thus the sensitive comment

call it out when it happens next time, as in interrupt them with a smile 'ENGLISH ONLY! come on guys I'm here too'

etc.. I used to work with a bunch of French people and initially had to put a stop to stuff like that when out of drinks on a Friday

teaboy5 said:
Nope I am with you, it's rather rude. It's the same in food shops etc when the public facing staff all speak to each other in polish for example instead of English infront of customers.

depends, not so fussed about that if they're just shouting instructions to someone else as it is easier for them... bit different to a social setting where you're excluded from the conversation by default

Randomface74 · 27 May 2016 at 23:52

S'pose you may as well shag the other one.

Pawnless Endgame · 27 May 2016 at 23:53

Tefal said:
They may be reading this I've just had an apologetic text O.O

If anyone askes you know nothing!

You have been outed

Tefal · 27 May 2016 at 23:53

dowie said:
bringing it up later isn't ideal as then you are moaning thus the sensitive comment

call it out when it happens next time, as in interrupt them with a smile 'ENGLISH ONLY! come on guys I'm here too' etc.. I used to work with a bunch of French people and initially had to put a stop to stuff like that when out of drinks on a Friday

depends, not so fussed about that if they're just shouting instructions to someone else as it is easier for them... bit different to a social setting where you're excluded from the conversation by default

Yeah thats why im not too sure if j knew they knew eacb toher well id have said something (im a sarcastic **** by nature )

But i assumed it was friend from back home so its only now im realiseing and talking abour it.

And a bit miffed

Tefal · 27 May 2016 at 23:54

billysielu said:
S'pose you may as well shag the other one.

Other one is a dude.

Randomface74 · 27 May 2016 at 23:54

excuses

Bickaxe · 28 May 2016 at 00:01

Its not you, its inconsiderate.
I told my ex (Belgian) that it's not nice when she's having a conversation with friends in her native language and someone can't join in. She understood (and it helped her English).

Some nationalities are more direct and won't change unless you say something. Even then they may not think anything of it.

Squark · 28 May 2016 at 00:05

It is rather inconsiderate of them to do that.

It's good that they've apologised.

FoxEye · 28 May 2016 at 00:10

I guess now you know how most Londoners feel when rude people start talking English to each other...

(Bad joke, maybe should have said Bradford...

)

Akagi · 28 May 2016 at 00:12

No, you have a point.

pedromaltez · 28 May 2016 at 00:25

It's rude.

I guess I am guilty of doing that too but mostly as a "conferring" thing. Like quickly checking something with a family member because it's easier. Even though they all know English too. This while someone else is present and watching. Idk, we never talk in English to each other, really. It just feels strange? Its not during a prolonged interaction with a third, it's more like while talking to a worker at a shop for example.

Tefal said:
Other one is a dude.

billysielu said:
excuses

hahaha

itchy · 28 May 2016 at 00:26

They are being highly ignorant imop.

I would not have it at all, speak English or don't ask me out for a drink.

OP has been language goose berried.

dbmzk1 · 28 May 2016 at 00:27

Very rude and inconsiderate, especially given the situation. When it's happened, both when out and at work, I polity ask them to speak English. Hasn't caused any issues, yet.

M1k3H · 28 May 2016 at 00:46

As a foreigner myself, I agree with the OP.

If it's just two of us, we'll speak Greek. If i am in the presence of a friend who is of another nationality, we'll speak in English, even between us so you know we are not bad mouthing you in secret

My gf is a bit guilty of speaking in Greek sometimes but I reply in English to force her to carry on in English.

Rimsy · 28 May 2016 at 00:47

Bickaxe said:
Some nationalities are more direct and won't change unless you say something. Even then they may not think anything of it.

I think it's multilingual people's way of saying "screw you lazy English person" without saying it. I've come across it too in the work place... its not rare!

Rifte · 28 May 2016 at 05:31

As everyone else has mentioned it's damn rude. I have had this happen to me before and I usually tell both both people that if it continues I will leave. It may make it awkward for a little while but **** it, it's no worse than your current predicament.

The only way to restore the balance here is by defecating through their letterbox.