Am i being oversensitive or do i have a point here
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100% rude, when I worked in retail management one of my rules was no language other than English was to be spoken on the shop floor, unless interpreting for a customer.
when I caught the polish girls have a chin wag in polish (this was the original problem) I counselled them in prep of disciplinary,
I also know they were standing there ****ging off customers in their foreign tongue (another polish girl told me)
no you are not sensitive, and personally I would have said something then and there, or went home.
the same applies for whispering in company, before any racist garbage.
when I caught the polish girls have a chin wag in polish (this was the original problem) I counselled them in prep of disciplinary,
I also know they were standing there ****ging off customers in their foreign tongue (another polish girl told me)
no you are not sensitive, and personally I would have said something then and there, or went home.
the same applies for whispering in company, before any racist garbage.
@Tefal
In my opinion, they were just plain rude and no, you're not being over-sensitive.
It's not quite the same, but I had a similar situation in my youth. A branch of my family were of German origin, and at family meals we'd all chat happily in English, but there'd be periodic exchanges in quickfire German, which they knew the rest of us didn't speak. Well, it took the investment of quite a bit of time over a lengthy period, but I studied German. A couple of years later, when they did it I waited for a suitable comment, and then joined in. The chagrin was obvious on their faces, especially when I refused outright to tell then how long I'd understood what they were saying, which in reality wasn't that long, but I let their imagination roam free on just how long it may have been.
The expressions on their faces as the tried to remember what they may have previously said thinking it was private was priceless.
Learning your friends language might be a tad extreme, but a bit of effort in picking up a basic vocabulary, and then, making it clear you understood some of what they were saying, then 'pretending' you really don't understand and, as I did, being very coy about just how much you do or don't understand, should put a stop to their antics.
The objective is not to understand them, or to convince them you do. It's to undermine their over-confidence that you don't. It's to plant seeds of doubt.
That principle, by the way, was an extremely valuable business tool for me and I'm extremely grateful to my German family for unwittingly giving me such an edge, by planting the idea. For at least 15 or 20 years, I made sure that business contacts whose language I actually knew pretty well were convinced I knew nothing more that hello or goodbye. You'd be astonished at what you can learn if you keep a blank expression, no matter what they say.
Even normally guarded and cautions people can be remarkably unguarded if they're over-confident.
In my opinion, they were just plain rude and no, you're not being over-sensitive.
It's not quite the same, but I had a similar situation in my youth. A branch of my family were of German origin, and at family meals we'd all chat happily in English, but there'd be periodic exchanges in quickfire German, which they knew the rest of us didn't speak. Well, it took the investment of quite a bit of time over a lengthy period, but I studied German. A couple of years later, when they did it I waited for a suitable comment, and then joined in. The chagrin was obvious on their faces, especially when I refused outright to tell then how long I'd understood what they were saying, which in reality wasn't that long, but I let their imagination roam free on just how long it may have been.
The expressions on their faces as the tried to remember what they may have previously said thinking it was private was priceless.
Learning your friends language might be a tad extreme, but a bit of effort in picking up a basic vocabulary, and then, making it clear you understood some of what they were saying, then 'pretending' you really don't understand and, as I did, being very coy about just how much you do or don't understand, should put a stop to their antics.
The objective is not to understand them, or to convince them you do. It's to undermine their over-confidence that you don't. It's to plant seeds of doubt.
That principle, by the way, was an extremely valuable business tool for me and I'm extremely grateful to my German family for unwittingly giving me such an edge, by planting the idea. For at least 15 or 20 years, I made sure that business contacts whose language I actually knew pretty well were convinced I knew nothing more that hello or goodbye. You'd be astonished at what you can learn if you keep a blank expression, no matter what they say.
Even normally guarded and cautions people can be remarkably unguarded if they're over-confident.
Are you sure you've even got English down?
Wow, this actually makes you seem oversensitive
So, the friend you met at a party is female, and you have slept with her. You arrange to meet for a day, only for her to bring another guy along and have secret conversations with him all day? Good lord. Either he's on the same terms with her as you are, or she wants him to be - depending of course on any obvious physical attractiveness/sexual preference factors (as in, is he gay?) which could make the previous completely void
Id be more inclined to assume that Tefal slept with the dude.
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We have a policy at work that everyone must only speak in English to prevent this situation from occurring.
Sounds like some s***ty 'friends'. I wouldn't waste time with them.
Sounds like some s***ty 'friends'. I wouldn't waste time with them.
You should have given both of them a universal bitch slap on the cheek and walked off.
Very rude though.
So, the friend you met at a party is female, and you have slept with her. You arrange to meet for a day, only for her to bring another guy along and have secret conversations with him all day? Good lord. Either he's on the same terms with her as you are, or she wants him to be - depending of course on any obvious physical attractiveness/sexual preference factors (as in, is he gay?) which could make the previous completely void
No he's an older gay crossdresser shes known for years.
So not really a competition thing lol