Am i being tight ( gf related thread )?

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yes you are being tight. the woman pays for nothing coz you own her then.

;)

i just think like you are - not expecting much from it but the offer would be nice....
 
My own sense of independence would render me pretty embarrassed to be completely paid for...

I'd certainly offer and try not to look too disappointed when he agrees to our going Dutch ;)

Actually, presuming you keep choosing where to go, it's a bit difficult to force upon her half of the bill, depending on how pricey you like these things.

Maybe next time, tell her you're struggling to find the money to take her out as often as you'd like - and so maybe she'd like to pick a place where she can comfortably pay half the bill or pick up the drinks to help you out.
 
dal said:
OK latest on this : Last night we was suposed to go out for meal but ended up getting take away ( baby sitter let us down ) I paid as usual for the chinese + bottle of wine total cost = £30
I commented on the chinese costing £21 thinking she might say do you want somthing towards it but nothing was said.
I have since found out that she has practically nothing in her bank account but is getting paid Tuesday so she may be a little bit more willing to pay after then. She does only work part time as nursery nurse so we wont be on much money, still dont think I should have to pay for everything though.
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What did you order that cost £21 at the chinese for 2 people!
 
As your paying for everything just put it in the wrong hole. That will learn her :D.

But really if your worried have a word with her just say that you dont mind paying so far but would be nice if she could pay halfs equal rights and blah blah. If she is just cashing you as meal voucher do you really want to see her for the rest of your life :D
 
Just ask if she wouldn't mind getting her half?

If she kicks up a fuss then tell her you're not a mug who's going to be paying for everything.

I agree it's nice if they offer (even if they have no intention of actually paying for it), so that you can then 'treat' them. Lets you know they do actually appreciate that things cost money.

Obviously if your half was much more expensive than hers make up for it ofc.

Edit: Saw your post above. Perhaps you can go to a supermarket and cook something together. Much cheaper and something to do. Then make her wash up ;)
 
Duggan said:
If she is just cashing you as meal voucher do you really want to see her for the rest of your life :D
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Not at all.

She knows that I currently live with my parents and work full time so therefore am finacially in a much better position than her but I still think she should pay somthing. I think I'll have to have a word as some on here have suggested as see what occurs, might have to let this one go before it becomes too expensive.
 
Even if I was worse off than somebody who had taken me out I would still want to try and do something for them even if it was just buying them a drink, paying for the parking or something. To make it clear what they've done is appreciated. I don't think you're in the wrong at all. You don't 'owe' her anything.
 
Personally, I wouldnt say anything yet.

Leave it alone for a few more times and if it continues then maybe say something. But it is only 3 dates so.
 
dal said:
Not at all.

She knows that I currently live with my parents and work full time so therefore am finacially in a much better position than her but I still think she should pay somthing. I think I'll have to have a word as some on here have suggested as see what occurs, might have to let this one go before it becomes too expensive.
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I thought you said she was skint at the moment, wait until she gets paid at least and see what happens then.
I really do think you are over analysing things after only a few dates!
 
A lot more beta males on OcUK this evening. More than usual.

I'm usually just like "yo, it's your turn to buy the round".

Simple - implies fairness and equality. Root and boot -> job done.
 
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