Another Relationship thread

Stinky said:
meeting her at 4 prob isnt the best move i've ever made is it :o
Click to expand...
No its not, you need some time and space where you dont communicate. Otherwise you will still have that tiny bit of hope she might change her mind.

I havent seen my ex for a month now, and because it was me who broke up with him, id find it easier to see him (because I had made my mind up to do it so got myself ready for it before) whereas he is still avoiding situations where he might bump into me. I dont want to ring to check hes ok because I dont want to put him back to square one, while he sorts himself out. Plus the way he is being toward my other mates is making me feel less inclined to do that.

Dont see her today, give yourself (and her too) some space and time to find yourselves again.
(just my advice mind)
 
you mean the age of 4? as in you're

a) a pedophile
or
b) childhood friends
or
c) you met her at 4 in the morning? At a burger bar? On Putney Bridge?

I think c) is the worst you could have possibly done :p

Oh I get it, your going to meet her in 3 and a half hours!
Silly me. No it's not the best idea at all.

Panzer
 
Stinky said:
meeting her at 4 prob isnt the best move i've ever made is it :o
Click to expand...
Make sure you go with a clean head and know what you want and tell her that. I was best friends with my ex for about 3 years before we started a 'relationship' now she's off with some other guy and she still says to me 'i still want to be your best friend' it doesn't work like that at all. She's moved on with someone else while I'm still here with the same feelings for her. I spent a couple of months trying to be her friend and found it too hard as all I wanted to do is just be with her.

Now I've cut as much contact as I can, and (we're off to uni in september) she'll be breaking up with her boyfriend in the summer; so I might reappear for her then. Don't make it hard for yourself.
 
knip said:
No its not, you need some time and space where you dont communicate. Otherwise you will still have that tiny bit of hope she might change her mind.

I havent seen my ex for a month now, and because it was me who broke up with him, id find it easier to see him (because I had made my mind up to do it so got myself ready for it before) whereas he is still avoiding situations where he might bump into me. I dont want to ring to check hes ok because I dont want to put him back to square one, while he sorts himself out. Plus the way he is being toward my other mates is making me feel less inclined to do that.

Dont see her today, give yourself (and her too) some space and time to find yourselves again.
(just my advice mind)
Click to expand...

i see what your saying.

i mean i really want to friendship we had before but obviously when she meets someone else its gong to hurt lol
 
Stinky said:
i mean i really want to friendship we had before but obviously when she meets someone else its gong to hurt lol
Click to expand...
Damn bloody right it does! It kills. What you need to do now is preoccupy yourself with things, make sure you're busy and out and about, as much as it might hard to seem, unless you're a miracle worker things aren't going to go back to how they were.
 
My best advice would be to grab a bunch of mates and do something for the day. Go for a bike ride, go swimming or something. Get out of the house with a good bunch of friends and forget about her for a bit.

Then go down the pub tonight and get a few beers on board :)

My house mates took me swimming in the sea in the middle of January when I split up with my ex (2006 not this January just gone) helped no end. Puts things in perspective.



Panzer
 
knip said:
Well I broke up with my bloke cos he was just too god damn nice and a complete doormat, but now hes gone all weird and is saying nasty things to my mates etc etc.
Relationships stink.
Click to expand...

who do you want to go out with then? a car theif?
 
knip said:
Somebody normal, and not insecure :D
Click to expand...

being nice is normal tho, sorry if this sounds like its having a go, but I hear so many women saying "I want to find someone who treats me like a princess blah blah blah blah",

they find someone who treats them with respect, gets bored, ditches them because there too nice, then finds some waster who treats her like crap, throws her around and stays with him? :confused:

and then after all that, they say all blokes are ********* :)
 
Panzerbjorn said:
My best advice would be to grab a bunch of mates and do something for the day. Go for a bike ride, go swimming or something. Get out of the house with a good bunch of friends and forget about her for a bit.

Then go down the pub tonight and get a few beers on board :)

My house mates took me swimming in the sea in the middle of January when I split up with my ex (2006 not this January just gone) helped no end. Puts things in perspective.



Panzer
Click to expand...

i bet it did that time of the year ;)

i'm seeing her at 4, she still aint sure if she's made the right decision. maybe she;s just stringing me along. i'll figgered i will meet her and find out for myself.

after that im planning to go get trashed with the lads.

and untill then i'm at work till 4 but have viewings from 2 so thats ok ;)
 
FishThrower said:
being nice is normal tho, sorry if this sounds like its having a go, but I hear so many women saying "I want to find someone who treats me like a princess blah blah blah blah",

they find someone who treats them with respect, gets bored, ditches them because there too nice, then finds some waster who treats her like crap, throws her around and stays with him? :confused:

and then after all that, they say all blokes are ********* :)
Click to expand...

This is life unfortunately.

Seen it time and time again. However much girls deny it it is true.

The only slavage is that as girls get older they slowly mature and their hormones change. Avoid girls under 30 tbh.
 
Stinky said:
after that im planning to go get trashed with the lads.
Click to expand...

Best medicine ever. And whatever she says about "not being sure" if she's done the right thing. Don't be waiting for her answer like a dog waiting to play ball.

If she says she still likes you, "great!", then go out and get trashed.
If she says she just wants to be friends, "great!", then go out and get trashed.

Just don't be the sheep and you'll win.
 
FishThrower said:
being nice is normal tho, sorry if this sounds like its having a go, but I hear so many women saying "I want to find someone who treats me like a princess blah blah blah blah",

they find someone who treats them with respect, gets bored, ditches them because there too nice, then finds some waster who treats her like crap, throws her around and stays with him? :confused:

and then after all that, they say all blokes are ********* :)
Click to expand...
But theres nice and then theres somebody who did anything to avoid a row, if I even raised my voice slightly he would be like "Please dont shout at me"

Was insecure, if I even mentioned an ex of mine who I was still mates with, he would literally burst into tears.

Plus he was one of those "I'll do whatever you want" types who wouldnt think for himself, and believe me that gets annoying when all you want sometimes is for him to get a backbone and say "Oi bitch this is what we're doing, and if you dont like it tough"

And I couldnt just get in the door from work and sit down and do nothing, he'd be on the phone straight away (I work the same hours each day so he knew exactly what time I would be home and phone me 5 mins later) with the "what are you doing etc etc" Felt like I couldnt breath.

Plus I just wasnt physically attracted to him, so that side of things kind of didnt exist either, which isnt me at all.

I dont want somebody to be mean to me, I do want someone who can be independent and think for themselves outside of me, believe me it gets very suffocating.
 
I can actually see why that'd be damn annoying. You at least want someone who can think for themselves.
 
maybe we should meet up ;) lol kidding.

well im not planning on been the bitch this time, i've done that before with my other ex who i was with for 3 years. i just felt like a complete muppet after. i've lernt from that. ;)

so im hoping that i will go meet her, get things sorted either way.

go get trashed :D
 
D.P. said:
Must be where I'm going wrong. :(
Click to expand...

same lol


i just spoke to her on the phone and she said she still has the same feelings, but bacause see is joining the RAF she wont get to see me much, with going to the gym, working away with RAF at weekends etc. fair point but its still hard.

on another note, the night has been sorted, start with a few beers at mine and a bash on the PS3 then out to get trollyed :D
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom