Another Relationship thread

Stinky said:
i just spoke to her on the phone and she said she still has the same feelings, but bacause see is joining the RAF she wont get to see me much, with going to the gym, working away with RAF at weekends etc. fair point but its still hard.
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doesnt sound like a fair point to me, sounds like she is just making excuses

either way, she clearly doesnt feel the same to you like you do to her, so basically it wouldnt have lasted anyway, be happy its over now, so you can meet someone else who does feel the same way, and havent lost any more time :)
 
thats it i guess your right

o well, i will try and stay good mates. what will be will be though. end of the day if we was ment to be together it will work
 
Stinky said:
thats it i guess your right

o well, i will try and stay good mates. what will be will be though. end of the day if we was ment to be together it will work
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The first thing to get into your head is that you will be 'happy' again one day, however unlikely it looks at the time. I thought "i will never be happy again" when i broke up from my first serious relationship. But a few months later i found myself getting close to someone i never thought i would. Eventually we ended up giving things a go and i could say i was 'happy' once more. As things turn out, that relationship wasn't meant to be, but you just need to get on with things and don't give up on the future.

(Sorry about the 3 posts)
 
i totally agree its just getting your head round that bit lol.

i never thought we would get together you never know what will happen though do you.
 
Been there, done that.

It'll never be the same again either way.

Find someone else, get ******ed / trashed / trolleyed / muntered.
 
ots3go said:
It'll never be the same again either way.
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Yeah, thats true. If you did get back with her then would it really be the same? It will always be in the back of your mind. However, i know people who have made it work a 2nd time. But, in the end it ended the same way. Then you are back to square one.
 
topgun06 said:
:confused: huh? Yeh, I would say that if you loved someone you were their friend also? :confused:
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Thats why I find the situation in the OP a paradox, but as we know little about the girl in question we won't really know why.

Edit: Apologies if you thought I was aiming that at you, but it seems the same recycled garbage makes it into every break-up thread on the first page, thus I end up missing the more constructive\interesting\thoughtful posts.
 
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sr4470 said:
Heh, I can't be the only one in existence here who can be a friend and a lover to the same person.
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When I was going out with my ex we were best friends, just as we were before anything ever happened, but now afterwards I still lust after her and still want to be with her so as much as I'd love to be friends I'm just kidding myself; I thought if I stuck around she might change her mind, I can't just be her friend now If I haven't moved on.

Bring on Uni when I can move on and be her best friend again tbh because we have everything in common (liked the same uni, chose it and only realised after when we'd talked about it).
 
RandomTom said:
When I was going out with my ex we were best friends, just as we were before anything ever happened, but now afterwards I still lust after her and still want to be with her so as much as I'd love to be friends I'm just kidding myself; I thought if I stuck around she might change her mind, I can't just be her friend now If I haven't moved on.

Bring on Uni when I can move on and be her best friend again tbh because we have everything in common (liked the same uni, chose it and only realised after when we'd talked about it).
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I guess I don't really know how it feels, none of my past relationships really earned the title or had any meaning to them. But it does fuel my determination to keep what I have now, no matter how hard it gets.
 
When i split up with my last ex i found it hard to just be her friend. It took some getting used to, still is in a way.

Its hard to just give up all the things you used to enjoy with her. "You never know what you've got till its gone". You realize all the things you took for granted which you wont experience now you are just her friend.

But you cant regret what you've done, just be glad that you did actually have something together and eventually you will find it easier to just be her friend.
 
Stinky said:
i just spoke to her on the phone and she said she still has the same feelings, but bacause see is joining the RAF she wont get to see me much, with going to the gym, working away with RAF at weekends etc. fair point but its still hard.
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Stinky this is going to hurt but... she just doesn't fancy you in the way you do her. It happens to everyone at some point, and there's plenty of other women out there that will snap you up. Stay away from her for a bit (couple of weeks would be good at the very least) and get your head together... then next time you speak to her act cool and treat her as a friend.
 
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